# Doper Couples
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [December 19, 2005, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316 "2005-12-19T17:41:41Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
**Page:** 1
### Author:  [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/1 "2005-12-19T17:41:41Z")
So, if you’ve read [this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=350219), you already know that my lovely wife is one of the newest members of the Straight Dope boards. A couple of folks in the thread mentioned that they wish their spouses could be talked into joining up, which set me to wondering: just how many SDMB couples _are_ there?
So if you’re part of a SD couple (spouse, significant other – whatever) here, stand up and be heard! And if you’re one of those who hasn’t been able to convince your other half to join, tell us what’s holding him or her back.
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### Author:  [@Stainz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stainz)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/2 "2005-12-19T20:03:50Z")
When we first started hanging out, **McDeath\_the\_Mad** and I were talking about midgets / dwarves / little people, and he brought up the myth(?) that they can’t clap their hands above their heads. We wondered if it was true, and he mentioned he would “Straight Dope it”.
I nodded wisely in agreement, having NO idea what he was talking about, but not wanting to appear uncool. Then he busted me, asking me if I knew what the Straight Dope was. I had to admit I didn’t. So he told me about it, I thought it sounded interesting, and I checked it out and joined a few days later.
This was about 2 1/2 years ago. Since then we fell in love, moved in together, got married, and now have a beautiful 2 month old daughter.
However, his thread about the vertically challenged wasn’t nearly as successful. 😃
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/3 "2005-12-19T20:07:51Z")
I’m part of a couple whose other half won’t join. Oh, I know he lurks around when he gets a chance. I’ve told him my username, and to look for me should he ever lurk, but all in all I prefer not having him on the boards. I like a place to talk where I can be without him.
Don’t get me wrong, I never talk badly about him (except in joking). He’s a great guy. But I like to keep this circle of friends sharply separate for some reason.
Anyway it’s moot. He has no interest whatsoever in joining. He’s never had much of an interest in meesage boards/chat rooms/IM’ing.
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### Author:  [@Hakuna\_Matata](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hakuna_Matata)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/4 "2005-12-19T21:20:14Z")
I was a member here for awhile and I convinced my girlfriend (soon to be fiance’) to join.
Bin-Gay has posted a few times, but she is like me, mainly a lurker.
We occasionally send each other links to interesting threads. I just sent her one this morning
[http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=350282](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=350282)
mainly because it scared me! 🙂 Luckily she and I think along similar lines on many issues and often can find things to relate to on this board.
In fact that is often part of our morning conversations–discussing some point or another someone made on the Straight Dope and it has led to some interesting discussions between the two of us. So even though we don’t post a lot ourselves we both enjoy this board very much.
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### Author:  [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/5 "2005-12-19T21:24:57Z")
Sharing the SDMB with your SO is a big pain in the butt when you end up breaking up. Take it from me - 2 of my exes are on here and another lurks. Makes it hard to post certain things 😛
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### Author:  [@taxi78cab](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/taxi78cab)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/6 "2005-12-19T21:30:53Z")
\*\*KeithT \*\*and I met here! It’s a great place to meet like-minded (i.e. crazy) people. 😃
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### Author:  [@Brainiac4](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brainiac4)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/7 "2005-12-19T21:32:12Z")
\*\*Dangerosa \*\*and I are married (10 years this past June). She talked me into joining shortly after she did, to comment on a PC game thread if I recall correctly. I pretty much lurked until we went subscription, though.
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### Author:  [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/8 "2005-12-19T22:11:58Z")
I tell my wife about things I’ve read here every day, and sometimes I send her links to threads. She reads them and goes back to what she was doing. I keep trying to tell her that you folks are her kind of people, and that she would enjoy the conversations. The other day, I asked her why she had such an aversion to even lurking. She replied that she didn’t have strong enough opinions on things to get into big debates or anything. I told her that that only goes on in a couple of the fora. The others are for discussing anything else.
She is an expert on anime. I know the she’d get on famously with the anime fans here. I did get her to sign up for a trial membership, to post a reply on that subject. She posted once, and her membership expired long ago. She is an admin on a role-playing game. She’d fit right in among the voracious book readers. She is learning to crochet. She is a musician, and a music teacher. She does not lack intelligent opinions or the knowledge to discuss many subjects. She is very well-spoken and well-written. We both share the same language nazi tendencies, and disdain for morons in the workplace, just like you guys. But she isn’t a member, and it doesn’t seem as though she’s going to become one anytime soon. I dunno.
