# Enforce the third amendment! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 26, 2011, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enforce-the-third-amendment/600814 "2011-10-26T03:04:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2011, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enforce-the-third-amendment/600814/21 "2011-10-27T04:06:22Z")
[Yeah, soldiers have it too easy.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005UZGMM0/ref=pd_lpo_k2_dp_sr_1?pf_rd_p=486539851&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=0740791966&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=15X4ZA4GN90NG3AWYMSX) ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2011, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enforce-the-third-amendment/600814/22 "2011-10-27T12:25:33Z")
> [@HubZilla](#): > > I guess her complaining about the deployment should’ve been a seperate pit topic. Hey, I get it: it sucks. I would not look forward to being away from my spouse and alone with the kids for months. He’s not in a combat position (weather) and not going to a war zone (Qatar), so it’s likely he’s coming back. Plus, we’re here to help out. > > But he has re-enlisted, so they know this can happen. It seems odd that she boasts about these benefits of marrying a soldier, and then loudly complains when he has to be a, you know, soldier. Especially cursing the Air Force and Obama publicly on FB (which must do wonders for my brother’s career). I’ve heard this a little too often from my fellow spouses, which is why I quit going to spouse support meetings. They’re happy to reap the benefits of military service, but when it comes time for their spouses to actually, y’know, do military things, they complain about the injustice of _their_ spouse deploying. It’s as though they’re somehow entitled to all of this great free stuff but don’t want to fulfill the obligation that’s expected of them. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2011, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enforce-the-third-amendment/600814/23 "2011-10-27T12:36:31Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > I would suspect that he is deeply in credit card debt. I was in the Navy as an enlisted man for 23 years and there is no way I could have afforded all of that as an E-5 by paying cash. Hell, even as an E-7 with four kids, it was no picnic. Ignore him. All that debt will eat his lunch before long. Or the family has “unknown” sources of income. I have a friend who lives well beyond the means his job provides, but no debt. Trust fund…Another whose mother send them the equivalent of their household income every year. Though given Hubzilla’s description of his sister in law, I suspect that its debt from a woman who is clueless. And yes, military wives seem to be a strange breed. We stayed with a friend whose husband was stationed in Germany in the late 90s for a few weeks. She’d call his CO with “you can’t make Tommy work twelve hour days, I need him at home.” As MsRobyn says, not a great career move. ---
**Author:** ![HubZilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ccd318/32.png) [@HubZilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HubZilla)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2011, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enforce-the-third-amendment/600814/24 "2011-10-27T21:15:47Z")
> [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](#): > > [Yeah, soldiers have it too easy.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005UZGMM0/ref=pd_lpo_k2_dp_sr_1?pf_rd_p=486539851&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=0740791966&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=15X4ZA4GN90NG3AWYMSX) Like I’ve said before, though, he’s not in an especially dangerous position (weather) and not going to a war zone. While I’m sure it’s not easy and the hours suck, working in an office at a military airport is not quite the same as patrolling Afghan mountains. I confess I have not read the book, but is it about infantry? I think I’ve seen less than 1 in 5 military members are in a trigger-pulling role. Besides, he’s not the one complaining. It’s the wife who gets the same benefits by merely being married to him. And yes, **MsRoybn** and **Dangerosa** she has called his unit to bring him home from a past overseas deployment because “her kids were driving her crazy.” ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Woodhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@Miss\_Woodhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Woodhouse)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2011, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enforce-the-third-amendment/600814/25 "2011-10-27T22:50:26Z")
As for the pre-school, if the children have learning disabilities as you say, it’s entirely possible the pre-school is free. Our local school district offers free pre-school to disabled and learning disabled children as part of a government grant program. If there is a Head Start program on base (not sure if that happens) that would also be free to the families who qualify. To address her complaining about Quatar, it’s different to accept something in theory than it is to face it for real. I know that living where I do means there will be snow every winter. I still choose to live here, but you had better believe that when the snow starts flying I whine a little bit. 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enforce-the-third-amendment/600814.md?page=1)