# Dopers without private messaging:  How come?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-without-private-messaging-how-come/671324>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [October 15, 2013, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-without-private-messaging-how-come/671324 "2013-10-15T16:38:59Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 5\
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**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2013, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-without-private-messaging-how-come/671324/21 "2013-10-15T22:30:11Z")

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> [@DrFidelius](#):
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> We have a PM function? Why?

Cybersex

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**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2013, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-without-private-messaging-how-come/671324/22 "2013-10-15T23:57:10Z")

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I turn it off because I don’t like people contacting me that way. It’s a public board, I don’t feel any desire to hold private conversations. It’s not just here, I tend to turn of PM/IM systems anywhere I sign up if possible.

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**Author:** ![kiz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7feea3/32.png) [@kiz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiz)\
**Post date:** [October 16, 2013, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-without-private-messaging-how-come/671324/23 "2013-10-16T00:12:04Z")

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I’ve received two PMs in all my years here, and both had to do with a baking thread over in Cafe Society that I’d missed but people evidently remembered what I do for a living 🙂

Other than that – I really don’t like to IM. I went through a period where I spent hours IM’ing to the extent that other more important things fell by the wayside. I’ll IM if I have something urgent to say, but that’s it. Otherwise I’m quite happy emailing.

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**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\
**Post date:** [October 16, 2013, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-without-private-messaging-how-come/671324/24 "2013-10-16T00:16:40Z")

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When we were doing Finish the \_\_\_ Story threads years ago, some PMs were used at first. We decided a control thread was a better idea, since others could join in the fun that way.

I don’t have PM blocked, but I don’t use it much now at all.

On a positive note, my wife and I enjoy orgasms!

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**Author:** ![seal\_cleaner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@seal\_cleaner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seal_cleaner)\
**Post date:** [October 16, 2013, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dopers-without-private-messaging-how-come/671324/25 "2013-10-16T00:24:39Z")

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I’ve received only 1 pm since I joined, when tubadiva asked me to change my username. I really expected many more, e.g., “you’re embarassing yourself” or “I think you should stick to reddit you tool.”

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