# Does sex ever feel like too much work? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 6, 2018, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925 "2018-04-06T14:09:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/1 "2018-04-06T14:09:18Z")
Everything still works, it’s just … doing the job by myself gets the same result with half the effort. I’m 41, and I never thought this would happen to me. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/2 "2018-04-06T14:15:29Z")
Yes, definitely. But the benefits are through the roof, so… 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/3 "2018-04-06T14:21:37Z")
If it’s work, you’re not doing it right. ---
**Author:** ![TheFaerie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c57346/32.png) [@TheFaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheFaerie)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/4 "2018-04-06T14:22:42Z")
You aren’t talking about sex, you are talking about getting off. If you are just having sex to get off, then you are really not doing it right. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/5 "2018-04-06T14:24:03Z")
There’s an itch I can’t scratch by myself: the lust to evoke responses in someone else’s tingly parts, to touch the places I like to look at, to have access to the sex I’m attracted to. Then there’s the floating-off-together afterglow intimacy 🙂 And no, it’s never felt “like work”. Any more than the effort of lifting fork while eating good food has felt “like work”. There have been partners in my life where things were sort of falilng apart and it felt like work of a non-physical sort to communicate, to do the little dance of interactions and interplay that might conceivably move things in that direction if she did reciprocal interactive things and neither of us ignored or pulled away. _That_ has occasionally felt like it was no longer worth taking the risks and extending the effort. Are you by any chance talking about that, or did you indeed mean the physical exertions? ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/6 "2018-04-06T14:27:40Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > And no, it’s never felt “like work”. Any more than the effort of lifting fork while eating good food has felt “like work”. I think it’s more like sometime the act of _making_ good food feels like work so you settle for a drive-thru hamburger. Fills the void fast & cheap even if it’s not as satisfying. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/7 "2018-04-06T14:30:14Z")
Prolly TMI but this is a sex thread. One of the stupidest arguments I had with my ex. I had just finished a 12 hour shift. Then came home and did more work around the house. When I finally get to bed, I was exhausted. But wifey wanted some love’n. I tried to tell her I was too tired. But she kept on. Finally, I relented and said: Well, can you just ride on top of me? Wife: Well, if you’re not gonna put any effort in, then never mind!! Me: Okay fine!! We both rolled over with our backs to each other. Lol ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/8 "2018-04-06T14:30:35Z")
**Does sex ever feel like too much work?** Only when I have to fill out all the Report Forms afterwards. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/9 "2018-04-06T14:50:11Z")
Sure, folks get tired and have hectic days. It’s life. And if you’re a lazy ass (;)), well, there you go. ---
**Author:** ![Riemann](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/riemann/32/3133_2.png) [@Riemann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riemann)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/10 "2018-04-06T14:52:49Z")
L’enfer, c’est les vagins des autres. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/11 "2018-04-06T15:16:48Z")
> [@Lizard](#): > > Everything still works, it’s just … doing the job by myself gets the same result with half the effort. I’m 41, and I never thought this would happen to me. ☹ Are you in a relationship? It’s not clear whether you’re bemoaning the work involved in finding sexual partners, or in keeping the sexual side of a relationship alive. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/12 "2018-04-06T15:34:07Z")
> [@Jophiel](#): > > I think it’s more like sometime the act of _making_ good food feels like work so you settle for a drive-thru hamburger. Fills the void fast & cheap even if it’s not as satisfying. I seldom do that either. I only shortcut away from cooking if I don’t have _time_ or I don’t have _ingredients_ available. I love cooking and it makes the eating more fun! ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/13 "2018-04-06T15:56:37Z")
Yes, but it’s necessary to do it regularly. ---
**Author:** ![Icarus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/icarus/32/72_2.png) [@Icarus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icarus)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/14 "2018-04-06T18:01:25Z")
Well, earlier in my life we were experiencing fertility issue and trying to get pregnant. As much as we liked each other, and liked sex, the frequency and “duty” nature of it did make it feel like work sometimes. ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/15 "2018-04-06T18:10:27Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > Are you in a relationship? It’s not clear whether you’re bemoaning the work involved in finding sexual partners, or in keeping the sexual side of a relationship alive. I AM in a relationship. I like her, and I get turned on, but … it’s like the fuse burns out early. It’s like I stop being turned on half way through. It’s quite disconcerting. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/16 "2018-04-06T18:15:31Z")
> [@CalMeacham](#): > > **Does sex ever feel like too much work?** > > Only when I have to fill out all the Report Forms afterwards. - "So,… **Cal** … How’s it going? Say, did you get the memo about the TPS reports? I’ll just go ahead and make sure you get a copy of that memo, M’kay."\* ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/17 "2018-04-06T18:16:13Z")
No. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/18 "2018-04-06T18:17:17Z")
Maybe you are bored. Try some sex toys or new positions. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/19 "2018-04-06T18:18:21Z")
> [@Riemann](#): > > L’enfer, c’est les vagins des autres. I’m down with OPP… ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2018, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925/20 "2018-04-06T18:35:35Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > - > > "So,… **Cal** … > > How’s it going? Say, did you get the memo about the TPS reports? > > I’ll just go ahead and make sure you get a copy of that memo, M’kay."\* Okay, at first I thought you were referring to Flypaper Reports and just got the acronym wrong: > **[The Flypaper Report](http://hoaxes.org/archive/permalink/the_flypaper_report)** > > During World War II, the illustrator Hugh Troy was given a desk job stateside. He found it excruciatingly boring. So to amuse himself he began preparing Daily Flypaper Reports in the style of standard army regulations. These were counts, printed on... But I dug a little further. This is what I get for never having watched the movie **Office Space**. I gotta fix that. > **[TPS report](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TPS_report)** > > A TPS report ("test procedure specification") is a document used by a quality assurance group or individual, particularly in software engineering, that describes the testing procedures and the testing process. > The official definition and creation is provided by the Institute of Electrical and Electronics Engineers (IEEE) as follows: > IEEE 829 – Test Procedure Specification > The Test Procedures are developed from both the Test Design and the Test Case Specification. The document describes how the ... But not right now. I’m behind on filling out my status reports. How do you know if you’re improving if you don’t compile the statistics, ya know? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-sex-ever-feel-like-too-much-work/811925.md?page=2)