# Dopers with horrible relationships - why do you do it. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 22, 2009, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-with-horrible-relationships-why-do-you-do-it/482513 "2009-01-22T20:14:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 55
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2009, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-with-horrible-relationships-why-do-you-do-it/482513/55 "2009-01-23T23:02:13Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > Some people aren’t happy unless they are miserable. > > That sounded ridiculous when I first heard it, forty-some years ago. Not so much now. One of our follow dopers once observed about people bitching about thier jobs: > [@Can you take a pill that will make you feel less depressed about your job?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-take-a-pill-that-will-make-you-feel-less-depressed-about-your-job/456646/33): > > Don’t be fooled into thinking that people bitching about their job constitutes hating their job. People have a certain about of bitching and moaning inside them that has to be expelled before they die. No matter how good a person’s life is, they have a preset Whining Rate that they have to keep up. If a real professional whiner were given $25 million, a mansion, free boats, servants and exemption from taxes for the rest of his life, six months from now he’d be complaining that his car-servant doesn’t wax the Lambourghini right and his Thursday hooker’s blowjobs are getting a bit predictable. But you could replace “job” with “spouse” and it still kinda works. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-with-horrible-relationships-why-do-you-do-it/482513)._