# Enough with the incompetent flirting **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 15, 2003, 10:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846 "2003-04-15T10:09:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2003, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/141 "2003-04-22T15:13:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Anahita \* > \*\*So, **jjimmm** , are they back from lunch? > > Does he have a black eye or a smile on his face? Answers, man! We need answers!!!\*\* Came back, smiling and joking like good mates. I guess I should change the title of the thread: “Well done with your irritating, unconventional, yet effective flirting”. ---
**Author:** ![Anahita](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9a28c/32.png) [@Anahita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anahita)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2003, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/142 "2003-04-22T15:14:21Z")
The conversation usually does take place post-coitally, which would explain the phenomenon. Is it really possible to think of nothing other than post-coitally? ---
**Author:** ![Anahita](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9a28c/32.png) [@Anahita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anahita)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2003, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/143 "2003-04-22T15:15:31Z")
I see a book published in his honour: “Men Who Annoy Women and the Women Who Love Them” ---
**Author:** ![Gary\_Kumquat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/4491bb/32.png) [@Gary\_Kumquat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gary_Kumquat)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2003, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/144 "2003-04-22T15:21:39Z")
For the first half hour post-coitus, I can usually just about remember to breath. Anything more than that, no chance. ---
**Author:** ![badmana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@badmana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badmana)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2003, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/145 "2003-04-22T15:33:16Z")
Umm…while I’m sleeping? ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2003, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/146 "2003-04-23T23:18:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Miller \* > \*\*C’mon, you telling me [this guy](http://www.no-nothingrock.com/articles/asianprince/) isn’t rollin’ in nookie? \*\* _"Sorry Ladies, I’m now taken by the most beautiful princess in the world. She is so hot, that she is even hotter than I am. I think that is good in a relationship. The girl should be the prettier one, or else she’ll feel insecure. I’m usually the prettier one. It’s been a long and hard search, but this prince is now taken. "_ Awwww! booo! no fair! _snorts_ So **jjimm** any update? ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/147 "2003-04-24T01:42:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by kabbes \* > \*\*Poor social skills? Incompetant flirting? > > May I just remind you all that I work in an office full of _actuaries_. > > I’ll take my prize now. > > pan \*\* How about a D&D tournament full of Ph.D. candidates in History of Science? I think we at least have a tie. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/148 "2003-04-24T06:34:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jjimm \* > \*\*Came back, smiling and joking like good mates. > > I guess I should change the title of the thread: “Well done with your irritating, unconventional, yet effective flirting”. \*\* Bloody hell. Really. I am still holding out for she was hungry. ---
**Author:** ![kabbes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e99b99/32.png) [@kabbes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kabbes)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/149 "2003-04-24T08:06:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Eva Luna \* > \*\*How about a D&D tournament full of Ph.D. candidates in History of Science? I think we at least have a tie. \*\* I was going to try to construct some kind of case, but there’s no arguing with this. I will not-so-reluctantly relinquish the title. But surely, at least, you don’t have to work with them day after day for the rest of your life? pan ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 8:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/150 "2003-04-24T08:20:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Eva Luna \* > \*\*How about a D&D tournament full of Ph.D. candidates in History of Science? I think we at least have a tie. \*\* Actually, I have one word: Why? ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 8:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/151 "2003-04-24T08:25:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Collounsbury \* > \*\*Actually, I have one word: > > Why? \*\* I was dating their visiting professor, otherwise sometimes known by my grad school classmates as the Sexy Soviet Scientist. He was a fan of experiencing the natives in their habitat. (Actually, I think he secretly got a kick out of the whole thing. It’s difficult to conceive of a bigger geek than a cross between a physicist and a historian.) ---
**Author:** ![sugaree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@sugaree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sugaree)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/152 "2003-04-24T17:00:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Collounsbury \* > \*\*Although come to think of it I should like to cultivate the more down and out image of the alcoholic expat who hangs around in bar/cafes all day reading the paper. > > An image that has always appealled to me, since reading of the French administrator who was fired for going to work drunk in his bathrobe for more than a year running. \*\* Actually, my mental image of you has always been of a drunk, a witty, cranky, erudite drunk, in a bathrobe at an outdoor cafe in the crowded marketplace of some loud, dusty, sunny city. With a laptop instead of a newspaper. Possibly with a small pet monkey. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Odds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/d_odds/32/2882_2.png) [@D\_Odds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Odds)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/153 "2003-04-24T18:41:06Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jjimm \* > Any (straight) man who says that is lying. Our default setting is boobs. Default may be boobs (okay, it _is_ boobs), but we’re not that one-dimensional. Sometimes we’ll be thinking about ass, and even occassionally legs (especially long shapely ones). I, however, am not a standard model. I’m usually thinking about my own great aphrodesiac, one of which I never have enough… **money**. Boobs comes a close second though. ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/154 "2003-04-24T19:55:49Z")
Hey, **jjim** , could you walk over to the girl and ask her something for me? Yeah, just go over there and ask her, simply, “The fuck?” Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/155 "2003-04-25T15:06:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KKBattousai \* > Yeah, just go over there and ask her, simply, “The fuck?” I vote for this too. Because unless he realized what a dork he looked like and came up to her with an abject apology involving phrasing something to the effect of “I realize I’ve been making a fool out of myself, but you’re just so attractive and seem like such an interesting, intelligent woman that I couldn’t see any way that you’d take notice of a guy like me unless I undertook extreme measures. I just hope that I haven’t ruined your impression of me too much, that I can drop the pretence, and we can talk like regular human beings,” then I really can’t understand why she wouldn’t have told him to bug off. ---
**Author:** ![j\_kat\_251](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/71c47a/32.png) [@j\_kat\_251](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j_kat_251)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/156 "2003-04-26T13:43:26Z")
> [@](#): > > I realize I’ve been making a fool out of myself, but \*\*you’re just so attractive and seem like such an interesting, intelligent woman that I couldn’t see any way that you’d take notice of a guy like me \*\*unless I undertook extreme measures. I just hope that I haven’t ruined your impression of me too much, that I can drop the pretence, and we can talk like regular human beings," then I really can’t understand why she wouldn’t have told him to bug off. Maybe after that he could have taken off her shoes and licked her feet. Jesus Christ, that isn’t exactly the way to get someone interested in you, lie prostrate before them. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/157 "2003-04-26T15:47:20Z")
It’s the only thing I could see as any way in which acting like a total dork and apparently pissing the woman off would eventually lead to her asking him out to lunch and them returning all smiles. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2003, 8:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/158 "2003-04-27T08:17:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by sugaree \* > \*\*Actually, my mental image of you has always been of a drunk, a witty, cranky, erudite drunk, in a bathrobe at an outdoor cafe in the crowded marketplace of some loud, dusty, sunny city. With a laptop instead of a newspaper. Possibly with a small pet monkey. \*\* Oddly enough, this is one of my sincere aspirations. ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2003, 12:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/159 "2003-04-27T12:19:50Z")
Here I was thinking of **Collounsbury** as a character in a Graham Greene novel, and it turns out he is more suited for one of Evelyn Waugh’s. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2003, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846/160 "2003-04-27T12:35:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by gobear \* > \*\*Here I was thinking of **Collounsbury** as a character in a Graham Greene novel, and it turns out he is more suited for one of Evelyn Waugh’s. \*\* Eh, who is Evelyn Waugh? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846.md?page=7) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enough-with-the-incompetent-flirting/168846.md?page=9)