# "Documented" cases of man viewing porn, discovering daughter or son performing in it? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [January 29, 2006, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099 "2006-01-29T18:35:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/21 "2006-01-30T05:55:47Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > As an avid fan and participant of the sport of breast-sucking, I resent that statement. Something tells me it was the Ron Jeremy part that was icky, not the breast-sucking. ---
**Author:** ![Boo\_Boo\_Foo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e274bd/32.png) [@Boo\_Boo\_Foo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boo_Boo_Foo)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/22 "2006-01-30T06:17:02Z")
I was at a nightclub the other week and some bloke was introduced to me who owned some other bar and club down the street. He had his arms around one of the girls I was with and he pulled her top down with a sly grin to expose her breast. The girl didn’t seem to mind too much. I said to him… “Man, there is simply no way I could ever do that without my face getting slapped!” and he said something about it’s all in the way you go about it blah blah blah. I looked at the girl and she kinda looked a bit of a lost soul to be honest. I got to thinking about it during the week. In the context of this thread, my little girl is only 3 years of age, but it occurred to me that if my daughter ever felt it was perfectly OK for some guy to pull down her top in a nightclub and expose her breast, I’d be really disappointed in my efforts as a dad, you know? I mean, it’s all about self esteem, in my opinion. No woman with any self esteem should accept that sort of behaviour. And that’s the way I feel about appearing in porn too. That being said, I’ve seen my share of porn over the years so clearly I have double standards. ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/23 "2006-01-30T06:18:54Z")
I don’t know of family members discovering it, but there was a documented case of University of Indiana dorm residents recognizing their dorm in a porn flick (though none of the practitioners) and somehow it came to the attention of the powers that be at Ft. Benning that some of their privates were making money with their privates for a local gay porn producer (in a highly successful series of videos at that). ---
**Author:** ![Omniscient](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omniscient/32/3290_2.png) [@Omniscient](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omniscient)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 6:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/24 "2006-01-30T06:28:09Z")
It’s pretty common when hearing porn stars interviewed on radio shows and in magazines for them to discuss if their parents knew or not. In many cases the answer is something along the lines of “I never told them, but one of my dad’s friends clued him in.” Certainly this is a long ways from documented evidence, but it doesn’t stretch credibility IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 6:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/25 "2006-01-30T06:54:10Z")
Sunny McKay’s career was covered on one local prime-time “current affairs” show many years ago, and her parents appeared in the interview saying they watch all her work. They then showed good ol’ Mom and Pop sitting on the couch apparently watching one of her videos and making comments like “Her hair looks good like that, doesn’t it”. Very disturbing indeed - that’s the only explanation I have for her name being burned into my brain. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/26 "2006-01-30T08:18:27Z")
> [@Boo Boo Foo](#): > > I got to thinking about it during the week. In the context of this thread, my little girl is only 3 years of age, but it occurred to me that if my daughter ever felt it was perfectly OK for some guy to pull down her top in a nightclub and expose her breast, I’d be really disappointed in my efforts as a dad, you know? I mean, it’s all about self esteem, in my opinion. No woman with any self esteem should accept that sort of behaviour. And that’s the way I feel about appearing in porn too. > > That being said, I’ve seen my share of porn over the years so clearly I have double standards. Well, I’m glad you at least understand that you have a double standard. A lot of people with your feelings don’t recognize that they have one. My feeling is, if they’re good enough for you to lust about and so forth, they’re good enough for your respect. If you can’t respect the women in the sex industry, don’t watch porn, go to strip clubs or patronize hookers. This is probably the least followed advice in the world. The thing is, if guys would just respect women in the sex industry, there wouid be no double standard. But any amount of hypocrisy, rather than that. ---
**Author:** ![Dubious\_Weasle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b782af/32.png) [@Dubious\_Weasle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dubious_Weasle)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/27 "2006-01-30T14:19:09Z")
> [@ronincyberpunk](#): > > I found a friend doing amateur stuff online… not to mention I have a friend who got in the **ACC** Playboy issue, and hell I’ve got a friend who is a cameraman out in Porn valley… But I don’t know of anything like the OP asked. Okay, I’m tired and the portion of my brain that handles acronyms burned out 4 hours ago but are you telling me that there was an Air Combat Command issue of playboy? Bolding mine obvious. Now that’s an issue I’d definitely want to hunt down. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/28 "2006-01-30T14:40:40Z")
Several of my former students have gone one to careers in the sex industry. One, who keeps in touch with me, works as a dominatrix and stripper. Her parents don’t know, according to her. An old live-in GF of mine is apparently doing amateur stuff. I can only presume her parents, who are devout old-fashioned Roman Catholics, do not know. ---
**Author:** ![Weirddave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/919ad9/32.png) [@Weirddave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weirddave)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/29 "2006-01-30T14:49:17Z")
> [@Dubious Weasle](#): > > Okay, I’m tired and the portion of my brain that handles acronyms burned out 4 hours ago but are you telling me that there was an Air Combat Command issue of playboy? > > Bolding mine obvious. Now that’s an issue I’d definitely want to hunt down. I suspect that what he’s referencing is one of their college issues-featuring the girls of the **A** tlantic **C** oast **C** onference. ---
