# Ever had an actual love/hate relationship? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 7, 2007, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-had-an-actual-love-hate-relationship/399127 "2007-04-07T20:28:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2007, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-had-an-actual-love-hate-relationship/399127/1 "2007-04-07T20:28:28Z")
As described here (from the “romantic comedy” thread); [QUOTE=Ferret Herder] If you meet someone (of your appropriate gender preference) at a new job or in a similar new situation and immediately feel extreme dislike of that person, to the point where the two of you begin making nasty comments about each other, you might as well just start screwing each other right now. It’ll save time waiting for the job project/other desperate situation where the two of you have to work together to accomplish something important, during which you share an impassioned kiss immediately after a fight. [/QUOTE] I have never personally had a relationship like this, so I was wondering if any of you out there had. Includes an instant feeling of loathing upon first contact which inevitably leads to an incredibly passionate relationship… ---
**Author:** ![WishIHadACoolName](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a587f6/32.png) [@WishIHadACoolName](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WishIHadACoolName)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2007, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-had-an-actual-love-hate-relationship/399127/2 "2007-04-07T21:39:08Z")
Yep. Been there. In fact, I mentioned him in the “did you ever have a crush that led to more” thread some months ago. We’re still friends. Our relationship was amazing. Nothing like it before or since. But I HATED him when we first met, and in fact told our mutual friend how much I hated him. But now, I can look back at all of it, smile, and hope that he smiles about it too. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2007, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-had-an-actual-love-hate-relationship/399127/3 "2007-04-07T21:50:44Z")
Oh yeah. I used to work with a woman that I absolutely _detested_. Let’s see… she was casually rascist. She was totally negative about everyone we worked with, and constantly cut me down and back-stabbed me over work-stuff. She thought it was cool to hang out with Hell’s Angels “affiliates.” She was a _bitch bitch bitch_, and proud of it. Really, she was a horrible person, and we were both full of contempt for each other. The sex was spectacular, and there was never any angsty “relationship” stuff. ---
**Author:** ![pokey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ebca7d/32.png) [@pokey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pokey)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2007, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-had-an-actual-love-hate-relationship/399127/4 "2007-04-07T23:41:33Z")
Have I ever! I went out with someone I really hated for 2 years. He was mean, ugly, stupid and terrible in bed. Yet somehow at the same time he was adorable and sexy and easy to talk to. I think we fought every single day. Nobody on earth could make me angrier and I still miss him. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2007, 7:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-had-an-actual-love-hate-relationship/399127/5 "2007-04-08T07:56:30Z")
Until I met My Guy, I thought \*\*\*all \*\*\*relationships were love/hate.