# Everyone should know what an asshole Budget Player Cadet is **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 13, 2014, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027 "2014-04-13T18:22:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/181 "2014-04-16T14:58:05Z")
The repeated references to 14-year old retards are obnoxious. The story wasn’t all that complicated–the mother was calling gender dysphoria a form of retardation and the 16 year old girl turned out to be a 16 year old trans boy (or gender variant in some way). Sure, BPC seems to find himself in weird relationships with younger people with issues, but it isn’t pedophilia or abuse of the developmentally disabled. Jews as vermin, now that was stupid. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/182 "2014-04-16T14:59:06Z")
> [@Debaser](#): > > Trying to keep your stories straight isn’t the same thing as trying to make decent posts. The effort it must take is staggering really. I wonder if he has to go back and re-read all of his old threads before he starts a new one just to try and keep it straight. \*\*Guin \*\*should share her spreadsheet with him, it might help. ---
**Author:** ![Budget\_Player\_Cadet](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/budget_player_cadet/32/205_2.png) [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Budget_Player_Cadet)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/183 "2014-04-16T15:20:29Z")
The number of times I have changed my “story” since I learned what really happened (not very long afterwards) is 0. I have been entirely consistent with my posts since that thread over a year ago. ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/184 "2014-04-16T16:44:53Z")
> [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](#): > > Basically none of this is true. And you continue to play his game on his field by his rules. :smack:. ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/185 "2014-04-16T16:55:05Z")
> [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](#): > > Because I know of at least one person who I corrected on this issue. I don’t like being perceived as a pedophile or a pervert, and I think the one thing I can do that’s worse than correcting these accusations when they come up is to ignore them and let them fester. I never bring it up myself; I just point out how they’re wrong and why in the hopes that sooner or later it becomes very uncool to keep accusing me of being a pedophile. You are wrong. Period. This board has three groups of posters: - The vast majority who probably never read threads in which you post, know nothing about you, and could not care less about you. - A smaller group of posters who have encountered you on threads on science, politics, history, and so forth who would either like to read what you said in order to learn more or who disagree with you and wish to dispute your statements. - A tiny group of people who have latched onto some personal statements that you should probably have never posted outside an overtly friendly forum, who have now decided to play with you by deliberately distorting what you said or accepting the distortions of others, simply to taunt you. Nothing you say will change their minds that you are an easy target for their games. So you changed the mind of “one person”? Consider yourself lucky that that actually happened, then shut up and stop giving the taunters more ammunition. ---
**Author:** ![Budget\_Player\_Cadet](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/budget_player_cadet/32/205_2.png) [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Budget_Player_Cadet)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/186 "2014-04-16T16:57:34Z")
Fine. I’ll take your judgment and drop it. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/187 "2014-04-16T17:05:16Z")
> [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](#): > > Fine. I’ll take your judgment and drop it. As **tom** says, the only way to win that game is not to play.😉 ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/188 "2014-04-16T17:35:28Z")
> [@buddha\_david](#): > > What I wanna know is why **BPC’s** still here despite declaring “All Jews are Vermin,” while **Melchior’s** gone for making fun of… [liberals](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=17288405#post17288405). Seriously, what’s up with that? 😕 I’m not sure what Melchior was doing was “fun” on any level, not even for him - assuming he was sincere, he strikes me as expressing an almost Fred Phelpsian level of hatred. > [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](#): > > Well, to hazard a guess, it’s because my offense was an obvious and stated if tasteless and really dumb joke, and **Melchior** ’s was, well, [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=720604). I at least_try_ to make decent posts. I stand by my earlier advice on the matter - you should briefly apologize and then really, really, really, _really_ shut the fuck up about this subject. There’s nothing you can say that will justify or rationalize or deflect - all you can do is let it run its course and learn to live with the lingering effects, assuming you don’t get banned. Don’t even reply to _this_ message - just… shut up, already. Seriously. Don’t post to this thread again. This is the only good advice you’re going to get on this - to stop digging yourself in deeper. ---
**Author:** ![jimbuff314](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c57346/32.png) [@jimbuff314](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jimbuff314)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/189 "2014-04-16T18:44:17Z")
Don’t fret, **BPC**. It took WOPR (Joshua) some time to get it as well: > [@](#): > > [after playing out all possible outcomes for Global Thermonuclear War] > > Joshua: Greetings, Professor Falken. > > Stephen Falken: Hello, Joshua. > > Joshua: A strange game. The only winning move is not to play. How about a nice game of chess? From _Wargames_. ---
