Can I make a suggestion: try narrowcasting. It’s true that the big sites may have hundreds if not thousands of members in your area, but what percentage of those are truly compatible? You’ll have to wade through tons of frogs (and scammers, and creeps, and etc.) before you find someone who’s the real deal. But there’s plenty of specialized dating sites, for environmentalists, geeks, and whatever other subgroup you want to name probably. Join a site which fits into your interests in other words.
I realize that a disproportionate number of the people on this board are atheists; however if you’re not…
I met my wife at CatholicSingles.com. If you’re Jewish there’s JDate.com. I’m sure there are other theistic sites like that if that’s something that’s important to you.
Can I assume the psycho-babble emails are pretty easy to pick out, or are some of them well written. A friend of mine (female) forwarded me one of the junk emails she got. It was very generic and very clearly designed to be sent out to many people. The scary thing is, it probably works pretty well on people that believe their horoscopes and think that the psychic phone network is the real deal. For the rest, it might be believable for a few minutes until they try to read into it and realize there’s nothing there to read into.
Anyways, I commented to her that at the very least it makes people like me stand out that much more. So…is that true? When you see a well written email that references things in your profile, has good spelling and grammar does it stand out amongst the junk mail? I’m always surprised when I email someone and they don’t even look at my profile.* I never thought that they might just be tossing it out with the other trash.
*Of course there are plenty of people who have emailed me and I haven’t looked at their profile because I remember looking at it another time and didn’t care for it then. So that could be happening as well.