# Don't know if this is the right place, but i need help with this girl. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 6, 2010, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739 "2010-11-06T23:24:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/21 "2010-11-07T04:04:47Z")
> [@T1r3d@fTh1sCr@p](#): > > Ok Ok, If it really matters that much I’ll use the damned shift button. Well, actually it does matter, as you’ll learn, given the community. It doesn’t break any Board rule, though. As for your user name, you can request a change. Generally everyone’s “allowed” one name change, and we generally advise people to pick the new name with care, making sure it’s something they’ll be happy with. If you want to do this you can contact an administrator. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/22 "2010-11-07T04:04:58Z")
> [@Ann\_Onimous](#): > > Delete her and move on. She obviously has. No sense beating a dead horse. > > Best of luck to you. This saved me a lot of typing. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lakai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de0a6/32.png) [@Lakai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lakai)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/23 "2010-11-07T04:32:46Z")
I agree with **MeanOldLady** , I’m not wearing any pants all day tomorrow, and neither should the OP. ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 6:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/24 "2010-11-07T06:49:08Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > Okay, I’m going to seriously try to pretend like I’m 15 again, and not poop on everyone’s parade with grown up perspective bullshit. I’m in a good mood today after waking up free of hangovers, then officially declaring it a No Pants Day. What do you mean no one wants to hear about an old lady boycotting pants? Is this “no pants & instead am wearing dresses & skirts” or “no pants or any covering below the waist”? Because if it’s the later, I am intriqued by your ideas and wish to subscribe to your newsletter. ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/25 "2010-11-07T06:50:14Z")
> [@Lakai](#): > > I agree with **MeanOldLady** , I’m not wearing any pants all day tomorrow, and neither should the OP. Ditto. I’ll tell you how it went at church. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 7:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/26 "2010-11-07T07:01:42Z")
Wait wait what? It was No Pants Day and I was not informed!? ---
**Author:** ![FrancisCastle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b4bc9f/32.png) [@FrancisCastle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FrancisCastle)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/27 "2010-11-07T07:07:02Z")
No Pants Day? Yes, please. To the OP, Facebook is a great place for keeping in touch with friends and family, and also a great place to become a stalker. If you find yourself checking in to see if she said anything about you (and she didn’t), just block her and move on to the next pretty girl you see on your wall. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![septimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/septimus/32/410_2.png) [@septimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/septimus)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 7:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/28 "2010-11-07T07:11:16Z")
> [@T1r3d@fTh1sCr@p](#): > > i added this girl on facebook because … she looked pretty Fakebook pictures can be faced, right? Why not just assume she stole the picture from a “These Russian babes want YOU!” website, and is actually a homely-looking scar-faced wench. Maybe that’ll cure your broken heart. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 7:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/29 "2010-11-07T07:53:40Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > Okay, I’m going to seriously try to pretend like I’m 15 again Sad thing is it never stops: I’m 43 and have been dealing with shit like this over the past year too. Case study: Kate. Kate (late twenties, cute enough though with a reputation of being slightly crazy) who I knew IRL was all over my FB page and chat like a rash, and emailing 10-20 times a day, for months, inviting me to her place for dinner etc. She hinted she’d like to go away with me. I was single and horny so took the bait and asked her to come away to a different city for a weekend - no ambiguity there I thought. She replied “Oh my god thank you SO much!” So away we go, get a hotel, go out for the evening - drinks then dinner then more drinks. I’m surprised to notice that I’m not getting any signals during our evening. I’m not the most perceptive of guys, but she came away with me for a weekend - surely a little flirting back would be expected? Get back to the hotel and I go into the bathroom, and come out to find she’s built a Maginot Line down the middle of the bed with the extra pillows. Outcome: bye bye Kate. I didn’t block her on FB, but she’s hidden from my feed and I haven’t spoken to her since. (Now I check and it seems she’s blocked me.) Move on, my son. There are many reasons that a girl might be like a rash on you on FB, and only a couple are ones that are romantic. P.S. No Pants Day is going strong here in the UK. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 1:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/30 "2010-11-07T13:31:40Z")
