# Drachillix puzzled by woman...film at 11 **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 17, 2011, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016 "2011-01-17T23:46:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/21 "2011-01-18T20:59:16Z")
My first thought was “she’s not using birth control.” Make sure you protect yourself unelss you want a child. From your update, it sounds like she’s been dreaming of you as her back-up plan. If that’s not what you want to be, then you shoudl probably walk away fromt his situation. Does she object to the use of condoms? ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/22 "2011-01-18T21:11:49Z")
If you do think there is a chance you might want kids down the road get some sperm banked. Then get the vasectomy. At least then, if you do have a kid later on, it will be a choice that you’ve had time to think about rather than “oops, surprise, my biological clock was winding down so here I am with a surprise pregnancy!” ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/23 "2011-01-18T21:16:39Z")
> [@Arnold\_Winkelried](#): > > Unless you already know what her answer to the question is (e.g. it’s something like “because I want to have children with you some day.”) This chick sounds like she thinks of **drachillix** as “Plan B”. Basically, he’ll do until Mr. Right comes along. And until Mr. Right comes along, he’d better behave himself and be her boyfriend when she wants one, then disappear when she doesn’t want one. So no vasectomy allowed until Mr. Right comes along and she definitely doesn’t need a Plan B anymore. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/24 "2011-01-18T21:27:53Z")
She made you an offer. > [@](#): > > if you get a vasectomy I will not speak to you again If I were you, I would accept it. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2011, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/25 "2011-01-19T08:28:18Z")
> [@Mtgman](#): > > If she’s over 35 the risk of having a special needs child just skyrocketed, so you not only need to ask yourself if you want to have a kid with this woman, but if you want to run that risk as well. Skyrocketed is a bit much. Her odds of having a baby with Down syndrome, the disorder most associated with advanced maternal age, increase from 0.1% at age 30 to 0.25% at age 35 to 1% at 40. I disagree with the folks who think he’s her backup plan: to me it sounds like she’s panicky because **drachillix** is supposed to be The One (who’ll wait for her to get her shit together) and his plan is throwing hers off-kilter. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2011, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/26 "2011-01-19T08:42:30Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > Does she object to the use of condoms? Nope, nor do I. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2011, 10:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/27 "2011-01-19T10:02:16Z")
Crazy in the head, crazy in bed. And what **Phouka** said. ---
**Author:** ![firstname](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7ab992/32.png) [@firstname](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/firstname)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2011, 10:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/28 "2011-01-19T10:47:31Z")
She hasn’t told you she’s on the pill has she? I sure hope not. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2011, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/29 "2011-01-19T12:28:13Z")
> [@elfkin477](#): > > I disagree with the folks who think he’s her backup plan: to me it sounds like she’s panicky because **drachillix** is supposed to be The One (who’ll wait for her to get her shit together) and his plan is throwing hers off-kilter. Hopefully part of her “getting her shit together” plan includes working on better communication skills. Stuff like learning how threatening to never speak to someone again is a poor relationship gambit, and opening up communication when a FWB relationship might be a candidate for becoming something more. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2011, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/30 "2011-01-19T20:10:12Z")
If you don’t wan to have a baby with her, get the vasectomy. If you think you might, hold off. I wouldn’t be impressed by her ultimatum, either - you really do sound like her “Plan B,” and that doesn’t sound like a situation to bring a kid into. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2011, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/31 "2011-01-19T20:15:34Z")
If you get the snip, but later want to raise a child, you could always rent one or lease one, or whatever it is they do these days. Jizz in a tube and freeze it, perhaps? ---
**Author:** ![Claude\_Remains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Claude\_Remains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claude_Remains)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2011, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016/32 "2011-01-19T21:05:02Z")
vascectomy = No sperm in the ejaculate. Maybe she doesn’t like the taste of Jizz Lite. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/drachillix-puzzled-by-woman-film-at-11/568016.md?page=1)