# Dopers diagnosed with critical illness: advice needed

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-diagnosed-with-critical-illness-advice-needed/416525>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [August 22, 2007, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-diagnosed-with-critical-illness-advice-needed/416525 "2007-08-22T17:30:44Z")\
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**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\
**Post date:** [August 27, 2007, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-diagnosed-with-critical-illness-advice-needed/416525/21 "2007-08-27T15:18:21Z")

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When doctors started telling us that my husband was going to die (he hasn’t) the thing I wanted most from other people was sympathy without pity.

Most people seem to find it very hard not to pity the person with the illness or that person’s loved ones.

Pity, well, it’s worse than nothing, really.

Of course, I’m still angry that I got expressions of pity _at my wedding_. If I could go back in time and punch some people I would.

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