# faking orgasms **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 3, 2002, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795 "2002-09-03T13:03:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![yojimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yojimbo/32/232_2.png) [@yojimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yojimbo)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 11:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/21 "2003-02-24T11:56:54Z")
I used to 100% disagree with women faking. Lying to us poor guys like that. Then I faked one night coz I was really drunk and I was fighting brewers droop and also needed to sleep and just couldn’t keep going but didn’t want to piss the girl off or hurt her feelings. I was wearing a condom which made the faking easier. Now I’m torn. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/22 "2003-02-24T13:20:32Z")
Well, at least the _condom_ wasn’t torn… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/23 "2003-02-24T14:40:12Z")
Doesn’t matter since he faked it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/24 "2003-02-24T15:06:30Z")
You know, I think the problem with a woman faking an orgasm is that the man is going to think whatever he is doing is working, so he’s going to keep doing that. Now if whatever he was doing wasn’t getting the woman anywhere near orgasm, its probably going to be a chronic habit. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/25 "2003-02-24T15:39:57Z")
I don’t fake them, but I also almost never have an orgasm during intercourse. Just doesn’t happen. The only times I’ve had orgasms during intercourse were when I just happened to be having intercourse while manually bringing myself to orgasm. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/26 "2003-02-24T17:30:02Z")
My wife never fakes it. There isn’t time. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Seldon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/958977/32.png) [@Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seldon)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/27 "2003-02-24T17:57:14Z")
I’ve never had to fake it. I think I’m lucky. Except for the fact that I’ve only had 1 orgasm during intercourse. I don’t know what’s up with the angles or whatever. Is that important to you guys? I’m completely happy with taking turns, getting mine during foreplay or postplay. What’s also interesting to me is why I’m multiorgasmic with myself but it’s really freakin painful if he tries it? