# Dumber than shit or not? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 21, 2012, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346 "2012-09-21T01:44:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2012, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/61 "2012-09-21T22:08:11Z")
Man, I’d have been long gone long ago. My last marriage ended because she was miss bossy pants and I wasn’t supposed to have an opinion, or was apparently too stupid to have one. **Billfish** , you really need to grow a pair, no offense. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2012, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/62 "2012-09-21T22:21:42Z")
> [@Arrendajo](#): > > Your marriage sounds toxic, IMHO. Eh, this board seems to cry toxic awfully quick. There was nothing in the OP to suggest abusive or horrible relationship, sounded like a husband letting off steam. This is no “my wife threw an unopened beer bottle at my head”, and I’d bet if I had a video recording of the event I’d find the OP a little one sided 😃 Everybody is entitled to an opinion but ending a rewarding relationship over this would be crazy. But then again I’ve made a similar OP about an argument that revolved around what shade of blue a onesie was. ---
**Author:** ![ladynismo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9fc29f/32.png) [@ladynismo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladynismo)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2012, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/63 "2012-09-21T23:01:50Z")
You could have just said, “Listen i’m not going to go to pick it up unless we know for sure it is ready. Either you call or i call”. I mean how simple is that? You chose to take her so you can’t complain now… You should have called if it was that important to you.YOU are the one paying the garage and giving them your business and she is worried about bothering them? It is their job to answer the phones and take care of your car. You both need to grow up and quit playing games with each other about who’s right or wrong. Those type of games will never get you anywhere and it will never end well. ---
**Author:** ![Ibanez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a4c791/32.png) [@Ibanez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ibanez)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2012, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/64 "2012-09-21T23:40:24Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > Yes, she will breath fire on me. No, I don’t need permission to use the phone in general. However I will catch shit if I were to call behind her back and she found out. And I sure a hell will if I do it in front of her. > > I can sorta see the logic of “fuck it..I ain’t gonna be bothered to do something I don’t think is necessary” (but IMO in these cases she’s still being retarded). What really puts it over the line is “I ain’t doing it and you sure as hell ain’t either”. WTF? Why do you give a flying fuck if I waste one measely minute of MY time doing something you think doesn’t need to be done? > > I am capable of doing the lead work. She won’t LET me most of the time. Hell, I’m capable of doing the actual work for that matter…although as cars and the tools needed to work on them get more sophisticated it becomes a risker proposition as time marches forward and its safer to just let the pro’s do the work. I was a pretty damn good friends and family shade tree mechanic back in the day. Not good. Are there children involved ? You need to have a heart to heart talk to her about her control issues. Which at some point you have to tell her being dictated to will not be tolerated, all you are doing is helping out after all. It’s just going to get worse if it’s not addressed. I wouldn’t put up with that crap for very long, and neither should you when all you’re doing is helping out and making life for both of you a little more efficient. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2012, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/65 "2012-09-21T23:44:03Z")
> [@grude](#): > > Eh, this board seems to cry toxic awfully quick. > There was nothing in the OP to suggest abusive or horrible relationship, sounded like a husband letting off steam. This is no “my wife threw an unopened beer bottle at my head”, and I’d bet if I had a video recording of the event I’d find the OP a little one sided 😃 Everybody is entitled to an opinion but ending a rewarding relationship over this would be crazy. > > But then again I’ve made a similar OP about an argument that revolved around what shade of blue a onesie was. I think you’re right. Marriages have to be able to tolerate blue onesies, looks, and phone call disputes. These are unimportant things. The things that count are what make a marriage. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2012, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/66 "2012-09-22T12:33:04Z")
So you’re not happy with how she does these things, I get that. I’m not seeing, what’s stopping you from taking care of it yourself, since you don’t care for how she manages it? Either do it yourself, exactly as you wish it to be handled, or be satisfied that someone else has done it, though not exactly as you might have wished. Is there a good reason you couldn’t go into the garage, to ensure the lights got mentioned? In short, if you want it done your way, do it yourself. If you want someone else to do it, then accept that it probably won’t be ‘as you would have done’. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2012, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/67 "2012-09-22T13:40:30Z")
> [@ladynismo](#): > > You could have just said, “Listen i’m not going to go to pick it up unless we know for sure it is ready. Either you call or i call”. I mean how simple is that? You chose to take her so you can’t complain now.. You should have called if it was that important to you.YOU are the one paying the garage and giving them your business and she is worried about bothering them? It is their job to answer the phones and take care of your car. > > You both need to grow up and quit playing games with each other about who’s right or wrong. Those type of games will never get you anywhere and it will never end well. Exactomundo. If she gets in a hissy fit over it, I would ignore it and maybe go out for a nice meal for myself. I really don’t get it. But I know it happens. My brothers wife has control issues. OR something. We recently put my dad in a nursing home. It’s a mess frankly. My brother and I have some serious stuff to talk about. When I talk to my brother on the phone, his wife is constantly trying to chime in and give advice while my brother is talking to me. My brother will calmly say “Honey, I’m on the phone, I can’t have two conversations at once”. She then proceeds to yell at him that she is just trying to help, gets all teary and storms out. Sorry SIL, but this is NOT about you. ---
**Author:** ![Son\_of\_a\_Rich](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/son_of_a_rich/32/5439_2.png) [@Son\_of\_a\_Rich](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Son_of_a_Rich)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2012, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/68 "2012-09-22T14:09:02Z")
Get a Kindle or a ukulele and any time you spend waiting on something can be time well spent. ---
**Author:** ![GusNSpot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gusnspot/32/436_2.png) [@GusNSpot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GusNSpot)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2012, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/69 "2012-09-22T18:39:49Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > Off topic here, but I pointed out to a friend the other day that garages could get a lot more women as customers by advertising “We Fix Noises!” Absolutely ROTFLMAO WIN !!! ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2012, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/70 "2012-09-22T18:57:00Z")
> [@Son\_of\_a\_Rich](#): > > Get a Kindle or a ukulele and any time you spend waiting on something can be time well spent. I second the ukulele. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2012, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/71 "2012-09-22T19:44:08Z")
Good god, this is so trivial. Take a deep breath man. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2012, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/72 "2012-09-24T13:09:56Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > So you’re not happy with how she does these things, I get that. > > I’m not seeing, what’s stopping you from taking care of it yourself, since you don’t care for how she manages it? > > Either do it yourself, exactly as you wish it to be handled, or be satisfied that someone else has done it, though not exactly as you might have wished. Is there a good reason you couldn’t go into the garage, to ensure the lights got mentioned? > > In short, if you want it done your way, do it yourself. If you want someone else to do it, then accept that it probably won’t be ‘as you would have done’. Are ytou even reading the thread? If he does it himself, she will “breathe fire” on him. She’ll be angry and be mean to him. If you think he’s lying, say that. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2012, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346/73 "2012-09-24T14:01:20Z")
No, if he follows up as though she’s not doing it right, she’ll breathe fire. Different thing entirely. If he’s assigning it to her, she’ll do it to suit her and beef at any criticism. So his choice is do it himself if it’s that important it all be arranged his way. Or, assign it to her and tolerate that she mightn’t manage it exactly as he would have. This may result in the fearsome waiting. Oh, the horror! It’s the same sacrifice everybody makes, every day, in their marriages, as I see it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dumber-than-shit-or-not/635346.md?page=3)