# Ever have an online fling? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 2, 2016, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956 "2016-07-02T21:35:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2016, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/1 "2016-07-02T21:35:03Z")
As some have noticed, my marriage is not, um, what one might want and hasn’t been in decades. Some years back I had an online “fling” that lasted a year. Over that time I might’ve fallen in love with her, but I don’t think I’m emotionally mature enough to experience love. Be that as may be, my daughter and niece met their future/present husbands online, so I know it can work out well, but I am more interested in affairs. We’re anonymous here, so dish. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2016, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/2 "2016-07-02T22:11:56Z")
What is an “online fling”? Is that like having your Sim have sex with another Sim? Jesus, I just dated myself, and not in the good way. Does that game even exist any more? Stranger ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/3 "2016-07-03T00:19:59Z")
What game? They have a game for that? [/dating myself] No, a cyber affair. In my case it was in a chatroom and she (nobody you know) had a webcam. A very naughty webcam. We had met IRL and she STILL wanted to pretend to have sex with me. ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/4 "2016-07-03T00:38:25Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > We had met IRL and she STILL wanted to pretend to have sex with me. I…I just…I don’t know what this means. The words are all English but it doesn’t parse into any concept that I can comprehend. Was she like Pam Poovey with a bucket of rape dolls, or…? Stranger ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/5 "2016-07-03T01:09:12Z")
: old rolleyes: No, she was a beautiful human female who took a shine to me. Confused me, but not as much as it does you. Can we let it go? ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/6 "2016-07-03T01:17:41Z")
> [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](#): > > What is an “online fling”? Is that like having your Sim have sex with another Sim? > > Jesus, I just dated myself, and not in the good way. Does that game even exist any more? > > Stranger You dated yourself? You mean SIM Stranger had a fling with SIM On a Train? Sounds kinky! ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/7 "2016-07-03T01:29:49Z")
Does that make him Farley Granger or Robert Walker? ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/8 "2016-07-03T01:37:43Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > What game? They have a game for that? [/dating myself] > > No, a cyber affair. In my case it was in a chatroom and she (nobody you know) had a webcam. A very naughty webcam. We had met IRL and she STILL wanted to pretend to have sex with me. Was it something like this? (spoiler for mild NSFW content). Her: _“Yeah baby, I’m sliding this dildo right up me and imagining it’s your cock pumping, in and out, in and out…”_ You: _“…ummm…, I’m in the room you know? And so is my cock. We don’t have to pretend…”_ ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/9 "2016-07-03T01:42:39Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > : old rolleyes: No, she was a beautiful human female who took a shine to me. Confused me, but not as much as it does you. Can we let it go? Yeah, sorry, I really wasn’t trying to be a dick about it. I’m just seriously confused by everything dating, and despite my affinity for encryption and coding massive Python projects, the digital versions are no less comprehensible to my pathetic social brain. > [@Northern\_Piper](#): > > You dated yourself? I wish I could because while it might not go any better than my dates with others, at least I’d never get stood up or go home alone. Also, I’d understand all of my stupid thermodynamics jokes and would never have to mentally debate the impression ordering a third drink will have. On the other hand my stories aren’t very interesting even if I hadn’t already heard them before and it is tough to surprise yourself with clever wordplay. Stranger ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/10 "2016-07-03T01:55:50Z")
> [@Richard\_Pearse](#): > > Was it something like this? (spoiler for mild NSFW content). > > Her: _“Yeah baby, I’m sliding this dildo right up me and imagining it’s your cock pumping, in and out, in and out…”_ > You: _“…ummm…, I’m in the room you know? And so is my cock. We don’t have to pretend…”_ Yeah, pretty much. Nothing I’m proud of, just looking for the similarly embarrassed. And not for asexual Python coders. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/11 "2016-07-03T02:05:43Z")
I’m not asexual, just catastrophically unsuccessful. My dating protocols are all asynchronous and lack parity bit checking. I swear I don’t make these kinds of jokes on dates. Very often. Not more than twice an hour. Stranger ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/12 "2016-07-03T02:19:48Z")
Coders. [Where is the dismissive smilie?] 😉 Okay, it appears that, of all the people on this board, I’m the only one to admit this. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/13 "2016-07-03T02:39:50Z")
In my ITish day there was a cow-orker in that department who depended on me to pull her cute ass out of PC fires. There came a point when her coworkers, cousins, said, “She’s using you because you have a crush on her and she does AS400s on!y.” “She looks like Christa Miller. What is your point?” Then she got pregnant by her husband. Cousins warned me she got psycho when she was pregnant. Ain’t no lie. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2016, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/14 "2016-07-03T20:41:26Z")
Okay, maybe my focus was too narrow. You are better people than I. Let’s go with temptation. Did the devil on your left shoulder ever tempt you to stray? ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2016, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/15 "2016-07-04T01:07:13Z")
I had an online thing, not really a fling. We have been talking for 16 years. For a while it was on a daily basis. It got intense, but mostly a romantic kind of interest, not sexual. Sometimes though. 🙂 He found a real girl eventually when it was obvious I never wanted to meet. I would love to have a just-online fling! That sounds like the perfect relationship for me. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2016, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/16 "2016-07-04T01:53:08Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > I had an online thing, not really a fling. We have been talking for 16 years. For a while it was on a daily basis. It got intense, but mostly a romantic kind of interest, not sexual. Sometimes though. 🙂 > > He found a real girl eventually when it was obvious I never wanted to meet. I would love to have a just-online fling! That sounds like the perfect relationship for me. It kinda is. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2016, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/17 "2016-07-04T15:27:19Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > It kinda is. It’s official. I really am that shallow. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2016, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/18 "2016-07-04T16:35:50Z")
It’s the ultimate safe sex. I haven’t, but I know people who have. I think they have their purpose. They can be an outlet for people who aren’t in a position to be in a ‘real’ relationship. That said, I know a few people who use them to avoid having a ‘real’ relationship, or they take it more seriously than the other person and get hurt when they find out that it is just a game. In an online relationship you really have no idea who the other person is. Like I told one of my friends, you think she is a 30 something beautiful woman. In reality, she is a 75 year old, 500 hundred pound, pasty white man, with a bald head, and nose and ear hair. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2016, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/19 "2016-07-04T18:32:39Z")
Only admittedly 62 and male, m’dear. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2016, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ever-have-an-online-fling/758956/20 "2016-07-05T00:50:44Z")
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