# Dumb question......but what motive does a woman have to send me photos of her everyday life? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 26, 2022, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452 "2022-01-26T23:43:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/21 "2022-01-27T14:44:50Z")
@Velocity, explain “church friend.” Since you live in different parts of the world, I’m assuming this isn’t someone you see at church regularly. I used to do this, send pictures to a guy. It gave me the illusion that we were more connected than we were. He’s dead now, so it’s moot. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/22 "2022-01-27T14:49:17Z")
Take a pic of your junk and send it to her. See what happens next. Just kidding. I would see if she is as share-y on social media, or maybe with others in your congregation. Or, as mentioned, just ask her about it. One of my riding buddies is constantly over-sharing and I have mentioned it to him. There is no romantic interest, he’s just like that. ---
**Author:** ![gnoitall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bb73d2/32.png) [@gnoitall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gnoitall)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/23 "2022-01-27T14:51:56Z")
Maybe she started out sending her “day in the life” stream to the wrong contact (you) and never noticed? ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/24 "2022-01-27T15:14:17Z")
> [@Max\_S](#): > > Wait, _how_ are you getting these pictures? Don’t tell me you are talking about Instagram or Snapchat… > > In which case this behavior would be perfectly normal and the pics are probably not just for you. > > ~Max Message chat app. (LINE, WeChat) ---
**Author:** ![Thing.Fish](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thing.fish/32/9168_2.png) [@Thing.Fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thing.Fish)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/25 "2022-01-27T15:26:36Z")
So it sounds as though this “church” is online (or one of you have moved recently?). Have you replied to these messages, enough to rule out the possibility that she’s sending them to you by accident? Does she reply to your replies? If so, I’d say at a minimum she’s lonely and likes talking to you. You could, if you were so inclined, ask if she’d like to set up a time for a video chat. The distance factor obviously makes the development of a serious relationship less likely, but not impossible. Or you might just become better platonic friends. And given that she’s thousands of miles away, the risk of being embarrassingly rejected is about as low as it could possibly get. ---
**Author:** ![Jasmine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jasmine/32/2964_2.png) [@Jasmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasmine)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/26 "2022-01-27T15:34:58Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > I’m not sure of the motive. Um … Does she actually need to hit you over the head with a club and drag you to her cave? LOL ---
**Author:** ![Pleonast](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pleonast/32/1183_2.png) [@Pleonast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pleonast)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/27 "2022-01-27T15:45:15Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > I used to do this, send pictures to a guy. It gave me the illusion that we were more connected than we were. He’s dead now, so it’s moot. Note to self: don’t receive pictures from **ThelmaLou**. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/28 "2022-01-27T16:16:36Z")
> [@snowthx](#): > > Take a pic of your junk and send it to her. Hmmmm, sounds like a good idea. ++takes several pictures of garage and attic++ ---
**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/29 "2022-01-27T17:36:17Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > Message chat app. (LINE, WeChat) I don’t personally have experience with either of those (they’re big in Asia I think) but be aware that there is a culture with some social media apps to constantly send mundane pictures of everyday life to a bunch of people. It’s the dumbest thing IMO but exists especially with teenagers. The key thing is whether the pictures are just for you or if they’re going out to a bunch of people. ~Max ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/30 "2022-01-27T23:28:05Z")
> [@naita](#): > > True. Also happened before the internet probably. Absolutely. I never lived closer to 600 miles from my wife before we got married. We’ve been married over 40 years. Letters and telephone calls work just fine. ---
**Author:** ![The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_wind_of_my_soul)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/31 "2022-01-28T14:39:20Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > I would have thought that, but she’s thousands of miles away in another country. That’s the other odd part of it. Reminds me of a situation I was in a couple years ago. Met a guy at an event, and afterwards, we talked regularly for a month or so, even though he was a 14 hour drive from me. He would FaceTime me sometimes or send pictures of what he was doing that day. It was obvious that there was some level of attraction, but not enough compatibility to really make a serious go of things. And in his case, he was a good and willing companion to talk to when I felt lonely, and I imagine I was the same for him. ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/32 "2022-01-28T17:06:33Z")
> [@Jasmine](#): > > Does she actually need to hit you over the head with a club and drag you to her cave? LOL One time, a woman invited me to her house, and we watched TV in bed. She was not, in any way, asking for sex. As far as I know, from what she said, she hadn’t ever had sex, and probably still hasn’t to this day. She was a bit…off. ---
**Author:** ![Jasmine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jasmine/32/2964_2.png) [@Jasmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasmine)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/33 "2022-01-28T17:21:08Z")
> [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](#): > > One time, a woman invited me to her house, and we watched TV in bed. She was not, in any way, asking for sex. That can be a very dangerous game. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/34 "2022-01-28T17:26:02Z")
> [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](#): > > we watched TV in bed. Years ago I was talking to a very drunk woman in a bar. She lived about 50 yards from the bar, and was a regular. I considered us friends. She described a problem with her bathtub dripping, complained about the cost of a plumber, so I offered to stop by some time to see if I could fix her problem. She asked if I would mind stopping “now”. I agreed. She left to “straighten up” her place and asked if I could come by in a half hour. When I arrived at her place I knocked on the door and she yelled, “it’s open”. I walked in and followed the sound of her voice. She was in the bathtub, with dozens of candles lit all around the tub. She was very drunk, I wasn’t, and I really didn’t want to spend any more time there than I had to. I was afraid she’d drown or burn the place down, so I blew out the candles and helped her get out of the tub, dry off, and get into bed. I emptied the bathtub and checked the spout. There was no dripping problem. I avoided that bar for awhile, feeling awkward to see her again. Then I heard from a friend that she described that night in detail; how she’d “tricked” me into coming over, that she seduced me, and we had wild sex. Apparently I was great and left her exhausted. ---
**Author:** ![Riemann](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/riemann/32/3133_2.png) [@Riemann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riemann)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/35 "2022-01-28T17:28:21Z")
> [@snowthx](#): > > Take a pic of your junk and send it to her. See what happens next. > [@kayaker](#): > > Hmmmm, sounds like a good idea. > > ++takes several pictures of garage and attic++ Or, for plausible deniability, ask for a picture of _her_ garage, with a view to putting your junk in there. ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/36 "2022-01-28T17:31:08Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Then I heard from a friend that she described that night in detail; how she’d “tricked” me into coming over, that she seduced me, and we had wild sex. Apparently I was great and left her exhausted. That’s a horrible thing for her to have done. Did the truth come out? ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/37 "2022-01-28T17:31:47Z")
> [@Jasmine](#): > > That can be a very dangerous game. I honestly don’t think she even saw how it could be a problem. She was smart and nice, but strangely naive. I hope she’s OK, wherever she’s at these days. ---
**Author:** ![Riemann](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/riemann/32/3133_2.png) [@Riemann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riemann)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/38 "2022-01-28T17:32:47Z")
> [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](#): > > One time, a woman invited me to her house, and we watched TV in bed. She was not, in any way, asking for sex…She was a bit…off. Netflix and mentally ill? ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/39 "2022-01-28T17:37:21Z")
That sounds like a great date, actually. Lying in bed watching movies with a pretty and intelligent woman, without any compulsion to go further. ---
**Author:** ![Riemann](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/riemann/32/3133_2.png) [@Riemann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riemann)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2022, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452/40 "2022-01-28T17:39:23Z")
It sounds like someone with a very poor grasp of social signaling, unless it’s a long-established platonic friend, or his mum. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumb-question-but-what-motive-does-a-woman-have-to-send-me-photos-of-her-everyday-life/958452.md?page=3)