# Dopers whose genders you assumed incorrectly **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 26, 2004, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478 "2004-03-26T01:33:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Ice\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@Ice\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/41 "2004-03-26T06:33:19Z")
I still get the gender confusion now and then about me. I don’t really mind, though. It’s more fun than not. ---
**Author:** ![Doomtrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/0ea827/32.png) [@Doomtrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doomtrain)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/42 "2004-03-26T06:44:43Z")
> [@Mehitabel](#): > > I pulled the **Nurse Carmen** boner once, and was mortified. I’d imagine it was he that was mortified, in that situation. ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/43 "2004-03-26T07:00:16Z")
> [@Gr8Kat](#): > > I think I assume most posters are male unless their name is very feminine. I’m wrong a lot. Heck, even _with_ a very feminine username (certainly much more feminine than my legal name) I still get called “he” around here. Why would anyone think that a poster with the name of a female monster from Greek mythology was a man? What man would choose such a name? I mean, other than **Scylla**. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![furt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/439d5e/32.png) [@furt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/furt)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 7:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/44 "2004-03-26T07:02:19Z")
I was shocked to learn about **furt**. ---
**Author:** ![Bambi\_Hassenpfeffer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Bambi\_Hassenpfeffer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bambi_Hassenpfeffer)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/45 "2004-03-26T07:16:17Z")
> [@chique](#): > > **chique** is definitely male. _What!?_ I don’t post enough to have stated publicly my assumptions, but here are some that I made and had reversed: **[ul][li]NurseCarmen[/li][li]Ilsa\_Lund[/li][li]Gaudere[/li][li]chique**, apparently\*\*[/li][li]Mehitabel\*\*, at first\*\*[/ul]\*\*[/li]These days, unless I know 100%, I rewrite to use gender-neutral language, if I can. Saves embarrassment. ---
**Author:** ![Bambi\_Hassenpfeffer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Bambi\_Hassenpfeffer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bambi_Hassenpfeffer)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 7:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/46 "2004-03-26T07:17:48Z")
Oh, and FTR, I am a guy. A 25-year-old gay guy. ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/47 "2004-03-26T07:19:49Z")
> [@](#): > > I’d imagine it was he that was mortified, in that situation. But I’d certainly have to say it’s the _definitive_ way to test for maleness. Kudos for going the extra mile. ---
**Author:** ![Tentacle\_Monster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ba9def/32.png) [@Tentacle\_Monster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tentacle_Monster)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/48 "2004-03-26T08:18:49Z")
I never thought of **Scylla** as anything but male. Of course, that has a lot to do with the fact that a) the first thread I read of his was [Goat Porn](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=33909&highlight=Goat+Porn) , and b) I’d recently read _Marathon Man_. C’mon, someone say they thought I was female. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/49 "2004-03-26T08:27:07Z")
> [@furt](#): > > I was shocked to learn about **furt**. Me too. All this time I had no idea you were gender-neutral. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/50 "2004-03-26T08:31:55Z")
**Shodan** ’s a girl?!?!?!?!? **Shirley** ’s a girl?!?!?!?!? **Ilsa\_Lund** , obviously. I thought **Gaudere** was a guy. I also thought **Zenster** was a woman, and I was perfectly sure **Hamadryad** was a man, even though I know what a hamadryad is… time for that brain transplant, methinks. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 8:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/51 "2004-03-26T08:33:29Z")
> [@Tentacle Monster](#): > > C’mon, someone say they thought I was female. I thought you were **DreadCthulhu**. It passed, though. ---
**Author:** ![furt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/439d5e/32.png) [@furt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/furt)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 8:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/52 "2004-03-26T08:47:49Z")
> [@Really Not All That Bright](#): > > Me too. All this time I had no idea you were gender-neutral. You have no idea what a pain it is in singles bars. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/53 "2004-03-26T08:49:53Z")
> [@furt](#): > > You have no idea what a pain it is in singles bars. I would have thought it makes things easier: you can drink fruity stuff _or_ a gin and tonic and nobody will question you… ---
**Author:** ![furt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/439d5e/32.png) [@furt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/furt)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 9:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/54 "2004-03-26T09:13:40Z")
> [@Really Not All That Bright](#): > > I would have thought it makes things easier: you can drink fruity stuff _or_ a gin and tonic and nobody will question you. Oh sure. But they want to hit on you, and you have to explain … and then you get the weird ones that say “That’s okay, the air of mystery is what I like about you.” Wankers. Ooooh, “mysterious.” Is it so damn difficult to apply the principle of Schroedinger’s cat to genitalia? ---
**Author:** ![VunderBob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/839c29/32.png) [@VunderBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VunderBob)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/55 "2004-03-26T12:40:59Z")
> [@Mehitabel](#): > > I pulled the **Nurse Carmen** boner once, and was mortified. He must have enjoyed that. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![TheLoadedDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@TheLoadedDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLoadedDog)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/56 "2004-03-26T13:09:35Z")
I’m actually a cat. Hey, I just reminded myself. Whatever happened to **Cougarfang?** ---
**Author:** ![dantheman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dantheman/32/9421_2.png) [@dantheman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dantheman)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/57 "2004-03-26T13:19:23Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > **Shodan** ’s a girl?!?!?!?!? > **Shirley** ’s a girl?!?!?!?!? > > **Ilsa\_Lund** , obviously. I thought **Gaudere** was a guy. I also thought **Zenster** was a woman, and I was perfectly sure **Hamadryad** was a man, even though I know what a hamadryad is… time for that brain transplant, methinks. No, **Shodan** is a _guy_. There are people in this thread who are _pulling your leg_! I didn’t know about **Bambi** , but that’s probably because I haven’t read too many posts by him. ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 1:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/58 "2004-03-26T13:28:04Z")
> [@Ilsa\_Lund](#): > > I am, of course, a guy. Intelligent and good looking to boot!😃 Let’s not forget that you’re also very modest, your most endearing quality. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/59 "2004-03-26T17:44:52Z")
OK, so **Shodan** is a guy, after all. Which is what I thought all along, which is why I was surprsied to “learn” that he was female. So what the heck convinced me that he was female? Theories? ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478/60 "2004-03-26T19:14:54Z")
I’m female, which comes as a surprise to other posters occasionally. My fault for picking an ambiguous name. Interestingly, I have come to notice that unless the poster has an obvious female name, I tend to picture them as a white male of about my own age. (thirties) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-whose-genders-you-assumed-incorrectly/236478.md?page=4)