# Doper women: Ever ask out a man?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-women-ever-ask-out-a-man/328639>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [October 30, 2005, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-women-ever-ask-out-a-man/328639 "2005-10-30T23:10:09Z")\
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**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\
**Post date:** [October 31, 2005, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-women-ever-ask-out-a-man/328639/21 "2005-10-31T19:22:01Z")

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_Have you ever asked out a man?_  
Yes  
_Did he accept?_  
Mostly yes.  
_If no, did you remain friends?_  
I was only friends with one or two prior to asking them out. Was more along the lines of seeing someone in some random place, liking the way they looked (yes, I was shallow that way), and saying “would you like to go grab a drink sometime?”  
_How many men have you asked out?_  
Several. It got easier when I realized I had a natural advantage. If I was being stared at, it was a pretty good bet they were already interested.

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**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\
**Post date:** [October 31, 2005, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-women-ever-ask-out-a-man/328639/22 "2005-10-31T19:34:55Z")

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**Have you ever asked out a man?**

Yes.

**Did he accept?**

Nope.

**If no, did you remain friends?**

Yes, in 1 case, no in the other.

**How many men have you asked out?**

2!

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**Author:** ![Promethea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Promethea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Promethea)\
**Post date:** [October 31, 2005, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-women-ever-ask-out-a-man/328639/23 "2005-10-31T19:48:39Z")

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Yes, I asked a man out quite recently - my boss, in fact.

Did he accept?

No. I got stunned silence until I asked ‘what gives’ a few days later. He said that although he found me attractive and enjoyed my company very much, the fact that he was my boss meant it was not to be.

I thought (and still think) it was weasel code for “I don’t return your feelings”. ☹ Shame, becuase I thought I was in with a shout, too.

Are you friends?

Yes. Although I confess that there is a bit of me that resents how he handled things. It is better to be honest so as to avoid false hope in these things, I find.

How many men have you asked out?

4!

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