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### Author:  [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/9 "2005-12-19T22:38:44Z")
My wife joined after hearing me rave about the place so much. She claims to be a DopeWidow, even though she has a Charter Membership herself. She just doesn’t post very much. Do you, **deesiresjohn**? 😃
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### Author:  [@FaerieBeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FaerieBeth)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/10 "2005-12-19T23:05:01Z")
I suppose **Stonebow** and I count as a Doper Couple, although we didn’t meet on this board. He’d been a long time lurker, in fact he’d been a lurker for almost as long as I have known him, and he introduced me to the Dope. I lurked for a couple of months, then joined to post some smart-assed remark about figure skating. He didn’t become an active member until just a couple of weeks after I joined.
We’re not prolific posters, and we don’t have much to say that’s earth shattering or even very interesting. We do however derive a great amount of entertainment from reading the various fora. He’s a fan of Great Debates, while that is the one forum I tend to avoid (I hate conflict).
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### Author:  [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)
#### Post date: [December 19, 2005, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/11 "2005-12-19T23:28:11Z")
My husband won’t join. Says that he would feel like he’s invading my space. _Meh_, say I, _you’ll like it._ No dice.
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### Author:  [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/12 "2005-12-20T00:11:26Z")
> [@FaerieBeth](#):
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> We’re not prolific posters, and we don’t have much to say that’s earth shattering or **even very interesting**.
Excuse me? Not very interesting? The **18"IBDHJD** :eek: :eek: established your DopeCreds forever!!! 😃
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### Author:  [@wonder9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonder9)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/13 "2005-12-20T00:24:59Z")
I’m a charter member who lurks more than posts and I’ve been telling my husband about the dope for YEARS. Couldn’t even get him to look at it. He said we were a cult. At some point this summer, though, he started looking around, loved what he saw and read, and joined. So…who’s in a cult now, Oslerknew?
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### Author:  [@Emeria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emeria)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/14 "2005-12-20T00:28:54Z")
myself and **percussion** are together… about a year now. He told me about the straightdope early on in our relationship. (Apparently he considers this website his little secret - not sure how many members there are in total, but considering the number of daily posts, I hardly think it’s a secret.) Anyway, he gave me a subscription for my birthday.
While not prolific posters, we tend to lurk often. (daily) 🆒
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### Author:  [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/15 "2005-12-20T01:06:54Z")
> [@FaerieBeth](#):
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> I suppose **Stonebow** and I count as a Doper Couple, although we didn’t meet on this board.
Just to clarify, I meant real life couples who both use Straight Dope – not necessarily couples who met _through_ Straight Dope.
FWIW, **Jakeline** and I met through a BBS 10 years ago this month. So we’re definitely geeks of the same ilk.
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### Author:  [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/16 "2005-12-20T01:20:24Z")
**RickQ** and I are a doper couple–the kind who even met here. 🙂 I don’t think we have ever posted in the same thread, though, after the thread where we met. We often tell each other about threads and discuss them, but are generally drawn to different threads.
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### Author:  [@Good\_Egg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Good_Egg)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/17 "2005-12-20T05:10:40Z")
> [@Stainz](#):
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> This was about 2 1/2 years ago. Since then we fell in love, moved in together, got married, and now have a beautiful 2 month old daughter.
Now called Cecilia!
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### Author:  [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/18 "2005-12-20T05:26:06Z")
inspired by your other [thread today](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=350219) **Asimovian** , I am thinking about setting my wife up as a user.
I am not sure though. She enjoys lurking and she shows no interest in posting.
I have only posted for her about 3 times. Probably not enough to join. I’ll ask her tomorrow instead of just surprising her I think.
Jim
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### Author:  [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/19 "2005-12-20T20:00:21Z")
I’m pretty sure my wife stalks me here, or at least did when you could search without being a paying member. Does that count?
As it is now, she gets all the good stuff by proxy.
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### Author:  [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2005, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-couples/336316/20 "2005-12-20T20:10:32Z")
> [@jrfranchi](#):
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> inspired by your other [thread today](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=350219) **Asimovian** , I am thinking about setting my wife up as a user.
> I am not sure though. She enjoys lurking and she shows no interest in posting.
>
> I have only posted for her about 3 times. Probably not enough to join. I’ll ask her tomorrow instead of just surprising her I think.
My wife said no don’t bother, I’m just not a joiner.
Thanks for the quick response TubaDiver. Pity it was for nothing, my wife will continue to Lurk.
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