Weighing in as someone who has had both a csection and a vaginal delivery…
Daughter #1 was born via csection after 50 hours of labor (during which I had pitocin, interthecal morphine, and antibiotics) and three hours of pushing. She never descended - despite the best efforts of my midwife and my awesome doula, she just wasn’t in the right position. She weighed 9 pounds, 12 ounces and had a 14.5 inch head.
My recovery was hellish. I was in significant pain for months. It affected our breastfeeding relationship (although we ultimately kept at it and succeeded). It was not fun, and it was not easy. Luckily, I did manage to avoid an infection; my SIL ended up back in the hospital with a very bad infection after her csection, and my cousin also had a terrible infection in her incision.
Despite all that, when I got pregnant with #2 I decided that a scheduled csection had to be easier recovery-wise than what I went through, and I definitely did not want a repeat of the “long labor ending with a csection” scenario. I switched to an OB who is a very skilled surgeon. She said she believed VBAC to be safer for mom and baby but that the choice was up to me. I had her schedule the csection the earliest possible day – July 1st, when I would be 39 weeks (she wouldn’t do it any earlier).
So I am scheduled for an elective repeat csection at 9 AM on July 1st. At 11 PM on June 30th, my water breaks. We immediately leave for the hospital and I am in HARD labor. I decide that when we get to the hospital, I will let them check me – if I am less than 5 cm dialated, we will go for the csection, but if I am 5 or greater, I’ll get an epidural and see how I progress. When I get to triage I am begging for help (thank goodness our doula beat us to the hospital); they check me and I am 7 cm. I ask for an epidural and they start the IV. By the time they get me to a room, I am 9 cm - no epidural for me! A few more contractions and I am complete and ready to push. I start pushing about 1 AM and she is born vaginally at 2:18 AM. She weighed 9 lbs 7 oz with a 14.5 inch head. I had an episiotomy and hemmorhoids from hell.
Having been through both, there is no, no, no comparison between the recovery from a csection and the recovery from a vaginal birth. A csection is major abdominal surgery. Even with the episiotomy and the “bottom problems”, a vaginal birth is so much easier to recover from. I breastfed daughter #2 10 minutes after she was born (with daughter #1 it was an hour or more before I held her and attempted breastfeeding). An hour after my VBAC, I was able to eat a sandwich (for the csection I was on a liquid diet for 36 hours) and then take a bath (after my csection I had a catheter and an IV for 24 hours and I only showered after they were removed). Then I got to help with daughter #2’s first bath (I didn’t even get to see daughter #1’s first bath, they gave it to her in the nursery and the nurse wouldn’t let my husband videotape it for some reason). I was well enough to go home after only 36 hours in the hospital (with my csection I was in the hospital for 4 days afterward, enduring the interruptions, noise, and bad food that go along with a hospital stay).
VBAC certainly isn’t for everyone. I think you can have a very satisfying cesarean birth. I also think you can have a very traumatizing, disfiguring vaginal birth. Really, there’s no ideal way for them to get out of there.
One big reason why I wanted to go for the repeat csection with #2 was the control factor. I knew exactly what time the baby would be born, and I didn’t have to go through the scary unknown of labor. Do you think that’s a big reason why women are opting for purely elective csections?
Some doctors (namely Dr. Jennifer Berman, co-host of “For Women Only” on Discovery Health Channel…she had a traumatic vaginal birth with her first child and opted for a completely elective csection for her second) say that having a csection will prevent gynecological and urological problems down the road (prolapse and incontinence). I suppose some women might be thinking along these lines. Others may be thinking that a vaginal birth often comes with a tear or an episiotomy, which could affect her sex life…better to have the scar tissue north of the border, so to speak.
I just had a friend who had a long, tough vaginal birth. She, like SnoopyFan, wished she could have had a csection. I told her she had the right to feel however she wanted about her birth experience, and that she certainly could talk to her doctor about an elective csection for #2. But I, for one, would MUCH rather have had a vaginal birth than a csection for my first, even if it meant vacuum extraction and/or a big tear/episiotomy. In my mind, having been in both places, there really is no comparison in terms of recovery.
take care,
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