# erection--going, going, gone..... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 31, 2001, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150 "2001-08-31T17:28:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Cap\_n\_Crude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Cap\_n\_Crude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cap_n_Crude)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2001, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/21 "2001-09-01T02:31:34Z")
Would somebody else, preferably somebody with an obviously female screen name, _please_ post to this forum now? If my name is the last one in this thread, I may never get a useful erection again. And not to brag, but that would be a loss for all of us. ---
**Author:** ![jane\_says](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jane\_says](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jane_says)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2001, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/22 "2001-09-01T02:41:23Z")
Here ya go, Cap’n. We’d hate to see you flying at anything but full mast. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![IceQueen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/34f0e0/32.png) [@IceQueen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IceQueen)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2001, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/23 "2001-09-01T03:03:16Z")
Never happened to me, but I’d suppose it’s horrible for both parties: Man: may feel like a failure Woman: may become insecure about own desirability ---
**Author:** ![xcheopis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/bc8723/32.png) [@xcheopis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xcheopis)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2001, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/24 "2001-09-01T03:31:15Z")
**Bunnygirl** , has the right idea. When this happened to me (well… us,) I did everything I could think of to be soothing and understanding. The problem came up (har!) a few times and then disappeared. My understanding attitude towards these things is one reason why I’m a good girlfriend. (The other is that I’ll let you roll over and go to sleep. 🙂 ) **IceQueen** , I was insecure for about two minutes and then I remembered some frank talks I’d had with older men, lo! these many years gone. Turned out to be excellent advice. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2001, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/25 "2001-09-01T06:46:46Z")
Sleep? Snuggle? I was thinking it would be an excellent time to ask him to go down on you. This would have many benefits, amoung them: 1.It would distract you both from an akward moment. 1. Hopefully it would repair his crushing sense of inadequacy by allowing him to use his other sexual talents (and hopefully he has these talents). 2. Concievably giving you head will turn him on so much the problem will clear itself up (I’ve heard of men who do not get turned on giving a women head, but I don’t cotton to them.) And of course the most important benefit: 1. He gives you head. Everybody wins. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2001, 9:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/26 "2001-09-01T09:59:20Z")
It’s happened to me twice, both due to over-intoxication. The first time, the lady pretended it was ok, but didn’t seem quite as taken with me. The second time, the lady punched me and muttered something…I didn’t catch it all… ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2001, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/27 "2001-09-01T16:08:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jarbabyj \* > **If I guy ever dared to go limp on me I’d punch him in the face and call him a mamma’s boy.** So your hubby’s a masochist? > [@](#): > > \*\*but that may be over the top. \*\* That _is_ good advice. Just thinking of you on top is getting me hard. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2001, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/28 "2001-09-01T16:24:57Z")
It’s never bothered me. I just keep on doing whatever I was doing. Most of sex doesn’t require an erect penis. ---
**Author:** ![Tony\_Montana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/278dde/32.png) [@Tony\_Montana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tony_Montana)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2001, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/29 "2001-09-02T04:12:38Z")
when i reach the point to where i can no longer pitch a tent. myself and the little misses are taking a trip to viagra falls. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2001, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/30 "2001-09-02T04:23:04Z")
Never happened to anyone I was with, but if it did, I imagine I’d just try that much harder to help him out. ---
**Author:** ![imthjckaz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/imthjckaz/32/3223_2.png) [@imthjckaz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/imthjckaz)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2001, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/31 "2001-09-02T04:40:03Z")
This has never happened to me, so I don’t know what causes it or how it can be prevented. I will say however, that I only have morning wood on days that end in y. ---
**Author:** ![DoctorJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctorj/32/2904_2.png) [@DoctorJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DoctorJ)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2001, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/32 "2001-09-02T05:15:01Z")
> [@](#): > > Tiredness, stress, performance anxiety, alcohol. In other words, medical school. ☹ Dr. J ---
**Author:** ![AwSnappity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a3d4f5/32.png) [@AwSnappity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AwSnappity)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2001, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/33 "2001-09-02T05:35:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by matt\_mcl \* > **Most of sex doesn’t require an erect penis.** This may be my inexperience showing through, but I’ve never heard anything like this. Please enlighten me. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2001, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/34 "2001-09-02T14:00:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by FireUnderpantsBoobs \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by matt\_mcl \* > > **Most of sex doesn’t require an erect penis.** > > This may be my inexperience showing through, but I’ve never heard anything like this. Please enlighten me. \*\* Please see my above post. Although that’s obviously not specifically what matt had in mind. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2001, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/35 "2001-09-02T14:33:42Z")
Maybe it means the guy is gay? I wonder if the women think that? I didn’t know alcohol does it, I read about it but don’t seem to think it happens from what I have heard. ---
**Author:** ![BunnyGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@BunnyGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BunnyGirl)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2001, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/36 "2001-09-04T12:48:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\* > Maybe it means the guy is gay? I wonder if the women think that? > > I didn’t know alcohol does it, I read about it but don’t seem to think it happens from what I have heard. \*\* Oh, Jesus, Mary and Joseph. #1, No, I personally wouldn’t think a guy is gay and #2, yes, alcohol is a depressant and can depress all nervous system function ( **Dr. J** , let me know if I’m wrong here) including, SURPRISE! sexual arousal. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2001, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/37 "2001-09-04T14:29:52Z")
BunnyGirl, a lot of the board members were probably conceived under the influence. Kinda doesn’t jive with what you said. I assume though, a guy who has a blood alcohol level 4 times legal might not be able to aim properly 🙂 Anyone notice that it seems that alcohol seems to turn women on? Just like hot tubs, they turn a woman on but a guy off. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2001, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/38 "2001-09-04T14:30:57Z")
Handy, you’re a miracle. ---
**Author:** ![BunnyGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@BunnyGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BunnyGirl)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2001, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/39 "2001-09-04T15:29:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\* > BunnyGirl, a lot of the board members were probably conceived under the influence. Kinda doesn’t jive with what you said. I assume though, a guy who has a blood alcohol level 4 times legal might not be able to aim properly 🙂 > > Anyone notice that it seems that alcohol seems to turn women on? Just like hot tubs, they turn a woman on but a guy off. \*\* **handy** , alcohol also lowers inhabitions, hence alcohol “turning on” women. Having one drink won’t make a guy unable to perform; having 15 drinks might. All depends on the individual. Feel free to make more generalizations. ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2001, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150/40 "2001-09-04T15:42:00Z")
We’d been drinking a bit and my former bf and I were rolling around and giggling when he sits up and starts wailing about not getting hard. I lent and hand and yeah, he was right. I casually said “Aw, he’ll be back”, pulled the covers back onto the bed and promptly fell asleep. And yeah, I was right: early next morning…he’s baaaaack. Just wait it out. I knew he wasn’t gay or impaired or broken, just not ready to make an appearance, even with happy naked me ready, willing and waiting. I figured if that wasn’t doing it for ‘him’, then we all may as well wait until it did. Nothing was going to make him come out to play if he was THAT ‘sleepy’. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erection-going-going-gone/79150.md?page=3)