Lemur866:
Pronouns can be confusing. I think he meant: Panache and several other guys were having anonymous sex with each other. Panache knew immediately that guy was unique. That guy knew Panache was unique. Panache and his special someone both decided to stop having anonymous group sex with all the other guys, and instead have exclusive sexytime, which has continued monogamously for the last 21 years.
Either that or Panache and a bunch of guys have been having monogamous anonymous group sex with each other for 21 years.
You forgot to blame Ellen’s confusion on her hetero-normative worldview :).
(okay, i just wanted an excuse to use that word.)
Well part of the confusion was I didn’t know what gender anybody was but I suppose that doesn’t really matter, in the context! Thanks for clearing it up.