# Does using teledildonics count as infidelity? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 31, 2013, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544 "2013-12-31T04:22:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/21 "2013-12-31T18:31:10Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > beats me. With the optional attachment, yes. ---
**Author:** ![Cerealbox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Cerealbox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerealbox)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/22 "2013-12-31T19:16:05Z")
It’s near cheating territory for the teledildoer and even further into that area if you’re the teledildoed. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/23 "2013-12-31T19:23:37Z")
I’m married and yes that is cheating. Either of us watching cams is cheating, any kind of sexual interaction with another person is cheating. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/24 "2013-12-31T20:25:12Z")
Depends on how emotionally attached you are to the teledildo. If you’ve got an accessory that sings “I Luh-hu-uh-uh-uh-uhvvve you!” and you respond “I Luh-uh-u-h-uh-uh-uhvve you!” right back, it’s cheating. ---
**Author:** ![Snarky\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Snarky\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snarky_Kong)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/25 "2013-12-31T20:30:24Z")
With a rando cam girl? No. Same with phone sex. With someone he knows? Yes. Same difference between porn and the cute coworker sexting. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/26 "2013-12-31T20:43:07Z")
Snarky, you don’t think phone sex is cheating? ---
**Author:** ![Cerealbox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Cerealbox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerealbox)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/27 "2013-12-31T20:45:08Z")
It’s cheating if the other person considers it cheating and you choose to be in a relationship with them. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/28 "2013-12-31T21:08:17Z")
> [@Esox\_Lucius](#): > > Sorry, no comment on the OP, but I will always remember it fondly as the first time I read the word “teledildonic”. The Bear Jamboree and the Hall of Presidents will Never be the same. “Its a Great big beautiful tomorrow! Fappin like a broken Chevrolet! There’s a great big O in your tomorrow, Hope you have WiFi, Enjoy your stay…!” ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/29 "2013-12-31T21:14:15Z")
Whether it is cheating or not will depend on the relationship. But a good rule of thumb is if you have to hide it from your partner, it is cheating. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/30 "2014-01-01T00:25:23Z")
It’s not just a teledildo! It’s a fully integrated multi-fetish artificial being! And the best part of all…he’s learning! I call him “Fister Roboto”. ---
**Author:** ![Snarky\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Snarky\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snarky_Kong)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/31 "2014-01-01T00:28:42Z")
> [@amorali](#): > > Snarky, you don’t think phone sex is cheating? No. Were talking about a pro right, and not a cute friend that the SO might have feeling for? ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/32 "2014-01-01T01:28:59Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > It’s not just a teledildo! It’s a fully integrated multi-fetish artificial being! And the best part of all…he’s learning! > > I call him “Fister Roboto”. Fister! A Milton-Bradley game… :-x ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/33 "2014-01-01T05:58:33Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > Fister! A Milton-Bradley game… :-x Nooo. A Fister-Price toy! ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 10:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/34 "2014-01-01T10:17:51Z")
> [@amorali](#): > > I’m married and yes that is cheating. Either of us watching cams is cheating, any kind of sexual interaction with another person is cheating. ^ This. > [@Snarky\_Kong](#): > > With a rando cam girl? No. Same with phone sex. I disagree. Cam sex and phone sex are cheating in the relationship I’m in because it’s sex play with another human being. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/35 "2014-01-01T16:20:12Z")
> [@Cerealbox](#): > > It’s near cheating territory for the teledildoer and even further into that area if you’re the teledildoed. Autocorrect will never be the same again. ---
**Author:** ![njtt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ecd19e/32.png) [@njtt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/njtt)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/36 "2014-01-01T16:32:35Z")
Yes. ---
**Author:** ![Snarky\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Snarky\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snarky_Kong)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/37 "2014-01-01T18:49:39Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > ^ This. > I disagree. Cam sex and phone sex are cheating in the relationship I’m in because it’s sex play with another human being. What about porn? Telling a cam girl a scenario to act out and then watching the recording? Just searching redtube for existing porn of that scenario? ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/38 "2014-01-01T19:11:30Z")
I make a distinction between porn that is basically a story/video/other depiction of image or relationship intended for mass consumption and things that imply a direct and/or exclusive relationship between two parties. For example: If Honey Bunches makes an explicit photo of herself and sells it on line to all comers that’s porn and that’s not cheating. If Jane Smith next door makes an explicit photo of herself and presents it to Mr. Jones and him alone that is not porn, that is, well, not sexting but certainly not appropriate. It’s cheating in my view. Likewise, watching a video of an explicit scenario that is made available to all on-line is not cheating. Having someone outside your relationship film her or himself in a scenario on request and presenting it solely to the requester who, again, is acting outside the bounds of an established relationship is cheating. Of course, what constitutes “cheating” and “porn” varies so your definition may well differ from mine. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/39 "2014-01-01T21:08:31Z")
> [@Snarky\_Kong](#): > > No. Were talking about a pro right, and not a cute friend that the SO might have feeling for? Just wondering if you have a problem with other pros like strippers and prostitutes? Where do you draw the line? What about someone he meets randomly and has no feelings for? Is it ok to have sex or to cam with them? ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2014, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544/40 "2014-01-01T21:11:11Z")
> [@Snarky\_Kong](#): > > What about porn? > > Telling a cam girl a scenario to act out and then watching the recording? > > Just searching redtube for existing porn of that scenario? It’s a fine line but something that is done just for that person IMHO is cheating. I think even writing erotic stories for one person would be cheating but that’s just me. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/does-using-teledildonics-count-as-infidelity/677544.md?page=3)