Hmm. Pretend to like a guy, and score a free trip out of town. Why didn’t I think of that? **Ted** , No Pants Days typically means celebrating your sitting around like a lazy ass in your underwear and/or robe. One can technically be in compliance with No Pants Day if one wears a skirt upon being called out, but it violates the spirit of the day. **TOJ** , feel free to turn it into a weekend long event. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/31 "2010-11-07T14:00:44Z")
[soapbox] Not all love works out. But every love teaches. OP, somewhere there’s a future GF who will love your character which was molded by each and every failed relationship you’ve ever had before you met her. Its good that you think about this girl now; it will help you learn the lessons that this relationship has taught you, what mistakes you made, and also what you did Right. But this is all academic for you, not an invite to round 2. You Still need to let the girl go & move on with your life. [/soapbox] ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/32 "2010-11-07T14:14:45Z")
> [@CatherineZeta](#): > > How long ago did this happen? Not to be rude, but I don’t really think it’s possible to “have something” with someone you only know online. Have you told your real life friends about this situation? I can understand unblocking her, but I feel like re-adding her would be odd. I would just forget about her and move on. I would agree with this. You can’t really know someone on Facebook or other online medium because all you see is the self-selected information they provide you. Sort of like looking at a marketing brochure. ---
**Author:** ![dada2fish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ccd318/32.png) [@dada2fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dada2fish)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/33 "2010-11-07T14:44:35Z")
To the OP: Shut off your computer and meet someone in real life. If that makes you uncomfortable, find out why and fix it. Join a club, find a hobby, get a social life. Sounds like your way too obsessed with a girl you don’t really know. ---
**Author:** ![may\_be\_ignorant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c5a1d2/32.png) [@may\_be\_ignorant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/may_be_ignorant)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/34 "2010-11-07T17:05:15Z")
She clearly doesnt like you. Maybe I’m wrong though, haven’t been in 7th grade for a while. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/35 "2010-11-07T17:58:39Z")
> [@MissSwitac](#): > > To the OP: Shut off your computer and meet someone in real life. If that makes you uncomfortable, find out why and fix it. Join a club, find a hobby, get a social life. Sounds like your way too obsessed with a girl you don’t really know. I partially agree; meeting someone online is fine, but you have to take it to the real world at some point if you want a complete relationship with them. In my experience (met my husband of eight years through an online dating site), the sooner you take it to the real world, the better. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/36 "2010-11-07T18:13:53Z")
First of all, **Alice the Goon** has it wrong. The proper wording should be: “I like you, do you like me? Yes/Yes.” That’ll get you the chickies. However, wherever you are right now, leave it there. Anything more will mean you’re doing something toward a relationship of some kind. So, knock it off. Best wishes, hh ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/37 "2010-11-07T18:40:17Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I partially agree; meeting someone online is fine, but you have to take it to the real world at some point if you want a complete relationship with them. In my experience (met my husband of eight years through an online dating site), the sooner you take it to the real world, the better. This time, you saved me a lot of typing. 😃 Married almost 13 years, met online, same advice. ---
**Author:** ![dada2fish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ccd318/32.png) [@dada2fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dada2fish)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/38 "2010-11-07T23:40:49Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally Posted by Cat Whisperer > I partially agree; meeting someone online is fine, but you have to take it to the real world at some point if you want a complete relationship with them. In my experience (met my husband of eight years through an online dating site), the sooner you take it to the real world, the better. I’ve been there too. Met a guy online married for 5 years, then divorced. I agree it can work, but it sounds like the OP’s got nothin’ else going on and is building up this girl he met online to something more than it is. I think he needs to get out in the real world for awhile and give cyber love a break for now. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2010, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/39 "2010-11-07T23:46:32Z")
She’s probably 47 and has a dick anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2010, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739/40 "2010-11-08T01:01:34Z")
She doesn’t like you as much as you like her, but she likes the ego-stroke that comes from having you around and teasing you. There you go. Cut her loose, move on… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-know-if-this-is-the-right-place-but-i-need-help-with-this-girl/559739.md?page=3)