# Ethics of Suicide (tangent from "van lifer goes missing" thread)

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [November 26, 2021, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ethics-of-suicide-tangent-from-van-lifer-goes-missing-thread/955159 "2021-11-26T04:16:38Z")
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### Author: ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)
#### Post date: [November 27, 2021, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ethics-of-suicide-tangent-from-van-lifer-goes-missing-thread/955159/10 "2021-11-27T17:15:52Z")

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> [@Van lifer goes missing on cross country trip with fiancee](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/van-lifer-goes-missing-on-cross-country-trip-with-fiancee/950604/1326):
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> I would expect the criminal justice system would still continue investigating her murder even with him dead.

I would expect the opposite, to be honest. It’s slightly more likely the CJS would continue to look into it because Gaby was a pretty young White woman, but I still doubt anything more will be done.

> [@Van lifer goes missing on cross country trip with fiancee](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/van-lifer-goes-missing-on-cross-country-trip-with-fiancee/950604/1326):
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> I’m having hard time with the concept of a selfish suicide. It’s counterintuitive to me that eliminating ones-self can be selfish.

On the contrary, I assume any suicide is selfish and self-centered until proven otherwise. Causing pain to others is supremely selfish and a dick move. Removing yourself deliberately as Laundrie did without making even a token effort to answer the questions of a deceased person’s family is also selfish and a dick move. I am continually baffled that people could think suicide is NOT selfish. Not that I doubt your feelings or opinions - I don’t doubt your self-reporting of your mental state - I just don’t “get” it.

Happy to agree to disagree on this.

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