# Doper Divorce **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 30, 2005, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-divorce/324141 "2005-09-30T02:29:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2012, 11:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-divorce/324141/41 "2012-05-24T11:52:35Z")
Wow. Seven years? I know my ex-sister-in-law’s divorce lasted six years, but only because they didn’t have the money to file. Could you enlighten us as to what exactly is the hold-up to getting on with things, especially since you said the decree was issued? ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2012, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-divorce/324141/42 "2012-05-24T12:32:13Z")
I clearly remembered this thread. It started a couple of weeks before I filed papers for my own divorce to my best friend in the world after over twelve years of marriage. I hoped that my divorce would be as friendly as this one appeared to be. Luckily, mine was. The paperwork was totally done before the six month waiting period and was totally final in Feb 2006. We are still best of friends so a truely friendly divorce, while still devistating, is possible. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2012, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-divorce/324141/43 "2012-05-24T12:38:05Z")
Actually, I had already filed six weeks prior to the OP being posted. It was two weeks before she moved out. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2012, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-divorce/324141/44 "2012-05-24T12:58:43Z")
Thanks for the update, **herownself**. We prefer that when Doper couples have off-board issues, they keep them off-board. Though **Cervaise** hasn’t been around for several years, he’s still a recognizable name here. I’m going to close this – if people want to discuss whether or not friendly divorces are possible, feel free to start a new thread. **twickster** , MPSIMS moderator ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2012, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-divorce/324141/45 "2012-05-24T21:41:08Z")
I’ve communicated with **herownself** via PM. She’s fine with closing the thread, but regrets not being able to clarify her intentions. She says: > [@herownself](#): > > Hi everyone: > > This thread is locked, and that’s probably a good thing. I had and have no intention of turning this in to a personal partisan thing, and if anyone took it that way, I’m sorry. > > I’m definitely not willing to go in to the complications and why it has taken this long and what still needs to happen. And especially not why I get mad sometimes and why I think he thinks I am evil incarnate. If I were, I would have started a new thread in the pit instead. > > So thanks for checking in, and next time you’re having one, have a round for “glad that’s not me” because I wish it wasn’t me, too! I know we all wish both her and **Cervaise** well as they finish out this painful process. **twickster** , MPSIMS moderator [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-divorce/324141.md?page=2)