# Dudes, Did Your Parents Thow You Out? Are you glad? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 3, 2012, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dudes-did-your-parents-thow-you-out-are-you-glad/633589 "2012-09-03T22:48:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![wheresmymind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/91b2a8/32.png) [@wheresmymind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wheresmymind)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2012, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dudes-did-your-parents-thow-you-out-are-you-glad/633589/41 "2012-09-05T02:42:18Z")
I moved back home for a year between undergrad and grad school. They didn’t kick me out, but they made it progressively less comfortable for me to live there. I know they meant well, but it really didn’t help matters and it nearly ruined my relationship with them. I wasn’t a deadbeat, I had a part time job and spent a lot of time searching for graduate programs, studying for GREs, etc. But they were convinced that unless they made sure I was miserable I would never leave. I told them “look, as soon as I get into a program I’ll be gone for good and you’ll be telling me that I never visit/call, etc.” They would counter with “Yeah, and how are you going to pay for this hypothetical apartment and these hypothetical graduate tuition bills?” They never believed me when I explained I would actually be PAID to go to school. ---
**Author:** ![DummyGladHands](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/49beb7/32.png) [@DummyGladHands](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DummyGladHands)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2012, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dudes-did-your-parents-thow-you-out-are-you-glad/633589/42 "2012-09-05T03:10:52Z")
Yep. I was 18, ready to go to college, wanted to visit an out of state boy friend at his parents house, and they said “if you go, don’t come back.” I never did. ---
**Author:** ![Battle\_Pope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4bbf92/32.png) [@Battle\_Pope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Battle_Pope)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2012, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dudes-did-your-parents-thow-you-out-are-you-glad/633589/43 "2012-09-05T03:41:11Z")
My mother would have loved for us to stay at home for as long as possible. We had an agreement that once I landed a good, full-time job that I could stay with mny parents and pay a token rent ($50 per week from memory) as long as I saved for a house. This was back in 1995 or there abouts, before the housing market here went crazy. After a year & a half of saving about 60% of my pay packet I had enough to put a good deposit on a small 3-bedroom place & move out. I was 24 at the time. ---
**Author:** ![listedmia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e0b2c6/32.png) [@listedmia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/listedmia)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2012, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dudes-did-your-parents-thow-you-out-are-you-glad/633589/44 "2012-09-05T04:12:57Z")
I grew up with a single father after my mom passed away when I was 11. When I was 18, my dad was pissed that I was going to a community college, drinking occasionally and generally not living up to my potential. He very strongly pressured me to move out. Also, when I turned 18 until I graduated high school, I had started getting my own Social Security Survivors Benefits checks instead of him, and he wasn’t very happy about that. One day we got into an argument about me not doing the dishes in a timely manner, I stormed out and went to my boyfriend’s house, and he told me not to come back. Since then, I have not been allowed to spend the night at his house under any circumstances, unless it’s Christmas Eve. I have mixed feelings about this. We always had a rocky relationship and my dad was just short of actually abusive. I was enormously relieved to not have to deal with him anymore. I got to have many exciting life experiences that my friends with more supportive parents didn’t have, and I’m probably more self sufficient than some people my age (22). On the other hand, with more family support I would have probably not dropped out of college and became a homeless drug addict for a while, so there’s that. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2012, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dudes-did-your-parents-thow-you-out-are-you-glad/633589/45 "2012-09-05T05:25:12Z")
No, but they would have if I hadn’t moved on. I was back with them after my first job out of college didn’t pan out for a total of about six months. Once I had landed a reasonable job, I was out on my own, and over the following year, I’ve transitioned into near-total independence. (I pay my own cell phone, car insurance, and the like. The only way that they still support me is that I go back to their place to use their washer and dryer.) But if I hadn’t moved out once I had a job, they’d have kicked me out. My little sister still uses them as a fallback, but she doesn’t actually sleep under their roof more than one month out of the year. Mostly she’s working for non-profits in Latin America, and when she’s waiting tables back in town to fund those expeditions, she always house sits and sleeps home only when between housesitting gigs. ---
**Author:** ![cynyc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f05b48/32.png) [@cynyc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cynyc)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2012, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dudes-did-your-parents-thow-you-out-are-you-glad/633589/46 "2012-09-07T00:27:31Z")
When my mom died we did the strip the place and fast thing. I heard that when the old man returned he bellowed. 🙂 I also had emancipated minor status. “Here Mom, sign this.” > [@Student\_Driver](#): > > When giving people the short version of that time of my life, I often just say that I was kicked out. The longer version is more muddled; I went on a weekend road trip, and while I was gone, my stepdad had some kind of mental collapse, and began ranting and threatening to kil me when I came back. My mom met me at the door when I returned, telling me I’d need to find somewhere else to live. I said no. After all, at that time, I was covering the mortgage for them and the utilities were all mine, since I was the only one in the house working. > > I awoke the next morning to hear my stepdad shouting at the top of his lungs at my mom, as apparently she was physically keeping him from rushing into my room and attempting to kill me. Grabbed my cat, tossed her in the carrier, tossed some clothes into a laundry basket, told my mom I was leaving and would not return. Lived in my car for a while in the middle of winter (cat stayed at a friend’s place) until I got an apartment, then got a moving van and some friends and when we saw my parents leave, raided the house for my belongings, which included most of the furniture. We were in and out in 30 minutes. Transferred all of the utilities to my new place that same day, shutting off service to the house. Didn’t speak again to my mom until the stepdad had died years later, and I still don’t know what happened when they came home to no gas, electricity, phone service, or furniture. > > So, I ran away, but under duress. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dudes-did-your-parents-thow-you-out-are-you-glad/633589.md?page=2)