If you enjoy playing partnership Spades seriously or competitively, you would likely find Bridge to be a very compelling “upgrade”. Once we started playing Bridge we never played Spades again (though we did often play Hearts).
For one, the bidding involves naming the trump suit (or No Trumps), which adds a whole new dimension to the game (so much so that entire books are written about bidding – even specific scenarios of bidding). For another, there is a “dummy” hand when the auction ends, so that the “offensive” side (who wins the auction) has a “declarer” who directs the cards from half the deck (his own and his partner’s, laid face-up on the table), which the two “defenders” (who are trying to defeat the contract) likewise get to see.
If you think it’s grand to pull off the seemingly impossible against your opponents at Spades, doing it as declarer one-on-two (as it were) is a real thrill. Especially when you intentially execute strategies with esoteric sounding names such as "trump coups, “strip squeezes” and “endplays”. (Awww, yeah.)
Anybody who wants to talk about learning or improving at bridge should feel free to contact me. I can recommend many good books for beginners and intermediate players, and hopefully good advice/guidance if you want that as well.
As for me and how I came to the game: I’m 35 and I started in High School, where at least 8 of us became avid players after reading about it out of a book (one of those “rules to 500 card games” type of books). We were already avid card players wasting our lunchtimes and afterschool hours on games like Gin, Casino, Rummy 500, Hearts and Spades (but not Poker for some reason) for 2 or 3 years before “graduating” to bridge.
In college I started going to the bridge club, mostly populated by technical folks in the sciences and especially foreign grad students. That’s also when I found out that there was a lot to learn about the game that isn’t covered in a 10-page guide to the rules and simple concepts.
I played competitive duplicate bridge quite avidly for the next 10 years, and got pretty good at it though not quite to the expert level. Then I got married and had children, and so did all my regular bridge partners, some of who also moved far away, and now it’s down to one or two sessions a year.
As for the “recriminations phase”: Bridge is a partnership game (the title of a book in fact), and as such you can be the best player in the world and still finish “under par” for the hand (versus expected or possible results) if your partner screws up. People who play this game often put their ego on the line and will sometimes react to this badly. The best players already know their level and will not ever berate partner at the table; the time for lessons for a junior partner or working out detailed agreements is after the opponents have left.
It is worth noting that most abusive partners are usually wrong in some or most of their analysis and are usually drawing attention away from their own mistakes by going on the attack (e.g. “if you had played the THREE and then the TWO to give correct count I wouldn’t have thought your hand was 5-4-2-2 in shape and wouldn’t have tried to give you a ruff, which resulted in giving away the crucial trick…” when in fact the hand was clearly not that way by any number of other clues). If you hook up with one of these types, it is simple: don’t play with them again, even (or especially) if it is someone who is otherwise a friend or even spouse.