# DoperWomen! Is a bald spot a 'dealbreaker'? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 6, 2003, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850 "2003-01-06T00:53:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/21 "2003-01-06T04:23:17Z")
It’s not important at all. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/22 "2003-01-06T04:34:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by porcupine \* > \*\*It’s not important at all. \*\* [Whew! Well that’s a relief](http://mywebpages.comcast.net/cpeek001/peek13.jpg) 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e56c9b/32.png) [@Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mirror_Image_egamI_rorriM)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/23 "2003-01-06T04:40:46Z")
That you, **astro**? You look you have dark red eyes. But the shiny head is quite nice. ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/24 "2003-01-06T04:41:24Z")
I’m with the “doesn’t matter unless he’s too self-conscious about it” crowd. I don’t know about a bald **spot** so much, but there’s something about a receding hairline that I find almost irresistibly sexy, even knowing that’s likely to mean a whole lot of shiny head in the not-so-distant future. Thinning hair can definitely be sexy. I’m of the same mind about men who are shorter than me (I’m 5’10" or so). If he’s not self-conscious about it, it’s not at all unattractive; if he is, it’s a deal-breaker. _Note: these are all hypotheticals - I picked one and married him over 20 years ago._ ---
**Author:** ![Forbin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5e9695/32.png) [@Forbin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Forbin)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/25 "2003-01-06T04:53:07Z")
Geez Astro. That pic is 2271 X 2931 pixels. Reminds me of the huge pictures of “Glorious Leaders” in totalitarian countries. You know, the ones that are about five stories high. You weren’t planning on pasting that onto a concrete high rise were you? I thought I put big pics on my webspace. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/26 "2003-01-06T05:10:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Forbin \* > \*\*Geez Astro. > That pic is 2271 X 2931 pixels. > > Reminds me of the huge pictures of “Glorious Leaders” in totalitarian countries. You know, the ones that are about five stories high. > You weren’t planning on pasting that onto a concrete high rise were you? > > I thought I put big pics on my webspace. \*\* Oops! I thought I shrank it. I’ll apply more shrinkage. ---
**Author:** ![jazzmine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5daacb/32.png) [@jazzmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jazzmine)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/27 "2003-01-06T05:10:13Z")
**Astro** …nice. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/28 "2003-01-06T05:22:44Z")
Thank’s all! I can see I don’t have to worry about this, and I can now go on to worrying about other things, like whether Canada will _ever_ finish converting to metric, so that we can _end_ this disorganized worst-of-both-worlds measurement-system confusion we’re in now. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/29 "2003-01-06T05:38:03Z")
Wow, **Astro** , from this gay man’s perspective, you’re hot! —not that it makes any difference to you, of course, since you play in a different league, but still… (long, low whistle) ---
**Author:** ![MissTake](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misstake/32/3189_2.png) [@MissTake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MissTake)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/30 "2003-01-06T06:47:53Z")
Nummy, **Astro** , quite nummy. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/31 "2003-01-06T07:07:27Z")
No problem at all. A harry butt is ok too. A comb-over, on the other hand…Just say no. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 7:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/32 "2003-01-06T07:08:37Z")
Um, I guess that would be a hairy butt… However, I wouldn’t object to a man named Harry either. ---
**Author:** ![Kezermezer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b487fb/32.png) [@Kezermezer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kezermezer)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/33 "2003-01-06T07:46:19Z")
I’m in the ‘balding is fine as long as he’s not overly caught up in it’ camp. However, as much as I’d like to say most people are above making such ridiculous factors deal-breakers, I’m afraid I think there are maaany women (let’s say girls instead, as that’s more fitting for the maturity level), perhaps even as much as they’d like to say it doesn’t matter, to whom it matters very much. That sentence was way too long. Anyway, if some girl would let something like balding get in the way of a meaningful relationship, I’d agree with another poster who said she’s not worth your time. ---
**Author:** ![yosemite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/3ab097/32.png) [@yosemite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yosemite)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 7:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/34 "2003-01-06T07:48:57Z")
Not a dealbreaker. Not even close. But, as others have already pointed out, if he is really neurotic about it, that’s going to make me wonder. ---
**Author:** ![Audrey\_Levins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Audrey\_Levins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Audrey_Levins)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 11:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/35 "2003-01-06T11:21:22Z")
My fiance’s best friend is going bald…has been for years…and has this funky downy fuzz up there that stands straight up, like a Chia Pet. He’s only 33, and not a bad looking guy; I’ve wanted to give him a make-over for YEARS. The only problem with a bald spot, or a bald guy, is denial. Cutting it short is a start; losing all of it is the Happy Ending. IF YOU CAN’T GROW IT, MOW IT. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![dragongirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b38774/32.png) [@dragongirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dragongirl)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 12:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/36 "2003-01-06T12:20:46Z")
I’ve always been attracted to long-haired guys, but I married a guy that went bald at 17. When someone teases him about his baldness, his response always shuts them up. “Too many U-turns under the sheets” ---
**Author:** ![CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crankyasanoldman/32/11670_2.png) [@CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrankyAsAnOldMan)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/37 "2003-01-06T14:19:18Z")
Yow, astro, you’re sexy. I won’t be reading your posts the same from now on. But as for the OP, of course not. Part of it, of course, is my age. I was still dating in my late 20s, and by then some men who were going to be bald were showing signs of it. The hilarious thing about women who find bald spots or thinning hair a turnoff is that if they find a guy in their 20s and love him for his hair, Mother Nature may have a surprise in store for them in 5, 10, or 15 years. Heh. My husband used to have gorgeously thick curly dark hair, completely the opposite of mine. But it’s saying goodbye, and he’s starting to shave the top to keep it even. But I knew this was in store when I married him (he was 35 at the time and his best hair years were in the past, for his former girlfriends to enjoy). ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/38 "2003-01-06T14:56:25Z")
No problem here either. Dated long haired guys with beard (yes, dead ringers for Jesus), military guys with buzz cuts, and lastly a few balding/baldies. A good smile, some confidence and a good sense of humor and I’m all yours! ---
**Author:** ![Washte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/dc4da7/32.png) [@Washte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Washte)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/39 "2003-01-06T15:25:54Z")
Another woman here in the ‘no problem’ category. Must also agree that a comb-over is an absolute _NO-NO_. It’s rather disgusting to see a fella with a SBS, big bald spot but a little _island_ of hope in the middle of the bald spot that he’s grown to 8-10" and tries to brush it one way or t’other. Yuk. > [@](#): > > IF YOU CAN’T GROW IT, MOW IT 😃 Hubby has been threatening this. He has been slowly thinning on top (just a bit) - just enough to annoy him. Besides, being about 6" taller than me, the only time I see it is when he’s sitting down or in bed. I tell him it’s fine. Sexy either way, IMHO of course. ---
**Author:** ![Rex\_Fenestrarum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rex_fenestrarum/32/7265_2.png) [@Rex\_Fenestrarum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rex_Fenestrarum)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2003, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850/40 "2003-01-06T16:10:31Z")
The best thing you can do **Sunspace** is to just not sweat it. Don’t be in denial about it, but don’t worry about it either. My hair started falling out when I was 22-23 and it hasn’t had much of an impact on my luck with the ladies. As much as you might worry that women care about your hair, they’re much more concerned with how honest and faithful you are and whether you can cook or iron and if you understand _why_ they need 600 pairs of shoes. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doperwomen-is-a-bald-spot-a-dealbreaker/146850.md?page=3)