# Does anyone want to send a card to START? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 19, 2005, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912 "2005-02-19T17:45:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Elysian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c77e96/32.png) [@Elysian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elysian)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2005, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/1 "2005-02-19T17:45:57Z")
He’s given me an address he can be contacted at, but (obviously) doesn’t want to have me post it openly on the internet. If you want to send a sympathy card, please email me. It’s in the profile (suforan @ yahoo . com). Thanks guys. I think it may be really helpful to his family to know that we all care. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2005, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/2 "2005-02-19T18:49:18Z")
Email sent. Good thread idea, **Elysian**. ---
**Author:** ![gardentraveler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gardentraveler/32/3576_2.png) [@gardentraveler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gardentraveler)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2005, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/3 "2005-02-19T19:05:14Z")
Just sent you mail. Thanks for organizing this, **Elysian**. GT ---
**Author:** ![foxymoron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d26b3c/32.png) [@foxymoron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foxymoron)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2005, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/4 "2005-02-20T01:49:48Z")
I emailed you a little earlier. Thanks for posting this. ---
**Author:** ![Ink\_a\_dink\_a\_dink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ec9cab/32.png) [@Ink\_a\_dink\_a\_dink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ink_a_dink_a_dink)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2005, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/5 "2005-02-20T02:59:49Z")
Mail sent. Thanks for the idea. Inky ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2005, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/6 "2005-02-20T04:15:44Z")
What happened? ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2005, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/7 "2005-02-20T04:18:02Z")
His brother died, **Sattua**. > **[I pit the worst day of my life FEBRUARY 11 2005](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=301951)** > > I was having the best sleep of my life when early this morning my step dad bangs on my door and tells me to get out of bed and get dressed. I didn’t want to wake up it felt like it was still night and I asked him why and he told me that an ambulance... Has anyone gotten a response from **Elysian** yet? ---
**Author:** ![foxymoron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d26b3c/32.png) [@foxymoron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foxymoron)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2005, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/8 "2005-02-20T05:39:43Z")
> [@Silver Fire](#): > > Has anyone gotten a response from **Elysian** yet? Not yet. Mail’s not going out until Tuesday anyway, because of President’s Day. I can’t decide how to sign the card. “To the family of…” and sign my family name? Should I put a note in for **START** so he knows it’s from a Doper? This is tricky etiquette. ---
**Author:** ![rjk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ed655f/32.png) [@rjk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rjk)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2005, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/9 "2005-02-20T14:37:22Z")
Mail sent. ---
**Author:** ![Elysian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c77e96/32.png) [@Elysian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elysian)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2005, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/10 "2005-02-20T16:53:28Z")
Sorry no response yet! I’ve been busy. I will respond to you all in _one minute_. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2005, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/11 "2005-02-20T19:38:11Z")
> [@foxymoron](#): > > Not yet. Mail’s not going out until Tuesday anyway, because of President’s Day. Whoops! Good catch. 🙂 I’m not really sure what the Miss Manners answer is to your problem (“Really! When someone you’ve only ever met online, whose family you don’t know from Adam, loses a loved one, you simply…”), but I like the idea of sending a card to START’s whole family, with a personal note or small card just for START. I’m thinking his parents could probably use some love, too, y’know? Granted they don’t know us either, but words of encouragement are words of encouragement, IMO, and, well… I really just don’t know. I can’t imagine what his mother must be feeling. Too sad. Got my response from **Elysian** , btw. ---
**Author:** ![PinkMarabou](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ec9cab/32.png) [@PinkMarabou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PinkMarabou)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/12 "2005-02-21T00:30:35Z")
**Elysian** , could you pretty please forward me his address? I never asked him and didn’t want to overstep my boundaries. Sorry, I should have asked you yesterday, but I forgot. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Amazon\_Floozy\_Goddess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/779978/32.png) [@Amazon\_Floozy\_Goddess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amazon_Floozy_Goddess)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-anyone-want-to-send-a-card-to-start/290912/13 "2005-02-21T04:31:12Z")
Does anyone know what his actual name is? It’d be kind of weird writing “To START” on the card…