# Ewww - I encountered a pervert in the men's room! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 2, 2009, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724 "2009-07-02T18:25:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/21 "2009-07-03T05:36:13Z")
I would have waited for the guy to exit and kicked him square in the crotch. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/22 "2009-07-03T05:37:41Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > Personally, I think a man using a stall just to pee shows a level of prudishness and obsessive poor self-image that is borderline freaky. > > Leave the stalls open for those who need them! Really? Maybe those guys just don’t want people to see their junk. Or they sit down to pee. ---
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/23 "2009-07-03T05:49:49Z")
> [@](#): > > Ewww - I encountered a pervert in the men’s room! Where would you have preferred to come across them? So to speak. ---
**Author:** ![Bearflag70](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Bearflag70](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bearflag70)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/24 "2009-07-03T06:30:38Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > Personally, I think a man using a stall just to pee shows a level of prudishness and obsessive poor self-image that is borderline freaky. > > Leave the stalls open for those who need them! Men’s room etiquette dictates if a man can’t use a urinal without standing adjacent to someone, then use the stall. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/25 "2009-07-03T08:00:54Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > Yuck. Sorry. What’s the crime, though? I know taking photos up women’s (and girls’) skirts is legal in some states – not sure about mirrors or men’s shorts. > > At the very, very least, there’s nothing like a guy feeling violated to help him gain some empathy for women. (I’m not kidding.) Your talent for dragging threads round to a discussion of women’s issues never ceases to impress me. Just once in a while it’s OK for us to be talking about someone else, mmmkay? :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![bengangmo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@bengangmo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bengangmo)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 8:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/26 "2009-07-03T08:45:32Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > Personally, I think a man using a stall just to pee shows a level of prudishness and obsessive poor self-image that is borderline freaky. > > Leave the stalls open for those who need them! Perhaps he didn’t want to embarrass and intimidate the other guys with the size of his schlong? ---
**Author:** ![It\_s\_Not\_Rocket\_Surgery](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/it_s_not_rocket_surgery/32/312_2.png) [@It\_s\_Not\_Rocket\_Surgery](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/It_s_Not_Rocket_Surgery)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 12:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/27 "2009-07-03T12:07:27Z")
> [@bengangmo](#): > > Perhaps he didn’t want to embarrass and intimidate the other guys with the size of his schlong? Damn straight! I almost broke the guy’s mirror. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/28 "2009-07-03T15:39:51Z")
> [@It\_s\_Not\_Rocket\_Surgery](#): > > I quickly left and reported it to the security office. But I went to eat in the food court, and never saw any security guards go by. Pssst. It was an off-duty security guard who had the mirror. That is why they want the job in the first place. Just be thankful the rest of them didn’t show up and make you do their version of a “lineup”. Also, don’t tap your foot while you pee. Sometimes you will accidentally hit the right Morse code pattern and trigger an odd situation. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/29 "2009-07-03T15:45:34Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > Your talent for dragging threads round to a discussion of women’s issues never ceases to impress me. Just once in a while it’s OK for us to be talking about someone else, mmmkay? :rolleyes: Yeah. God forbid I draw some sort of parallel when I could be judging him for having the gall not to use a urinal to pee. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/30 "2009-07-03T15:52:42Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > Your talent for dragging threads round to a discussion of women’s issues never ceases to impress me. Just once in a while it’s OK for us to be talking about someone else, mmmkay? :rolleyes: The mere mention of women is dragging things round to women’s issues? ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/31 "2009-07-03T16:14:29Z")
I would think that eventually the perv will be discovered by someone who, instead of reporting him to security, will shove the mirror up his arrears. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/32 "2009-07-03T16:27:12Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > The mere mention of women is dragging things round to women’s issues? Yes, honey, that’s exactly what I said. :rolleyes: > [@Cat Fight](#): > > At the very, very least, there’s nothing like a guy feeling violated to help him gain some empathy for women. (I’m not kidding.) Let’s not talk about the OP’s woes, let’s talk about gaining empathy for women; there’s only so long you can talk about men before you have to get back to the _important_ issues. ---
