# Emergency C-section and a 23 week old infant. Ugh. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 16, 2005, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358 "2005-02-16T15:16:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 12
**Author:** ![Jkayla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5fc32e/32.png) [@Jkayla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jkayla)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/221 "2005-04-01T06:02:34Z")
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I really do wish Emma the best at getting stronger. I am so very sorry for your loss of Ally. ---
**Author:** ![Hampshire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hampshire/32/4887_2.png) [@Hampshire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hampshire)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/222 "2005-04-01T17:33:40Z")
I feel guilty because I am not in heavy grief right now but instead feel rather numb. We lost Emma also this past Wednesday. Today we were at the funeral home dressing them for the viewing tommorow. It all feels very surreal. Maybe once all the relatives and friends leave it will sink in more. ---
**Author:** ![yellowval](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/919ad9/32.png) [@yellowval](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowval)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/223 "2005-04-01T17:54:41Z")
Oh, no! **Hampshire** , I am so sorry for your loss. I think feeling numb is a natural reaction. This was supposed to be the happiest time of your life, not the worst. I hope you and your wife find strength in one another during this heartbreaking time. ---
**Author:** ![AbbySthrnAccent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eb9ed0/32.png) [@AbbySthrnAccent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AbbySthrnAccent)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/224 "2005-04-01T18:37:36Z")
I am so very sorry **Hampshire**. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/225 "2005-04-01T19:05:04Z")
Oh my. Hampshire, I’m so very, very sorry that your daughters lost their battle for life. Thank you for letting us know. I can’t imagine how it felt to type those words. ☹ Rest in peace, little Ally and Emma. You were surely loved. ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/226 "2005-04-01T19:13:49Z")
Damn. I’m sorry. Don’t feel guilty about the numbness & lack of grief- that’s meant to hold you together so you can deal with what needs to be done. When it’s over, then you can collapse for a little while in grief & get that out. Strength & love & endurance to you all. ---
**Author:** ![harmless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/2acd7d/32.png) [@harmless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmless)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/227 "2005-04-01T19:16:06Z")
I am so sorry, **Hampshire**. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Fretful\_Porpentine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fretful_porpentine/32/2873_2.png) [@Fretful\_Porpentine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fretful_Porpentine)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/228 "2005-04-01T19:24:00Z")
There are no words. I’m so sorry. Best wishes to you and your wife. ---
**Author:** ![DeVena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/dec6dc/32.png) [@DeVena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeVena)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/229 "2005-04-01T19:30:00Z")
Oh **Hampshire** , I am so very sorry for you both. Please know you’re in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/230 "2005-04-01T19:34:47Z")
**Hampshire** you and your family are in my thoughts. I’m very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![fessie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c37758/32.png) [@fessie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fessie)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/231 "2005-04-01T20:53:11Z")
Oh **Hampshire** , I’m so sorry for your loss! I feel so sick just thinking about it. My condolences to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Kuizelemartz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e19b73/32.png) [@Kuizelemartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kuizelemartz)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/232 "2005-04-01T22:09:07Z")
I am also so sorry for your loss Hampshire. Words can’t express. You and your family are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Abbie\_Carmichael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/49beb7/32.png) [@Abbie\_Carmichael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Abbie_Carmichael)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/233 "2005-04-01T23:05:15Z")
I’m so sorry, Hampsire ☹ We’re all here for you when you need to talk. ---
**Author:** ![SlowMindThinking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@SlowMindThinking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SlowMindThinking)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2005, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/234 "2005-04-01T23:45:13Z")
Please do not feel guilty for being numb. Numbness is natural. You are numb for a reason, as FriarTed, said. Please use us if there are things you need to say. Know that we care. ---
**Author:** ![Carm6773](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/2bfe46/32.png) [@Carm6773](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carm6773)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2005, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/235 "2005-04-02T05:20:29Z")
God must have needed some more angels. **{{{The Hampshires}}}** I’m praying for you. ---
**Author:** ![Zabali\_Clawbane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/ecd19e/32.png) [@Zabali\_Clawbane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zabali_Clawbane)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2005, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/236 "2005-04-02T05:47:21Z")
My condolonces and prayers are going out to the **Hampshire** family. My prayers are also still going out to **WhyNot** and family too. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2005, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/237 "2005-04-02T06:31:33Z")
**Hampshire** … I’m so sorry. Please do not criticize yourself for how you “should” be reacting. Nobody can experience what you’re dealing with except you. You’ll absorb the feelings when you’re ready, and not before. ---
**Author:** ![Archergal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c89c15/32.png) [@Archergal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Archergal)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2005, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/238 "2005-04-02T16:18:20Z")
Oh **Hampshire**. I’m so, so sorry. Peace be with you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![furthur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecccb3/32.png) [@furthur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/furthur)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2005, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/239 "2005-04-02T18:02:00Z")
**Hampshire** , I’m so very, very sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. Oh, your lovely little girls. My heart aches for you all. Mrs. Furthur ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2005, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358/240 "2005-04-02T19:24:17Z")
Oh my word. **Hampshire** , as I sit here crying for you and your loss, I’m struck by the depth of care and concern that we can feel for each other in a rather anonymous world. Know that we’re here for you when you’re ready to talk. Godspeed, my friend. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358.md?page=11) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/emergency-c-section-and-a-23-week-old-infant-ugh/290358.md?page=13)