# End of the Affair: Ask the Former Mistress

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/end-of-the-affair-ask-the-former-mistress/260329>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [August 18, 2004, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/end-of-the-affair-ask-the-former-mistress/260329 "2004-08-18T01:24:25Z")\
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**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\
**Post date:** [August 19, 2004, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/end-of-the-affair-ask-the-former-mistress/260329/61 "2004-08-19T15:04:21Z")

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> [@Essured](#):
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> Thanks for answering my questions, **Faithfool.**
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> I have long been interested in the amount of rancour the “homewrecker” receives in society. The woman often appears to be the target of more venom than the married guy, whether he goes back to the original wife or not.
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> I hope you are able to learn from this and use those lessons in your future, so the pain caused to all at least has some positive aftermath. All the best to you.

You’re most welcome. That was the whole point of starting this thread, to dispel a little ignorance (and some of my own) and see what all sides thought. It’s definitely been enlightening.

And yes, I’m certainly one of those folks who believe it’s absolutely necessary to learn from our mistakes or we are doomed to repeat them. I so wish I could undo all the hurt, but the best I’m hoping for now is that everyone can move past it and have as fulfilling a life as they can (even Ted). And thanks for the best wishes. Today’s not shaping up so well, so I could do with as many as I can get.

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