# Expectations on Valentine's Day **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 13, 2009, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703 "2009-02-13T16:52:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/41 "2009-02-13T22:11:26Z")
The SO and I buy each other flowers all of the time, so even though I suspect he’ll get me some tomorrow, it’s no biggie if he doesn’t. If I see some nice ones I’ll pick them up for him. (Of course, they tend to get marked up x10 tomorrow, for some odd reason…) Same with nice restaurants. We try them whenever we please, so there’s no sense going on a night when it’s going to be busy and humming with predictable unimaginative proposals. It all seems to come so soon after Xmas– I think we’re both gifted out. We’ll likely have to make do with one another’s bodies. ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/42 "2009-02-13T22:12:13Z")
I’d like an acknowledgment of some sort, simply because I’ve had exactly one V’s Day in my lifetime where I wasn’t on the outside looking in, so to speak – and that one was entirely planned and executed by me. And more than a decade ago. How you acknowledge it, I don’t really care, as long as it’s sincere and something you really want to do for me. Take me out, cook for me, buy me a card, whatever. Hell, skip all of those things and just take me straight to bed to try out that new [censored] that we’d been talking about. Actually hearing a genuine “I love you” would be nice, too. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/43 "2009-02-13T22:21:46Z")
> [@winterhawk11](#): > > As it happens, this year my WoW guild has a raid on Saturday night (I think his does too) so that’s another reason not to do anything on the day. We might be going out Sunday evening this year. 🙂 Oh duh, I agreed to heal a run Saturday night (as did he, same run) - I guess that blows any major plans we might make. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/44 "2009-02-13T22:42:23Z")
> [@Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](#): > > Nope, I don’t expect anything. I picked up a bag of the conversation heart candy, and I’m going to spend some time placing sugar hearts that say “Be mine”, “True Love” and “XOXO” on his keyboard, toothbrush and in his underwear drawer. Hmmm… Candy in the undies. What if he puts on a pair and gets a crotchful of candy? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Necros](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/necros/32/11086_2.png) [@Necros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Necros)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/45 "2009-02-13T22:49:37Z")
My wife doesn’t expect anything, and tells me that she doesn’t see VDay as a big deal, unlike her birthday. I sometimes get flowers, we sometimes go out to dinner, and sometimes not. Sometimes I buy her a huge present (one year it was a convertible). This year it might be a road bike, and I think we will make some sushi and drink Champagne at home. She gets me good presents too, sometimes. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![schnuckiputzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecb155/32.png) [@schnuckiputzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/schnuckiputzi)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2009, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/46 "2009-02-14T00:28:35Z")
We’ve been married 20 years now, so I’m definitely past the cutie teddy bear stage. We tend to do something special together: spend a night in a B and B, go to a concert or to a movie, go out to eat somewhere different. Our kids are all out on their own usually, and we can enjoy the peace and quiet. ---
**Author:** ![lilflower](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ecccb3/32.png) [@lilflower](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lilflower)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2009, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/47 "2009-02-14T00:33:29Z")
My husband and I actively refrain from even acknowledging Valentine’s Day. We both know the other one loves him/her and we are always doing nice things for each other. It seems silly to feel compelled to do something on a specific day of the year. I would totally ridicule my husband if he bought me anything for Valentine’s Day - besides the waste of money, it’s just so predictable. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2009, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/48 "2009-02-14T01:03:27Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > Hmmm… Candy in the undies. What if he puts on a pair and gets a crotchful of candy? 😉 Then I guess she’ll have to lick it off. 🆒 We need a “satanic grin/salacious smirk” smiley. ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2009, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/49 "2009-02-14T06:02:10Z")
I love Valentine’s Day. It’s another chance to think of what he’d like and to give it to him. Happily, I know what he’d likes.😉 I like chocolate and flowers and jewelry and going to beautiful restaurants. And he gives me what I like all year long but especially on Valentine’s Day. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2009, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/50 "2009-02-14T07:26:52Z")
In Korea Valentine’s Day is the girl’s responsibility - we’re going out for dinner somewhere nice, and I’m planning to get him a gift - a set of whiskey glasses and a bottle of whiskey. I think he’d appreciate that more than a box of chocolates. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Karyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/fbc32d/32.png) [@Karyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Karyn)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2009, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703/51 "2009-02-14T16:40:33Z")
My partner went a bit overboard on the chocolate this time. I don’t want to hurt his feelings but if I ate all of that it would take me a month to lose the weight again and I just finished losing the holiday weight I put on. I think that I’ll sneak a bunch of it out to our tenant in the cabin when he isn’t looking. I got roses too and the scent is wonderful. Chocolate with coffee is not the best breakfast. I fee kind of queasy. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/expectations-on-valentines-day/485703.md?page=2)