# Dumb question......but what motive does a woman have to send me photos of her everyday life? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 26, 2022, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452 "2022-01-26T23:43:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/1 "2022-01-26T23:43:51Z")
I have a church friend who likes to send me photos of her food, her walks, everyday life, her room, her activities, etc. She and I are about the same age, both in our 30s, single. I’m not sure of the motive. She hasn’t expressed romantic interest. Yet this seems out of the ordinary. Are some women just especially share-y about their personal life with platonic friends, or is this a hint? ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/2 "2022-01-26T23:44:37Z")
Sounds like a hint to me. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/3 "2022-01-26T23:48:58Z")
She’s setting you up to use as an alibi… ---
**Author:** ![Folly](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/folly/32/3219_2.png) [@Folly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Folly)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/4 "2022-01-26T23:54:43Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > She hasn’t expressed romantic interest. …except for… > [@Velocity](#): > > likes to send me photos of her food, her walks, everyday life, her room, her activities, etc. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/5 "2022-01-27T00:00:12Z")
Well, unless it’s a group text, one thing you know for sure is she’s thinking about you. Take from that what you will. ---
**Author:** ![Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jimmy_Chitwood)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/6 "2022-01-27T00:07:14Z")
To state the unstated part: the motive is that she wants to talk to you more. It is sometimes difficult to just send someone a text or call them and say “Hi I want to talk to you” without some pretext. So if she cooks a cool meal, or sees something cool out on the town, that is a handy pretext. So she sends you a picture of it as a thing to chat about, because she wants to chat with you. Some people certainly are like that with platonic friends, but, you know. If one had to guess, that ain’t it. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/7 "2022-01-27T00:15:42Z")
You need to give us more deets @Velocity 1.) Are you responding to these texts? 2.) Is she your type? Or rather, would you consider dating this lady if you knew she had an interest? ---
**Author:** ![Retzbu\_Tox](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/retzbu_tox/32/11829_2.png) [@Retzbu\_Tox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Retzbu_Tox)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/8 "2022-01-27T00:44:37Z")
She’s an international arms dealer and thinks you may be on to her, so she is trying to throw you off the scent. If she sends you a Valentine’s Day card, she’s really getting worried. Be sure to check it for anthrax. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/9 "2022-01-27T01:15:59Z")
Ordinarily this is the type of stuff you’d post to everyone on social media. If she sends it to just you, then I agree she definitely wants to talk with you more specifically. In normal times I’d probably test by asking her to go do something together, and then see if she treats it like a date. I’m not sure the protocol in pandemic times on Zoom or whatever. Others would probably be more direct. But I’ve always been hesitant (like you) with stuff like this. ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/10 "2022-01-27T01:36:24Z")
I also think she’s flirting with you. She’s showing you pictures of her _bedroom?_ C’mon, man. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/11 "2022-01-27T01:46:16Z")
I had a friend start to do this. To be honest, I loved the attention (and she was an excellent photographer). And I figured, hey, she knows I’m married, I’ll just treat these like no big deal. Suddenly one day it all stopped. Not a single “Just walking the dogs and saw this cool bird.” for a week. I asked her about it and she texted back “Oh, no reason. Got busy I guess.” A few hours later: “You have GOT to meet Jean-Paul. You guys would really get along! We’ll be at the pub tonight if you’re around.” I _did_ get along with Jean-Paul… (she and I are still friends, she and J-P, not at _all…)_ But in the OP’s case, interested but shy (hard to believe, eh?). ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/12 "2022-01-27T02:18:01Z")
I would have thought that, but she’s thousands of miles away in another country. That’s the other odd part of it. She’s someone I have only met a few times. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/13 "2022-01-27T05:51:29Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > I have a church friend who likes to send me photos of her food, her walks, everyday life, her room, her activities, etc. She and I are about the same age, both in our 30s, single. > [@Velocity](#): > > but she’s thousands of miles away in another country. […] She’s someone I have only met a few times. Are there signs of other people in her daily life? Friends or family? Does she appear healthy? You could always ask what’s up, directly. ~Max ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/14 "2022-01-27T05:58:55Z")
She is a bored and lonely narcissist. Thinks everybody gives a shit about what she is doing. I bet she “Power-walks”. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/15 "2022-01-27T06:06:04Z")
Wait, _how_ are you getting these pictures? Don’t tell me you are talking about Instagram or Snapchat… In which case this behavior would be perfectly normal and the pics are probably not just for you. ~Max ---
**Author:** ![Retzbu\_Tox](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/retzbu_tox/32/11829_2.png) [@Retzbu\_Tox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Retzbu_Tox)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 6:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/16 "2022-01-27T06:28:58Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > she’s thousands of miles away in another country I’m sticking with my international arms dealer theory. … or, she might think of you as a safe person to open up to because you are many miles away, like a pen pal who you share things with that you don’t tell the people near you… nah… arms dealer. Gotta be. ---
**Author:** ![alovem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@alovem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alovem)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 7:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/17 "2022-01-27T07:36:08Z")
Doesn’t “thousands of miles away” rule out romantic interest? Maybe she’s just lonely, what with the pandemic and all. Since I stopped going out or otherwise getting together with friends over a year ago, I’ve never been so eager to chat with neighbors or maybe an acquaintence I’ll run into at the market. In that sense, I think my intentions were misunderstood on one occasion. ---
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 9:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/18 "2022-01-27T09:13:07Z")
> [@alovem](#): > > Doesn’t “thousands of miles away” rule out romantic interest? What? No. It might make most people think twice, or not think at all, but since the birth of the internet people have gotten romantically involved while thousands of miles apart. It makes proceeding to the next level much harder, but I personally know (entirely over the internet, no romantic interest involved) a California woman who ended up in Australia through a relationship started long distance. ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/19 "2022-01-27T14:34:40Z")
> [@naita](#): > > but since the birth of the internet people have gotten romantically involved while thousands of miles apart Since the birth of the internet people have gotten romantically involved with people that don’t even exist! But, can you ask her if she can get a dozen fully automatic Uzis? For a “friend”? ---
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/20 "2022-01-27T14:37:52Z")
> [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](#): > > Since the birth of the internet people have gotten romantically involved with people that don’t even exist! True. Also happened before the internet probably. > [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](#): > > But, can you ask her if she can get a dozen fully automatic Uzis? For a “friend”? In Australia … ? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452.md?page=2)