# Donating sperm to a friend... **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [January 1, 2003, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/donating-sperm-to-a-friend/145977 "2003-01-01T01:43:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![CastleAnthrax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecd19e/32.png) [@CastleAnthrax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CastleAnthrax)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2003, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/donating-sperm-to-a-friend/145977/21 "2003-01-02T14:10:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Redhawke.the.bard \* > \*\ ***HennaDancer** - > I suspect these are different situations. Parental rights and parental responsibilities are not necessarily the same thing. I can imagine a situation where parental rights are terminated (or forfeited in a judicial hearing, either explicitly or by failure to appear and defend his parental rights after due diligence at notice), but where the “father” still is responsible for child support. As stated above, the courts that I am aware of treat child support rights as vesting with the child, not the parent, so the parent cannot waive them. But I’m not sure, and have done no legal research on the subject. Do not take any of the above as legal advice. > \*\* The interest vesting in the child is a good point. In my friend’s case, I should have said he had all parental anythings removed. He was no longer obligated to pay child support, because in the eyes of the state (and everyone who knew the cheap bastard) that kid was no longer his daughter in any way. ---
**Author:** ![SCSimmons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e495f1/32.png) [@SCSimmons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SCSimmons)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2003, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/donating-sperm-to-a-friend/145977/22 "2003-01-02T17:09:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by yojimboguy \* > \*\*… So she finds a male who doesn’t want to be a parent, yet is willing to have sex with her til she gets pregnant … \*\* Beware of friends who have, unbeknownst to the would-be mother, had vasectomies. (1000 points to anyone who can cite the movie reference …) ---
**Author:** ![UDS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ecae2f/32.png) [@UDS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UDS)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2003, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/donating-sperm-to-a-friend/145977/23 "2003-01-02T17:23:12Z")
One other point should be borne in mind. Even if the law _now_ protects the anonymity of sperm donors and reassures them that they will have no parental obligations, we cannot assume that it will _always_ do so. It may be changed, and changed retrospectively. A parallel would be the changes in adoption laws which have occurred in some jurisdictions which allow adoptive children to identify their natural parents, even though at the time of the adoption the natural parents were told that this would not be possible. Whether such a change should be made or not is Great Debates territory, so we should avoid it here. It is enough to note that it could be made. ---
**Author:** ![Leechlord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19b73/32.png) [@Leechlord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leechlord)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/donating-sperm-to-a-friend/145977/24 "2003-01-03T07:09:42Z")
(raised my hand & wave it) “ME, I am willing to donate my sperm!!!” ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 10:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/donating-sperm-to-a-friend/145977/25 "2003-01-03T10:33:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by YWalker \* > \*\*[Here’s](http://www.divorcemag.com/news/swedish.shtml) a brief article on a Swedish man who had donated sperm to a lesbian couple in order to allow them to have a child together who was sued for child support 10 years later when the couple broke up. > > That seemed to me to be a horrible betrayal of a true friend, and a huge disincentive for anyone to “just be a nice guy” and donate sperm.\*\* Well that’ll teach you. You wanna be a dad, be a dad. Watch where you spread your sperm! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/donating-sperm-to-a-friend/145977.md?page=1)