# Explain the allure of hiring a prostitute? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 5, 2012, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795 "2012-03-05T06:26:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2012, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/61 "2012-03-06T14:43:39Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I think you people are overthinking it. Men don’t go to prostitutes because they are too sad and pathetic to find a woman or they want a relationship. They do it for the same reason men order a pizza. They are hungry for pizza and there is a service where you can have one delivered. This. Even if you are young attractive and well off getting laid is still hard work. A lot of times hiring a prostitute is not about not wanting a commitment or being pathetic or any of the other convoluted reasons people have put forth. It’s about effort. ---
**Author:** ![Jasper\_Kent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a9a28c/32.png) [@Jasper\_Kent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasper_Kent)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2012, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/62 "2012-03-06T15:04:36Z")
Reminds me of the comic(I forget who) relating this conversation with his girlfriend: She: “I just can’t imagine how a man could enjoy having sex with a blow-up doll!” He: “That probably wasn’t _ **Plan A** _.” ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2012, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/63 "2012-03-06T15:30:07Z")
> [@septimus](#): > > I’m not up on American slang. Do the confused responses in this thread derive from a qualitative difference between “prostitute” and “callgirl” or such? > > Suppose you’re not in a relationship and a rich friend treats you to a date with a ravishing $2000/hour hooker. She doesn’t have cold sores. Do you turn down the offer? I’d rather have the $2000. I can get sex without paying for it. ---
**Author:** ![Jasper\_Kent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a9a28c/32.png) [@Jasper\_Kent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasper_Kent)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2012, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/64 "2012-03-06T16:22:45Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > I’d rather have the $2000. I can get sex without paying for it. I’m not getting a lot of free sex right now, but I’d still rather have the $2000. I could get more lasting pleasure in various ways with the money. Nevertheless, if the high-end hooker were the only offer, I certainly wouldn’t turn her down. It would be a once-in-a-lifetime experience, because I can’t imagine shelling out that amount just to get laid. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2012, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/65 "2012-03-06T16:30:13Z")
> [@Jasper\_Kent](#): > > I’m not getting a lot of free sex right now, but I’d still rather have the $2000. I could get more lasting pleasure in various ways with the money. Nevertheless, if the high-end hooker were the only offer, I certainly wouldn’t turn her down. It would be a once-in-a-lifetime experience, because I can’t imagine shelling out that amount just to get laid. I would turn it down. But you have fun. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2012, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/66 "2012-03-06T18:02:48Z")
The people who pay 2000-5000 for a prostitute are the people for whom there is almost no difference between 2000 and free. You pay that much because you want a girl who only sleeps with guys who can afford that much. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2012, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/67 "2012-03-06T18:21:26Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I think you people are overthinking it. Men don’t go to prostitutes because they are too sad and pathetic to find a woman or they want a relationship. They do it for the same reason men order a pizza. They are hungry for pizza and there is a service where you can have one delivered. _golf clap_ Best explanation in this thread yet. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2012, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/68 "2012-03-06T23:52:32Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > _golf clap_ > > Best explanation in this thread yet. Within limits. When ordering pizza I usually don’t have to concern myself with where a pizza has been, if it’s on drugs, or if it will steal my watch and my wallet. ---
**Author:** ![polar\_bear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ec9cab/32.png) [@polar\_bear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/polar_bear)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/69 "2012-03-07T00:00:09Z")
> [@astro](#): > > Within limits. When ordering pizza I usually don’t have to concern myself with where a pizza has been, if it’s on drugs, or if it will steal my watch and my wallet. Funny thing, the only thing related to prostitutes that has gotten me ill, was the pizza they served at one of the clubs _pukey smiley_. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/70 "2012-03-07T00:04:32Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > I’d rather have the $2000. I can get sex without paying for it. Are there any male escorts that can charge that amount? I mean, we hear about high end female hookers, but are there high end–yes I said high end–males? ---
**Author:** ![Jasper\_Kent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a9a28c/32.png) [@Jasper\_Kent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasper_Kent)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/71 "2012-03-07T00:06:51Z")
> [@Lemur866](#): > > Are there any male escorts that can charge that amount? I mean, we hear about high end female hookers, but are there high end–yes I said high end–males? Yes, I charge $2000. ---
