# "don't mind me"? Yeah, that seems like good advice **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 5, 2019, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072 "2019-06-05T13:50:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/1 "2019-06-05T13:50:35Z")
Good choice of user name > [@How should these two scenarios be compared? (hetero v. homo)](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-should-these-two-scenarios-be-compared-hetero-v-homo/834799/21): > > […] ---
**Author:** ![HelenGawn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@HelenGawn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HelenGawn)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/2 "2019-06-05T21:17:26Z")
I’d ask what the fuck this is about, but of course… And it’s a special kind of weird to pit someone who hardly posts anything, regardless of name. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/3 "2019-06-05T21:19:26Z")
NM ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/4 "2019-06-05T21:19:31Z")
> [@HelenGawn](#): > > I’d ask what the fuck this is about, but of course… > > And it’s a special kind of weird to pit someone who hardly posts anything, regardless of name. You know… I’ve never noticed you before. ---
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/5 "2019-06-05T21:27:20Z")
> [@HelenGawn](#): > > I’d ask what the fuck this is about, but of course… > > And it’s a special kind of weird to pit someone who hardly posts anything, regardless of name. The little icon after the name in a quote will take you to the original post. What’s the minimum post frequency a target should have before it is no longer a special kind of weird to pit them over a bad post, in your opinion? ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/6 "2019-06-05T21:31:25Z")
> [@naita](#): > > The little icon after the name in a quote will take you to the original post. > > What’s the minimum post frequency a target should have before it is no longer a special kind of weird to pit them over a bad post, in your opinion? Would it be too much trouble for you to, y’know, flesh out this pitting just a wee bit. It’s all well and good to link to a single post, but without some context, it’s useless. Thanks ever so much. Mwah. ---
**Author:** ![HelenGawn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@HelenGawn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HelenGawn)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/7 "2019-06-05T21:35:41Z")
> [@naita](#): > > The little icon after the name in a quote will take you to the original post. Well, thanks for that, at least. > [@](#): > > What’s the minimum post frequency a target should have before it is no longer a special kind of weird to pit them over a bad post, in your opinion? Enough that someone else knows _who_ the fuck you’re talking about (see **TriPolar** ’s post above). ---
**Author:** ![HelenGawn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@HelenGawn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HelenGawn)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/8 "2019-06-05T21:40:50Z")
I \*am \* a drive-byer with little to offer but attempts at humor, I admit. As such, in a serious discussion when only one person has responded, it hardly seems worth it to follow up - especially when the thread has moved on by several posts. For that, I apologize to all so offended. But really? Much as I take pride in my first pitting, it’s greatly undercut by being the lamest ever. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/9 "2019-06-05T22:31:47Z")
> [@naita](#): > > The little icon after the name in a quote will take you to the original post. You know you can just put the text of the post you’re quoting directly in the OP, right? The real tragedy here is this is such a deeply lame pitting of such a deserving shitheel. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/10 "2019-06-05T22:44:15Z")
> [@HelenGawn](#): > > I \*am \* a drive-byer with little to offer but attempts at humor, I admit. As such, in a serious discussion when only one person has responded, it hardly seems worth it to follow up - especially when the thread has moved on by several posts. For that, I apologize to all so offended. > > But really? Much as I take pride in my first pitting, it’s greatly undercut by being the lamest ever. I know it’s gauche to ask, but would you mind explaining the humor in the pitted post? ---
**Author:** ![HelenGawn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@HelenGawn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HelenGawn)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2019, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/11 "2019-06-05T23:55:51Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > I know it’s gauche to ask, but would you mind explaining the humor in the pitted post? [It’s a thing.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_panic_defense#Uses_of_the_defense) Most recent cited, right here in my “liberal” hometown. > [@](#): > > James Miller of Austin, Texas used the gay panic defense at his trial following the killing of his neighbor, Daniel Spencer, in September 2015. The two were playing guitar together and drinking, and Miller testified he thought Spencer had propositioned him. The prosecution stated that Miller had stabbed Spencer in the back and that Miller showed no sign of harm, undercutting Miller’s defense that deadly force was needed because of the disparity in the two men’s sizes and ages.[92] In April 2018, a jury found Miller guilty of criminally negligent homicide, but not guilty of manslaughter and murder. **Miller received a sentence of six months jail time, 10 years probation, 100 hours of community service, and $11,000 in restitution to Spencer’s family.