**Author:** ![middleman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9a140/32.png) [@middleman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/middleman)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/30 "2006-01-30T14:52:51Z")
> [@Dubious Weasle](#): > > Okay, I’m tired and the portion of my brain that handles acronyms burned out 4 hours ago but are you telling me that there was an Air Combat Command issue of playboy? > > Bolding mine obvious. Now that’s an issue I’d definitely want to hunt down. Girls from Atlantic Coast Conference schools. (e.g.- Duke, UNC, etc.) ---
**Author:** ![smiling\_bandit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@smiling\_bandit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smiling_bandit)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/31 "2006-01-30T15:04:28Z")
It’s unconfirmable, but suypposedly during the chaos of Weimar Berlin, one gentleman hired a pimp to send a prostitute to his room one night, only to find out it was his own teenage daughter! ---
**Author:** ![Asylum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/53a042/32.png) [@Asylum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asylum)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/32 "2006-01-30T18:24:37Z")
> [@Boo Boo Foo](#): > > That being said, I’ve seen my share of porn over the years so clearly I have double standards. I don’t think that’s a double standard. Persumably the girl in the nightclub wasn’t asked if it was okay to have her breast exposed, the guy just did it. That is disrespectful on the part of the guy who did it, regardless of whether or not the girl minded after the fact. OTOH, women in porn, presumably, have consented in advance to baring their all in public. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/33 "2006-01-30T18:45:05Z")
> [@Boo Boo Foo](#): > > I was at a nightclub the other week and some bloke was introduced to me who owned some other bar and club down the street. He had his arms around one of the girls I was with and he pulled her top down with a sly grin to expose her breast. The girl didn’t seem to mind too much. > > I said to him… “Man, there is simply no way I could ever do that without my face getting slapped!” and he said something about it’s all in the way you go about it blah blah blah. I looked at the girl and she kinda looked a bit of a lost soul to be honest. > > I got to thinking about it during the week. In the context of this thread, my little girl is only 3 years of age, but it occurred to me that if my daughter ever felt it was perfectly OK for some guy to pull down her top in a nightclub and expose her breast, I’d be really disappointed in my efforts as a dad, you know? I mean, it’s all about self esteem, in my opinion. No woman with any self esteem should accept that sort of behaviour. And that’s the way I feel about appearing in porn too. > > That being said, I’ve seen my share of porn over the years so clearly I have double standards. Chris Rock says that as a father of a little girl his main job is to keep her off the pole. Words to live by. ---
**Author:** ![Nightingale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ecae2f/32.png) [@Nightingale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nightingale)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/34 "2006-01-30T19:59:19Z")
A girl I know is actually going to be the Playmate of the Month in April. Her parents know; I think Playboy may even have interviewed them. ---
**Author:** ![flight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbce88/32.png) [@flight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flight)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/35 "2006-01-30T20:58:21Z")
> [@smiling bandit](#): > > It’s unconfirmable, but suypposedly during the chaos of Weimar Berlin, one gentleman hired a pimp to send a prostitute to his room one night, only to find out it was his own teenage daughter! There are a lot of [tales](http://snopes.com/risque/hookers/hookers.htm#daughter) like that. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2006, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/36 "2006-01-30T21:50:09Z")
> [@smiling bandit](#): > > It’s unconfirmable, but suypposedly during the chaos of Weimar Berlin, one gentleman hired a pimp to send a prostitute to his room one night, only to find out it was his own teenage daughter! Gah, I’d forgotton about this until you mentioned it… at my Dad’s H.S. reunion, there was an old classmate of his there that had gone to a convention in town some years before, he and two others had some prostitutes come up, and in walked three women, one the conventioneer’s wife. ---
**Author:** ![ElvisL1ves](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5daacb/32.png) [@ElvisL1ves](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ElvisL1ves)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2006, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/37 "2006-01-31T15:22:16Z")
You want documented cases? Well, there’s the Simpsons episode where Skinner is about to marry Agnes. For his bachelor party, the stripper’s manager advertises “If we send your daughter, it’s free!” He wouldn’t have a policy if it never happened, right? Then there’s the Twin Peaks episode where Sherilyn Fenn’s character (who can tie a knot in a cherry stem with her tongue) is working at One-Eyed Jack’s under a pseudonym, and almost gets her own father as a client. See? It happens. ---
**Author:** ![smiling\_bandit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@smiling\_bandit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smiling_bandit)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2006, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/38 "2006-01-31T15:27:05Z")
> [@flight](#): > > There are a lot of [tales](http://snopes.com/risque/hookers/hookers.htm#daughter) like that. Yes, but this one was _contemporary_ in Weimar Berlin. ---
**Author:** ![Pushkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ee59a6/32.png) [@Pushkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pushkin)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2006, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/39 "2006-01-31T15:50:28Z")
I remember such a case from a woman’s magazine in the UK, a daughter was discovered to be a porn actress when her parents popped a tape in the VCR infront of some guests. That’s about as documented as I can remember 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2006, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099/40 "2006-01-31T16:35:44Z")
> [@Pushkin](#): > > I remember such a case from a woman’s magazine in the UK, a daughter was discovered to be a porn actress when her parents popped a tape in the VCR infront of some guests. > > That’s about as documented as I can remember 🙂 You wrote it here so now it’s documented. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/documented-cases-of-man-viewing-porn-discovering-daughter-or-son-performing-in-it/342099.md?page=3)