**Author:** ![Debaser](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3da27b/32.png) [@Debaser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Debaser)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/190 "2014-04-16T19:22:09Z")
Let’s make **Budget Player Cadet** play online Tic Tac Toe against himself until he gets it. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/191 "2014-04-16T20:19:56Z")
> [@Debaser](#): > > Let’s make **Budget Player Cadet** play online Tic Tac Toe against himself until he gets it. He could play with his girlfriend, that game should be about her speed. ---
**Author:** ![Measure\_for\_Measure](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/measure_for_measure/32/557_2.png) [@Measure\_for\_Measure](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Measure_for_Measure)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/192 "2014-04-16T20:46:25Z")
> [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > I stand by my earlier advice on the matter - you should briefly apologize and then really, really, really, _really_ shut the fuck up about this subject. Bad advice. Nobody was upset about the length of BBC’s apology other you, who is notorious for his brief posts. (Quality posts as it happens, but still brief). > [@marshmallow](#): > > If you want to make a joke like that don’t timidly qualify it. Don’t be afraid just because this isn’t 4chan. The post should’ve just been “The Jews.” > > Then again, maybe being a pussy saved you from a ban, so whatevs. Really, really, really bad advice for a message board. > [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > There’s nothing you can say that will justify or rationalize or deflect - all you can do is let it run its course and learn to live with the lingering effects, assuming you don’t get banned. A banning is inevitable. This is just the endgame. > [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > Don’t even reply to _this_ message - just… shut up, already. Seriously. Don’t post to this thread again. This is the only good advice you’re going to get on this - to stop digging yourself in deeper. Good advice. There comes a point when ceasing digging is a good idea. We’re about there now. ---
**Author:** ![magellan01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@magellan01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/magellan01)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/193 "2014-04-16T21:25:32Z")
> [@Measure\_for\_Measure](#): > > [QUOTE=Bryan Ekers] > I stand by my earlier advice on the matter - you should briefly apologize and then really, really, really, really shut the fuck up about this subject. Bad advice. Nobody was upset about the length of BBC’s apology other you, who is notorious for his brief posts. (Quality posts as it happens, but still brief). [/QUOTE] **Bryan Ekers** giving a poster advice about apologizing?!!! That’s like the late John Candy giving someone advice about buying ballet shoes. HA! ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/194 "2014-04-16T21:59:29Z")
> [@magellan01](#): > > **Bryan Ekers** giving a poster advice about apologizing?!!! That’s like the late John Candy giving someone advice about buying ballet shoes. > > HA! It’s funny because he’s dead. /edgierthanatesseract ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/195 "2014-04-16T22:03:28Z")
> [@magellan01](#): > > **Bryan Ekers** giving a poster advice about apologizing?!!! That’s like the late John Candy giving someone advice about buying ballet shoes. /SoggierThanBisquick ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/196 "2014-04-16T22:10:20Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > /SoggierThanBisquick Well, there _is_ an awful lot of masturbation in this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2014, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/197 "2014-04-16T22:23:03Z")
> [@Measure\_for\_Measure](#): > > Bad advice. Nobody was upset about the length of BBC’s apology other you, who is notorious for his brief posts. (Quality posts as it happens, but still brief). Thanks, but… huh? Ah, magellan… if I’d apologized to you, the best possible result would be that we’d have continued chatting for little while longer, I’d have continued making rational observations, you’d have continued ignoring them (“hetero marriage is special, it just IS!”) , and then you’d stop responding to me later rather than sooner. Frankly, not apologizing saved me a lot of wasted time and effort in an obviously futile cause. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2014, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/198 "2014-04-17T03:34:07Z")
Who give a fuck about a unified Germany? /EdgierThanBismarck ---
**Author:** ![buddha\_david](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee7513/32.png) [@buddha\_david](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buddha_david)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2014, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/199 "2014-04-17T06:11:27Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > He could play [Tic Tac Toe] with his girlfriend, that game should be about her speed. Now _that’s_ edgier than obsidian! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2014, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027/200 "2014-04-17T07:16:44Z")
> [@tomndebb](#): > > A tiny group of people who have latched onto some personal statements that you should probably have never posted outside an overtly friendly forum, who have now decided to play with you by deliberately distorting what you said or accepting the distortions of others, simply to taunt you. I know this should be in ATMB, and I can always make a thread there if you like, but I want to know : why aren’t these people **being modded** , for being jerks if not trolling? Yes, **BPC** brought it on himself and he’s a big boy now, but IMO that’s the kind of jerkish behaviour we _should_ be modding. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027.md?page=9) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/everyone-should-know-what-an-asshole-budget-player-cadet-is/686027.md?page=11)