# Ever break-up then get married or similar? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 21, 2014, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894 "2014-05-21T04:19:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/1 "2014-05-21T04:19:47Z")
I broke up with my wife when we were dating. Then about a day or two later I tried to get back together with her. Thanks to one of her friends and my dad (I heard about it later) she gave me another chance. I also got a car so I appeared more successful than before. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/2 "2014-05-21T04:56:07Z")
How was your dad involved in your (soon-to-be) wife’s decision to take you back? Either it’s late and I’m just too tired to read properly or your OP is missing some things. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/3 "2014-05-21T04:59:21Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > How was your dad involved in your (soon-to-be) wife’s decision to take you back? Either it’s late and I’m just too tired to read properly or your OP is missing some things. I got a car and I think I drove me and my dad to her place to meet as “friends”. Then when I wasn’t near the both of them I assumed he asked her. Or maybe he did it on the phone but I don’t think so. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/4 "2014-05-21T05:00:17Z")
I broke up with a boyfriend after nine months together, then about two years later we got back together for another couple of years. Ultimately we never got married but we’ve stayed friends. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/5 "2014-05-21T05:06:01Z")
When we were engaged we broke up, then got back together. It might be more common than people who never break up before getting married. ---
**Author:** ![wguy123](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wguy123/32/3161_2.png) [@wguy123](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wguy123)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/6 "2014-05-21T14:31:06Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > I got a car and I think I drove me and my dad to her place to meet as “friends”. Then when I wasn’t near the both of them I assumed he asked her. Or maybe he did it on the phone but I don’t think so. Your dad asked your former girlfriend on a date? :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Isilder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/cc9497/32.png) [@Isilder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isilder)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/7 "2014-05-21T14:44:28Z")
gee, who didn’t have some sort of break up with their girlfriend. The important thing is that they admit fault , or at least give a rational explanation of some part of they are all upset about… what it all means ? ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/8 "2014-05-21T14:48:44Z")
> [@Isilder](#): > > gee, who didn’t have some sort of break up with their girlfriend. My parents. Both pairs of grandparents. Three of my father’s siblings. My maternal aunt and both of her husbands… In my family, the count of people who didn’t is a lot longer than that of those who did (these being one of my uncles and one of my cousins, evidently each of them with his respective then-gf rather than with each other). ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/9 "2014-05-21T15:00:29Z")
I did. My then-girlfriend was putting a lot of pressure on me to commit to marriage and come up with a date, and I got scared and broke it off. Later, we got back together and got married. ---
**Author:** ![GESancMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gesancman/32/2923_2.png) [@GESancMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GESancMan)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/10 "2014-05-21T15:19:49Z")
I dated a girl for a year and a half right after high school. I broke up with her, and we had no contact for twenty years, until we bumped into each other… We’ve been together for three and a half years this time around, and still going strong. ---
**Author:** ![blindboyard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blindboyard/32/2833_2.png) [@blindboyard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blindboyard)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/11 "2014-05-21T15:44:28Z")
Not me, but a girl I know was engaged to her boyfriend until he dumped her, by text message, on Valentine’s day. They’re happily married now. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/12 "2014-05-21T16:05:59Z")
My brother broke up with his girlfriend at university - she dumped him. Then 10 years later they got back together and are blissfully married. ---
**Author:** ![Cell\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@Cell\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cell_Guy)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/13 "2014-05-21T17:23:18Z")
My wife and I dated briefly about 20 years ago. We broke up, lost touch and married other people. During both of our divorces we reconnected and started dating. Once my divorce was final I broke up with her (wanting to experience freedom or something like that). About a month later I realized my life was better with her in it. Luckily she took me back and now we’re living happily ever after. ---
**Author:** ![epbrown01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@epbrown01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/epbrown01)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/14 "2014-05-21T18:51:18Z")
My sister broke up with her boyfriend. Six months later they got back together, got married a year after that, got divorced about 9 months later. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/15 "2014-05-21T19:12:26Z")
The closest we ever got to that was when I said something stupid during an argument about wanting to break up. That lasted about 8 hours. Although we also lived together so that barely counts as breaking up. I can’t really imagine getting back with someone I had a real break up with. It’s been 15 years since my last ex and we just started talking at all again recently. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/16 "2014-05-21T19:14:50Z")
I broke up with my wife after 4 months of dating and got back with her a year or two later. ---
**Author:** ![Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/intergalactic_gladiator/32/112_2.png) [@Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Intergalactic_Gladiator)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/17 "2014-05-21T19:49:20Z")
My wife wanted to break up with me one of the reasons being that she didn’t think I was very good father material. We got back together after we realized we were pregnant and have been married for 12 years now. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/18 "2014-05-21T21:08:03Z")
It never happened to me, but it did to my grandmother. She told me how she and my grandfather were engaged, had a fight, broke up, got back together, and then married secretly a week later. (Grandma didn’t want to lose her teaching job for the year0 They were married for 54 years, then Grandma was a widow for over 31 years. ---
**Author:** ![River\_Hippie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/river_hippie/32/26_2.png) [@River\_Hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/River_Hippie)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2014, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/19 "2014-05-21T22:21:41Z")
My first girlfriend broke her engagement to one of my friends to date me. This happened without me making any overtures towards her beforehand. We dated for a couple months before her ex wooed her back. (Should have stopped there!) After a short time she decided she had been happier with me after all, so we got back together and after a year or so we moved in together. We got married after a year of living together and stayed married for another six before getting divorced and going our separate ways. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/20 "2014-05-22T00:50:14Z")
> [@wguy123](#): > > Your dad asked your former girlfriend on a date? :smack: My dad asked my former girlfriend if she could give me another chance. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894.md?page=2)