# Erections while cuddling/spooning **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 31, 2009, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850 "2009-07-31T06:16:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2009, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/41 "2009-08-01T19:30:31Z")
I’m 27/F. I usually like it. Most of the time they’re already hard by the time I get there, so I get a kick out of feeling or seeing it happen. It’s the same reason I sometimes get grabby when they’re sleeping. Maybe this is just me… ---
**Author:** ![Mom-of-Andrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8c91f0/32.png) [@Mom-of-Andrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mom-of-Andrew)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2009, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/42 "2009-08-01T23:25:59Z")
> [@Idlewild](#): > > I like erections. They’re incontrovertible proof that at least the guy’s body digs my body. Ditto. To a lot of us, it’s a huge compliment. Even if nothing else happens. Female, 38 ---
**Author:** ![Flipshod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f19dbf/32.png) [@Flipshod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flipshod)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2009, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/43 "2009-08-02T04:45:56Z")
It sounds to me like some of you who are taking it at as a compliment, may be reading too much into it. It may or may not be a compliment, and it may or may not mean he wants to have sex. I could be with a woman I found unattractive and secretly hated and didn’t want to have sex with, but if we’re in bed spooning in our undies I’m liable to get an erection. YMMV:) ---
**Author:** ![SSG\_Schwartz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SSG\_Schwartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SSG_Schwartz)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2009, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/44 "2009-08-02T05:03:22Z")
> [@Flipshod](#): > > It sounds to me like some of you who are taking it at as a compliment, may be reading too much into it. It may or may not be a compliment, and it may or may not mean he wants to have sex. I could be with a woman I found unattractive and secretly hated and didn’t want to have sex with, but if we’re in bed spooning in our undies I’m liable to get an erection. YMMV:) Well, yeah, I’m in bed in my undies with my boss all the time, too. 😃 SSG Schwartz ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/45 "2009-08-03T13:22:10Z")
I discussed this thread with my gf during a particularly appropriate moment this weekend. She pointed out that it seems so normal that _spooning_ so often leads to _forking_. ---
**Author:** ![CutterJohn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/91b2a8/32.png) [@CutterJohn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CutterJohn)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/46 "2009-08-03T15:16:30Z")
[quote=“1920s Style “Death Ray”, post:39, topic:504850”] P.S. the dog doesn’t seem overly bothered by it. [/QUOTE] I am so happy I’m not the only one. And thank you, dope.. For years I have been awkwardly contorting myself to prevent excessive amounts of contact.. No longer! P.S. Guys.. Isn’t it the worst when you’re sporting some completely random wood, and your mom chooses that moment to decide she wants to hug you? ---
**Author:** ![Uncommon\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Uncommon\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncommon_Sense)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/47 "2009-08-03T19:29:38Z")
> [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](#): > > Lying down comfortably and holding byour entire body against the entire body of someone you (presumably) find attractive? There are people who _don’t_ get erections in such a situation? Yeah, right? I used to sleep with my current SO before we were sexually active and I’m sure I’ve buried a few woodies into her back while I was sleeping (with clothes on) with her. We’d spoon and sleep dressed and I’d have my arm wrapped around her body while we slept. I’ll ask her tonight if she ever noticed. Fast forward to now…I almost always get one when we’re just simply close together. Or when I simply think about us being close together. We have sex “too much” (in her words, although she doesn’t use the term “too much” I can tell by the look on her face that that’s what she means, lol) the way it is so my brain relates being close to her to “OMG!!..Orgasm near!! and fun stuff about to happen!!” So that’s my story… ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/48 "2009-08-03T20:22:04Z")
> [@CutterJohn](#): > > And thank you, dope.. For years I have been awkwardly contorting myself to prevent excessive amounts of contact.. No longer! Well, you know, there are probably some instances where even biology would be a lame excuse. ‘My grandma just died. Can you hold me? She was so sweet, I remember when she… What’s that pressing into my thigh?’ That sort of thing. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/49 "2009-08-03T20:47:01Z")