** (Emphasis added) Of course, “straight panic” would be ridiculously ineffective, which was part of the humor. But mostly, given that _everyone_ had stated the bleedin’ obvious, I never thought any sane non-homophobe would think anyone could be serious. I can only infer that I’m seen as an insane non-non-homophobe. > [@Miller](#): > > The real tragedy here is this is such a deeply lame pitting of such a deserving shitheel. **Miller,** I apologize. You’ve been forthcoming about your own sexual orientation, which I admire. I’m deeply sorry that I offended you. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/12 "2019-06-06T00:37:25Z")
> [@HelenGawn](#): > > Of course, “straight panic” would be ridiculously ineffective, which was part of the humor. But mostly, given that _everyone_ had stated the bleedin’ obvious, I never thought any sane non-homophobe would think anyone could be serious. I can only infer that I’m seen as an insane non-non-homophobe. Chalk it up to Poe’s law. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/13 "2019-06-06T02:13:57Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > NM You missed a golden opportunity to say: > [@](#): > > Nah, don’t mind me. ---
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/14 "2019-06-06T12:42:44Z")
> [@HelenGawn](#): > > Well, thanks for that, at least.Enough that someone else knows _who_ the fuck you’re talking about (see **TriPolar** ’s post above). I beg to differ then. I wouldn’t pit a drive-by troll, but someone who’s been around for a while, no matter how obscure, are fair game. ---
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 12:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/15 "2019-06-06T12:46:27Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > Would it be too much trouble for you to, y’know, flesh out this pitting just a wee bit. It’s all well and good to link to a single post, but without some context, it’s useless. > > Thanks ever so much. Mwah. I didn’t want to repeat their poor taste “joke” and found the juxtaposition of the user name and not repeating the content amusing. Getting context is easy for those who care, and for those who don’t … Well they either get the joy of criticizing the pitting as lame, or they get to go on with their life not bothered by an inconsequential internet post. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/16 "2019-06-06T12:50:24Z")
> [@Monty](#): > > You missed a golden opportunity to say: I just thought it was the perfect time to abbreviate “never mind”. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/17 "2019-06-06T12:52:46Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > You know you can just put the text of the post you’re quoting directly in the OP, right? > > The real tragedy here is this is such a deeply lame pitting of such a deserving shitheel. I used the quote function to get the link, so the text was there before I edited in the elision. And I’m fine with it being a lame pitting. Means less attention to a shitty post. (I know. No pitting at all would have meant zero attention. But less amusement for ME!) ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/18 "2019-06-06T14:05:34Z")
> [@naita](#): > > Getting context is easy for those who care, and for those who don’t … Well they either get the joy of criticizing the pitting as lame, or they get to go on with their life not bothered by an inconsequential internet post. Ah, but there’s a third option. Some of us will see the thread, and be confused. Unable to cope with such a new concept as emotions, we’ll click on the title, open it up in hopes of understanding. But nooooo… now we’re confused and frustrated. And we MUST get to the bottom of this. Ne’er were Holmes and Watson, or Wayne and Pennyworth faced with such a mystery. Clues, there must be clues. Links were clicked, users used, investigators investigated… and the incantation “See All Posts By” was invoked. Thanks to the follow up posts here, I now know what’s going on. But my blood pressure was dangerously erratic for a while there. ---
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/19 "2019-06-06T14:59:39Z")
> [@digs](#): > > Ah, but there’s a third option. Some of us will see the thread, and be confused. Unable to cope with such a new concept as emotions, we’ll click on the title, open it up in hopes of understanding. > > But nooooo… now we’re confused and frustrated. And we MUST get to the bottom of this. Ne’er were Holmes and Watson, or Wayne and Pennyworth faced with such a mystery. Clues, there must be clues. Links were clicked, users used, investigators investigated… and the incantation “See All Posts By” was invoked. > > Thanks to the follow up posts here, I now know what’s going on. But my blood pressure was dangerously erratic for a while there. I mean, clicking on the icon to see the post in question should be your first step. Watson probably wouldn’t think of it, but Holmes surely would, and then he’d mock Watson. “Surely you knew that […] meant the quote had been modified by the quoter, Watson? And from there it only follows naturally to click the very well known link right by the quoted users name, bringing you straight to the thread in question.” ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2019, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072/20 "2019-06-06T15:12:13Z")
> [@naita](#): > > Getting context is easy for those who care, and for those who don’t … Well they either get the joy of criticizing the pitting as lame, or they get to go on with their life not bothered by an inconsequential internet post. _snort_. Getting context would have been easier if you hadn’t edited out the post. If it was so inconsequential, why didn’t you just blow right by it. Failing other posts indicating otherwise, I’m assuming don’t mind me fell victim to Poe’s law and is not, in actual fact, a homophobe. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dont-mind-me-yeah-that-seems-like-good-advice/835072.md?page=2)