**Author:** ![Harmonious\_Discord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/74df32/32.png) [@Harmonious\_Discord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonious_Discord)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/33 "2009-07-03T17:31:35Z")
Shattering the mirror at that point with the heel of your shoe is appropriate, if his hand has embedded glass in in afterward is tough shit. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/34 "2009-07-03T20:42:56Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > Let’s not talk about the OP’s woes, let’s talk about gaining empathy for women; there’s only so long you can talk about men before you have to get back to the _important_ issues. **It’s Not Rocket Surgery!** really seemed offended. There are quite a few predictable responses to the OP, even if he posted it merely to vent. People sharing their own stories is one of them. (Along with people asking more questions, telling him what he _should_ have done, telling him he should toughen up etc.). As a woman this has never happened to me. I have never had a mirror held up so a perv could look at my genitals (well, not that I know of). I have had someone take an upskirt shot of me. And if someone, male or female, had shone a mirror at me I would have been as equally as skeeved as the OP. So again, god forbid I express sympathy that men who have this sort of thing done to them are supposed to either laugh it off or beat the offender up (or have wild sex, if the offender is a woman). ---
**Author:** ![supergoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@supergoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/supergoose)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/35 "2009-07-03T21:32:56Z")
> [@It\_s\_Not\_Rocket\_Surgery](#): > > **TMI FOLLOWS!** > It wasn’t just to pee. If you must know I had colorectal surgery 6 weeks ago; I had used a urinal just before switching to the stall in question; due to a bit of surprise leakage I had to go to the stall because I had to wipe. > > Thanks for making me add those details I had not really planned to divulge. Do you also walk up to people who have parked using handicapped tags to judge their disabilities? Um, he may have been contentious and insulting about it, but nobody forced you to post those details. You chose to. You could have just left it at “It wasn’t just to pee.” ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/36 "2009-07-03T21:36:49Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > \*\*So again, god forbid I express sympathy that men who have this sort of thing done to them are supposed to either laugh it off or beat the offender up (or have wild sex, if the offender is a woman). OR, you can beat it off and laugh at the offender! ---
**Author:** ![sjc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e5b9ba/32.png) [@sjc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sjc)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/37 "2009-07-03T23:43:15Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > Yes, honey, that’s exactly what I said. :rolleyes: > > Let’s not talk about the OP’s woes, let’s talk about gaining empathy for women; there’s only so long you can talk about men before you have to get back to the _important_ issues. Eh, I don’t see the problem of gently mentioning that this is something that women probably deal with more often than men. I mean as long as the poster doesn’t insist on completely hijacking the discussion. ---
**Author:** ![Gary\_Robson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gary_robson/32/3448_2.png) [@Gary\_Robson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gary_Robson)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/38 "2009-07-04T00:09:01Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > Personally, I think a man using a stall just to pee shows a level of prudishness and obsessive poor self-image that is borderline freaky. There are a whole lot of reasons that someone might not want to hang his privates out in front of other people. People with “shy bladder” problems can walk into a stall, pee, and be done in 30 seconds. Force them to use a urinal with other people standing next to them, and nothing will happen until the bathroom’s empty. You could stand to be just a shade less judgmental. ---
**Author:** ![hroark2112](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6a8cbe/32.png) [@hroark2112](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hroark2112)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/39 "2009-07-04T00:11:33Z")
Some of us CAN’T use a urinal without dividers between them. Unless you want to wait 10 minutes for me to pee, quit bitching if I use the stall. There are plenty of good reasons for a shy bladder, and using a stall alleviates the issue. ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724/40 "2009-07-04T01:04:20Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > OR, you can beat it off and laugh at the offender! My laughter won’t stop coming! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ewww-i-encountered-a-pervert-in-the-mens-room/501724.md?page=3)