My wife is the outlier here, I suppose. When we cuddle (rarely), if I get arroused I have to make sure she doesn’t know, or she gets pissed off. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Toxylon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f05b48/32.png) [@Toxylon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Toxylon)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2009, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/50 "2009-08-05T08:27:44Z")
Even now that I’m in my 30’s and way less erectuous than I was ten years ago I still get a hard-on in five seconds flat from simply massaging my wife’s shoulders. ---
**Author:** ![bengangmo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@bengangmo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bengangmo)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2009, 11:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/51 "2009-08-05T11:27:35Z")
Not long after my wife and I got married I got into BIG trouble because I got an erection while dancing with one of her friends. According to her I was supposed to think of her friends the same way I think of my sister, and as such it was creepy for me to get an erection. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2009, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/52 "2009-08-05T12:41:47Z")
> [@bengangmo](#): > > Not long after my wife and I got married I got into BIG trouble because I got an erection while dancing with one of her friends. According to her I was supposed to think of her friends the same way I think of my sister, and as such it was creepy for me to get an erection. How did your wife know? Did the friend notice and say something? ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2009, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/53 "2009-08-05T15:40:35Z")
> [@AudreyK](#): > > I’ve just started seeing someone. Before he started coming over to my place, we’d find a quiet corner and stand together for as long as an hour, holding each other, talking, tickling each other, whatever. Are there no chairs in your universe that you have to stand in a corner together for an hour? My knees are unhappy just thinking of this! ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2009, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/54 "2009-08-05T19:52:13Z")
> [@kittenblue](#): > > Are there no chairs in your universe that you have to stand in a corner together for an hour? My knees are unhappy just thinking of this! Ha, mine too, now that I look back. Long story short, our relationship’s a secret. At the time, the only place we could spend any private time together was in a dark, quiet corner of a semi-public place not made for conversation. But thanks to the euphoria of a budding romance, the hour we’d spend standing felt like 10 minutes at most. ---
**Author:** ![Push\_You\_Down](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/push_you_down/32/9095_2.png) [@Push\_You\_Down](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Push_You_Down)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2009, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/55 "2009-08-05T23:38:57Z")
My girlfriend and I refer to this as giving her a cockshaped bruise. ---
**Author:** ![Nutty\_Bunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d07c76/32.png) [@Nutty\_Bunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nutty_Bunny)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/56 "2009-08-06T01:43:42Z")
A couple of weeks ago, I LOOKED AT my husband’s package when he was in his underwear and he got hard. He told me that’s all it took. We’re in our late 30s. ---
**Author:** ![bengangmo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@bengangmo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bengangmo)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/57 "2009-08-06T03:32:08Z")
[quote=“1920s Style “Death Ray”, post:52, topic:504850”] How did your wife know? Did the friend notice and say something? [/QUOTE] Friend didn’t notice, but boxers + tight jeans + young hormones = is that a banana in yer pocket or are ya just happy to see me? ---
**Author:** ![Runs\_With\_Scissors](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/278dde/32.png) [@Runs\_With\_Scissors](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Runs_With_Scissors)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/58 "2009-08-06T05:09:20Z")
I get hard from hand holding. I would expect any partner to be insulted if I didn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/59 "2009-08-06T05:21:54Z")
> [@bengangmo](#): > > Friend didn’t notice, but boxers + tight jeans + young hormones = is that a banana in yer pocket or are ya just happy to see me? See, that’s why I don’t like boxers. ---
**Author:** ![krazy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3da27b/32.png) [@krazy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/krazy)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2011, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850/60 "2011-04-11T20:18:45Z")
I am 16 and I was spooning with my gf last week and I had a boner the entire time we are a little young so “taking care of it” wasn’t really an option. She didn’t seem to mind but i really didnt ask, although we did make out for a while so it must not have bugged her. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/erections-while-cuddling-spooning/504850.md?page=4)