# Ever find your self image is out of date?

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [October 26, 2005, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-find-your-self-image-is-out-of-date/328058 "2005-10-26T20:47:47Z")\
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**Author:** ![Podkayne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@Podkayne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Podkayne)\
**Post date:** [October 27, 2005, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-find-your-self-image-is-out-of-date/328058/21 "2005-10-27T23:58:31Z")

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I lost a modest amount of weight, and I am constantly getting freaked out by what I see in the mirror. What the hell happened to my thighs? I keep worrying that one morning I’ll wake up and discover they’re baaaaaaack!!!

And what the hell size do I wear in . . . ANYTHING? As long as I could remember I wore a size 14 pants, and an XL shirt. Now I wear . . . um . . . GAWD, I don’t KNOW! I put on a size 12 pants and it falls off my hips. I put on a size 10 and it cuts at the waist and cups and sculps every remaining glob of fat on gut and ass. I put on a size large shirt, thinking, no way will this will fit on me, and it’s too large. Except that the next large I try, the buttons are about to pop open.

And everything’s a MOVING TARGET. I have to wear a belt to keep up pants I bought a month ago. I don’t know if I was just temporarily insane when I bought them. I thought they maybe fit right the first couple of times I wore them, but maybe I was just insane then, too.

Do not talk to me about bras.

Just do not.

I’m serious.

I know this sounds whiney, and I’m really not fishing for weight-loss compliments . . . I just wish I could freakin’ dress myself in the morning!!!

Aside from that, I self-identify as polyamorous, and still am, philosphically. But, uh, inactively, I guess. It’s hard enough to meet hot, smart poly or poly-tolerant guys when you’re 20 and single . . . Now, I know _one_. And I’m married to him.

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**Author:** ![Barrels](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b5a626/32.png) [@Barrels](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barrels)\
**Post date:** [October 28, 2005, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-find-your-self-image-is-out-of-date/328058/22 "2005-10-28T20:41:17Z")

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I have been going thru the same thing of late.

I look in the mirrow and think there is no way I weigh what I do. I am not really that fat\*, I do stuff, I eat right what is the deal?

Then I try to think about other people my age that are the same size as I am and I think “I am not that big, or shaped like that. Am I?”

Very confusing.

\*Fat as in "I have gained 50+ pounds in like 4 years.

Barrels

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