# Ever break-up then get married or similar? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 21, 2014, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894 "2014-05-21T04:19:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![epbrown01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@epbrown01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/epbrown01)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/21 "2014-05-22T05:03:59Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > My dad asked my former girlfriend if she could give me another chance. I had a gf’s parents do that once; it was kinda weird. It wasn’t why we didn’t get back together, though. ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 10:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/22 "2014-05-22T10:37:30Z")
I’ve seen a few couples who cannot stand being married yet still manage to be close friends. ---
**Author:** ![Turpentine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecd19e/32.png) [@Turpentine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turpentine)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/23 "2014-05-22T12:47:48Z")
I do think it’s more common than you might think. I broke up with my husband when we were dating, then got back together and got married. Off the top of my head I can think of two presidents- Mr. Lincoln got into a fight with Mary Todd in the early 1840s when they were courting, then got back together and married. Also Teddy Roosevelt- he dated a women named Edith in high school or maybe college, then broke up and married Alice. Alice died a few days after childbirth, and eventually TR courted Edith again and married her. The daughter of that first marriage, also named Alice, didn’t get along with Edith so well. ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/24 "2014-05-22T13:23:41Z")
> [@Intergalactic\_Gladiator](#): > > My wife wanted to break up with me one of the reasons being that she didn’t think I was very good father material. We got back together after we realized we were pregnant and have been married for 12 years now. You didn’t realize that you were married for 12 years? :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![August\_West](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/august_west/32/18069_2.png) [@August\_West](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/August_West)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/25 "2014-05-22T15:49:49Z")
My wife dumped me when we were dating because I was a futureless deadbeat, it inspired me to get my shit together and after a few months I was confident enough to ask her out again. We’ve been married 13 years now. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/26 "2014-05-22T16:35:31Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > I’ve seen a few couples who cannot stand being married yet still manage to be close friends. I’m one of them. My ex-wife is my best pal. She lives a couple of miles away. She has “partial custody” of our dog. We’re on each other’s medical directives. No way we’re ever going to be married again. The parents of a friend of mine got divorced when she was in college. Eight years later they got married again. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/27 "2014-05-22T16:47:57Z")
When I was younger (like college aged) I seemed to know a lot of people who went through horrible breakups of long-term relationships (through high school) and then quickly married the next person they dated. It was weird. My best friends were high school sweethearts and they broke up for a couple weeks in college, before they got married. The dude got a little bit of the cold feet, since he had never dated anyone else since he was 15, and thought maybe he was missing out. He realized he wasn’t, and they’ve been married for like 15 years. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2014, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/28 "2014-05-22T21:35:18Z")
> [@Baker](#): > > It never happened to me, but it did to my grandmother. She told me how she and my grandfather were engaged, had a fight, broke up, got back together, and then married secretly a week later. (Grandma didn’t want to lose her teaching job for the year0 > > They were married for 54 years, then Grandma was a widow for over 31 years. Did you grandma get married when she was 10? ---
**Author:** ![epbrown01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@epbrown01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/epbrown01)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2014, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/29 "2014-05-24T02:16:51Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > My best friends were high school sweethearts and they broke up for a couple weeks in college, before they got married. The dude got a little bit of the cold feet, since he had never dated anyone else since he was 15, and thought maybe he was missing out. He realized he wasn’t, and they’ve been married for like 15 years. A friend of mine did that. Dated the same guy since she was 14 but broke up at 20 to “see what was out there.” Married him a few months later, just had their 30th anniversary. That’d be a good thread, seeing if anyone ever decided they were actually missing out. I know one friend did the same thing and decided she wasn’t missing anything but her longtime bf had married someone on the rebound within months. She counts it as a big tragedy but she really just wanted him back because she got dumped (a pattern she repeated for the next 20 years). ---
**Author:** ![hogarth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hogarth/32/1773_2.png) [@hogarth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hogarth)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2014, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/30 "2014-05-24T02:45:46Z")
I had been dating a girl for a few weeks until she angrily stormed out on me. I assumed I would never see her again, but the following week she changed her mind about storming out and she asked me to get back together. We’ve been married for over 8.5 years now. ---
**Author:** ![congodwarf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e36b37/32.png) [@congodwarf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/congodwarf)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2014, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/31 "2014-05-24T18:47:19Z")
Together: 1999-2007 Apart: 2007-2009. Together: 2009-current. Basically I had a mental breakdown and left him and the state. He remained my best friend and helped me get my demons under control (him and antidepressants). As soon as I was ready, he took me back. He’s a keeper. Not sure I am but he seems to think so and that’s all that matters. ---
**Author:** ![flatlined](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/eb9ed0/32.png) [@flatlined](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flatlined)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2014, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/32 "2014-05-25T06:18:34Z")
I broke things off with my now-husband 4 times. This was because I had issues with his age and income level. (both way too high for my comfort levels) I’m happily married now and am not a trophy wife. ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2014, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/33 "2014-05-25T23:40:18Z")
I met my wife when she visited her friend when I was in college. We had a one-year long distance relationship, then broke up. About a year later when I was in grad school I visited her, it clicked, but then we got our wires crossed about the future and broke up again. About 2 1/2 years later I visited her in grad school, though we got along we didn’t really get together. A year after that we started talking again, I invited her to help me move, and we got engaged. This was probably a good thing since we were too immature to be serious when we first met, and we figured out we couldn’t really stay away from each other. ---
**Author:** ![Why\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b782af/32.png) [@Why\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Why_Child)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2014, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/34 "2014-05-26T02:59:47Z")
My uncle (a notorious cheapskate and all-around not nice guy,) dated my aunt for 16 years, fabricating reasons to break up with her before her birthday, Valentine’s Day and Christmas… you know, those gift giving occasions… :rolleyes: the ones that might cost him money… anyway, he finally married her, and they’ve been together a little less than 50 years. Amazing, and kind of sad. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2014, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894/35 "2014-05-27T17:31:32Z")
We have instructed **JohnClay** to refrain from all posting on his relationship with his wife, including, but not limited to, sex through July 1, 2014. To help him comply with this instruction, I am closing this thread. **twickster** , MPSIMS moderator [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-break-up-then-get-married-or-similar/688894.md?page=1)