**Author:** ![hotflungwok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/edb3f5/32.png) [@hotflungwok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hotflungwok)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/72 "2012-03-07T00:08:14Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I think you people are overthinking it. Men don’t go to prostitutes because they are too sad and pathetic to find a woman or they want a relationship. Of course not. Sad and pathetic people like myself don’t go to a prostitute because they know that no prostitute would touch them, regardless of how much money they have. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/73 "2012-03-07T02:17:07Z")
> [@Lemur866](#): > > Are there any male escorts that can charge that amount? I mean, we hear about high end female hookers, but are there high end–yes I said high end–males? No idea. I’ve never looked into it. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/74 "2012-03-07T02:18:11Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I think you people are overthinking it. Men don’t go to prostitutes because they are too sad and pathetic to find a woman or they want a relationship. They do it for the same reason men order a pizza. They are hungry for pizza and there is a service where you can have one delivered. But I don’t care what pizza thinks of me. For sex, I want it with someone that actually wants to be with me and not because I’ve paid them to. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/75 "2012-03-07T02:31:34Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > I’d rather have the $2000. I can get sex without paying for it. > [@Antinor01](#): > > I would turn it down. But you have fun. > [@Antinor01](#): > > No idea. I’ve never looked into it. **Antinor01** , your bragging here is incredibly disingenuous, as we both know the gay scene isn’t remotely comparable to what we’re discussing here. See, we’re talking about men who are trying to have sex with women. Women are not men, and it can be quite an effort to get them into bed. This is not the case with men. So you really can’t act like your experience has any relevance whatsoever. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Excellent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/76 "2012-03-07T02:39:52Z")
> [@polar\_bear](#): > > Funny thing, the only thing related to prostitutes that has gotten me ill, was the pizza they served at one of the clubs _pukey smiley_. Rule of thumb: Never buy food from a business that does not _depend_ on the quality of its food for its bottom line. ---
**Author:** ![Vicullum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/6de8d8/32.png) [@Vicullum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vicullum)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/77 "2012-03-07T03:17:59Z")
Having done my share of mongering around the world, I guess I’ll chime in. Why hire a prostitute? Because I can have awesome sex with beautiful women for minimal investment. Even those of you who claim to get sex for free are still working for it in some fashion, either financially by taking her out on dates and buying gifts, or the time invested in exchanging messages and getting to know her. For cynics like myself you’re still “paying” for sex, only you’re spending much more than I am. Why spend $2000 on a call girl? Beats me–I’ve never spent over $150, and that was for a threesome in Brazil (this was before the dollar tanked). Only rich fools which limited options would pay that much. I prefer to do my mongering overseas where prices are lower and the variety is higher. If you’ve never visited a FKK club in Germany I highly recommend it. Imagine 50+ women from all over Europe walking around nude, that you can take back to a room for 50 euros for 30 minutes. Want to extend your time, or wait and get another partner, or maybe two or three? Well, you can! Your options are only limited by your stamina and bank account. How else would you get to experience such a thing in this world, outside of being a rock star? I won’t deny having sex and an emotional connection with your partner is pretty nice. Indeed, one of the mostly highly prized of encounters is the “girlfriend experience,” where in addition to sex an escort offers services more like a “real” relationship, and actually converses with you, goes on dates, and is not shy with kissing. But sex without an emotional connection also feels pretty damn good too. For the record, I consider myself to be fairly attractive, always use safe sex, and have never once had an STD. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/78 "2012-03-07T03:51:03Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > **Antinor01** , your bragging here is incredibly disingenuous, as we both know the gay scene isn’t remotely comparable to what we’re discussing here. See, we’re talking about men who are trying to have sex with women. Women are not men, and it can be quite an effort to get them into bed. This is not the case with men. So you really can’t act like your experience has any relevance whatsoever. I’m not bragging in the slightest, but feel free to believe whatever you want. I’m friends, or at least acquaintances with a number of gay male prostitutes who do quite a bit of business so there is certainly relevance. That doesn’t change that I wouldn’t personally utilize their services or have any idea what they charge. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/79 "2012-03-07T06:04:02Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > I’m not bragging in the slightest, but feel free to believe whatever you want. I’m friends, or at least acquaintances with a number of gay male prostitutes who do quite a bit of business so there is certainly relevance. That doesn’t change that I wouldn’t personally utilize their services or have any idea what they charge. Still, you don’t see how a gay man saying “I can get sex for free whenever I want” (which I’m sure is not a stealth brag at all) is just not comparable to a straight man’s capacity to get free sex when he wants it? Really? ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795/80 "2012-03-07T06:09:59Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > Still, you don’t see how a gay man saying “I can get sex for free whenever I want” (which I’m sure is not a stealth brag at all) is just not comparable to a straight man’s capacity to get free sex when he wants it? Really? Except that’s not what I said. I never said or implied anything about “whenever I want”. It is completely true that I would rather have the cash than paid for sex. I really find it amusing that you equate not wanting to use a hooker to bragging. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/explain-the-allure-of-hiring-a-prostitute/614795.md?page=5)