# Ever been hated? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 19, 2007, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702 "2007-05-19T06:52:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Rodgers01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b19c9b/32.png) [@Rodgers01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rodgers01)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/1 "2007-05-19T06:52:41Z")
I’m a substitute teacher, and on a recent three-day assignment, I made myself very unpopular with some of the students (long story, but the gist of it is that I wouldn’t give them a bonus assignment until I saw that they’d completed their homework – apparently that was unforgiveable of me :rolleyes: ). So, I knew the kids were mad at me, but I recently ran into one of them who liked me, but enthusiastically told me about how much the others _hated_ me: “They _really_ hate you, Mr. R, I mean _HATE_ you. After class they all kept saying, ‘Boy, we f—ing _hate_ Mr. R!,’” etc. etc. Although I’m sure it was a shallow kind of hate (at least I hope!), I was still a bit disturbed by the idea. I’ve never been told I was hated before, aside from in fights with siblings growing up. Oh, I’m sure there may have been people before who hated me (you never know how people really feel about you), but I’ve never been told so. How about you? Ever been hated? ---
**Author:** ![gladtobeblazed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/85f322/32.png) [@gladtobeblazed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gladtobeblazed)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 7:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/2 "2007-05-19T07:05:46Z")
As the lone conservative in the dorm I was living in on a very liberal college campus, I can say yes, I have been hated. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/3 "2007-05-19T07:06:12Z")
**Happy Scrappy Hero Pup** referred to his personal hatred of me not long ago. I’ve been called things and had rhetoric aimed at me that sound like various posters hate me. And as an atheist and liberal there’s any number of people who hate me on principle, but that can be said of anyone. ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 7:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/4 "2007-05-19T07:22:01Z")
I’m a Mod. ---
**Author:** ![Zoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a4c791/32.png) [@Zoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zoe)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 7:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/5 "2007-05-19T07:45:12Z")
Yes. Someone in my family is mentally ill. That illness has distorted her thoughts and feelings to the point that she holds me in absolute contempt. I have no idea why. There isn’t anything I can do. It has torn the family apart. This is what untreated mental illness can do to the brightest of people and the most wonderful laughing families. ---
**Author:** ![chowder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/977dab/32.png) [@chowder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chowder)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 7:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/6 "2007-05-19T07:45:30Z")
[QUOTE=Der Trihs] **Happy Scrappy Hero Pup** referred to his personal hatred of me not long ago. I’ve been called things and had rhetoric aimed at me that sound like various posters hate me. And as an atheist and liberal there’s any number of people who hate me on principle, but that can be said of anyone. [/QUOTE] I doubt very much if he or anyone _really_ hates you, after all they don’t know you apart from this board. I don’t like your stance on certain matters but I certainly don’t hate you, or anyone for that matter. Matter of fact there used to be a poster called “alderberanin” or summink and I really disliked him, but hate, no. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 9:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/7 "2007-05-19T09:54:17Z")
I was hated, once upon a time. Back in Junior High School ( i tink they call it middle schoold now) I went to a school dance. I remember being surrounded in a circle by the high and mighty of the social circle. All screaming at me ARE YOU GAY ARE YOU GAY ARE YOU GAY I had to crawl out of there and walk home … funny thing is, I’m NOT gay. Athough, if I ws it wasnt’ those bastard’s business. So yes, I’ve been hated. Through no fault of my own, other than being a weird geek kid. I recieved one invitation to high school renunion. I replied to the girl that , no offence to her, I wouldn’t spit on those wretches if their asses were on fire. Thankfully, she’s not sent me any more. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 10:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/8 "2007-05-19T10:14:17Z")
I suspect so. IRL I am someone people seem to really like or really dislike. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 10:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/9 "2007-05-19T10:14:47Z")
Same here as **NinetyWt**. First year of highschool, a comittee in my class formed of about seven girls who informed me, in Religion class before the teacher got in, that they hated me. I hadn’t done anything to them, I avoided them whenever I could. I’m also sure my brother hated me in elementary school. He was three years older then me, and at that age when fitting in with your peers is a life or death matter. And here I was, a dreamy geeky weird kid who damaged his reputation just by existing. So my brother vented his frustration on me by taunting me and beating me up when we were alone at home, about three times a week. ---
**Author:** ![TheLoadedDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@TheLoadedDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLoadedDog)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 11:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/10 "2007-05-19T11:30:26Z")
Yes. Multiple times. Sometimes I’ve been hated by scumbags, because I am their own worst nightmare. I don’t mind that so much. Other times, it’s to do with family law, and I’d best not comment without first consulting my solicitor… ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 11:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/11 "2007-05-19T11:56:29Z")
[QUOTE=tomndebb] I’m a Mod. [/QUOTE] I’ll see that and raise you an “I asked **Mrs. ToKnow** for a divorce.” While I don’t necessarily believe _she_ hates me, she’s got family and friends all over this great land of ours. ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/12 "2007-05-19T13:14:46Z")
Does hating oneself count? ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/13 "2007-05-19T13:23:58Z")
Most of my childhood. By my mother. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/14 "2007-05-19T13:27:07Z")
Lots of my patients hate me for not prescribing them narcotics. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/15 "2007-05-19T13:52:47Z")
I once got a friend of mine a job at the tiny company where I was working; she told a series of outrageous lies about me and got me fired. Dunno if she hated me or not, but it sure as shit felt like it. ---
**Author:** ![Red\_Stilettos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/fbc32d/32.png) [@Red\_Stilettos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Red_Stilettos)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/16 "2007-05-19T14:10:25Z")
A friend of mine’s wife told her husband that she hates me. She actually used the word hate. Apparently, I was after her husband when they got together. :rolleyes: She even told her husband (after 3 years of marriage) that if I would admit it and apologize, she would be over it. Yeah, right. The best part was that I briefly dated someone shortly after the hating commenced. For the two weeks that I was attached, she acted like we were friends. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![fishbicycle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aeb1de/32.png) [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/17 "2007-05-19T14:21:52Z")
Yes, by my family. There can’t be any other explanation for why they treated me like they did, and why none of them, except my youngest brother, has spoken to me for years. I have two nephews I’ve never met, one whose picture I’ve never seen. They know how to contact me, but they never have. Good riddance, and all that. I’m better off without them. ---
**Author:** ![chowder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/977dab/32.png) [@chowder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chowder)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/18 "2007-05-19T14:22:55Z")
[QUOTE=tomndebb] I’m a Mod. [/QUOTE] He said hated, not universally loathed and detested 😃 ---
**Author:** ![GuyNblueJeans](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e9bcb4/32.png) [@GuyNblueJeans](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuyNblueJeans)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/19 "2007-05-19T14:36:50Z")
It’s too long to go into, but yes; I know what real hate is. When I was around 9 God jacked my puny soul up during a hellish nightmare and told me that He hates me. Been getting a major attitude adjustment ever since. ---
**Author:** ![Fionn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Fionn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fionn)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702/20 "2007-05-19T14:44:30Z")
I’ve been hated by plenty of people, as the jobs and leadership positions I’ve held are tailor-made to piss some people off, whether it was back when I was trying to get some members of my high school’s newspaper staff to actually _write_ something rather than sit around talking or when I have to enforce university policy now. I’m used to it and I have a good support, so it rolls off my back. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-been-hated/404702.md?page=2)