# Dopers, half of you are inexperienced, small-minded twits. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 22, 2002, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-half-of-you-are-inexperienced-small-minded-twits/99497 "2002-03-22T05:17:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![celestina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/258eb7/32.png) [@celestina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/celestina)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2002, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-half-of-you-are-inexperienced-small-minded-twits/99497/41 "2002-03-24T16:51:07Z")
Well dangit! Why can’t I seem to start a shit-storm in the Pit? [pout] I never get to have any fun. ☹ Is there a formula I should go by, or what? Oh, and **kiz** , you hang in there, dear. I’m wishing you and your momma the best in working things out. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2002, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-half-of-you-are-inexperienced-small-minded-twits/99497/42 "2002-03-24T18:49:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cheesesteak \* > \*\*A little while back, I tried out a different way of styling my hair. I wasn’t sure if I liked it or not, but was willing to give it a try, maybe it would grow on me. When asking my friends if they liked it, they all said yes, except one. He said “Your hair looks like crap.” Suffice to say, once I changed it back, all my other friends said “I didn’t really like it, but I thought you did.” Only one guy looked me in the eye and said what he really thought, no hedging, no soft words, just the truth. > \*\* Yeah, BUT, what if the situation had really been reversed? Suppose all your friends really did like it, or were at least indifferent? Your “honest” friend would’ve seemed really rude, wouldn’t he? Besides, did you restyle your hair so your friends would like it, or so YOU would like it? If it’s the latter, than it wouldn’t matter what any of them said, would it? I took the high cost of moving out as just one more reason that **kiz** was reluctant to do so, not _the_ reason. It seemed to me that she just didn’t want to confront her mother, which is a fear I think a lot of people can relate to. Telling herself that it was too expensive to move out was just a little excuse to avoid that confrontation, not a carefully thought out reason for doing anything. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2002, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-half-of-you-are-inexperienced-small-minded-twits/99497/43 "2002-03-24T21:46:09Z")
Actually, my ‘honest’ friend does get the rude label on a fairly regular basis 😃 I really made the change just because I wanted to try something different. If it looks lousy (and it did) I’m not doing myself any favors. ---
**Author:** ![kiz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7feea3/32.png) [@kiz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiz)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2002, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-half-of-you-are-inexperienced-small-minded-twits/99497/44 "2002-03-25T04:43:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by celestina \* > \*\*Well dangit! Why can’t I seem to start a shit-storm in the Pit? [pout] I never get to have any fun. ☹ Is there a formula I should go by, or what? \*\* Well, you could start a thread where inadvertently some of the replies you receive start a storm of controversy…😉 Honestly, I never thought I’d inspire another thread. I thanked everyone who genuinely gave me good advice while ignoring the other…um, “advice”…the next thing I know, **Lizard** started this thread! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-half-of-you-are-inexperienced-small-minded-twits/99497.md?page=2)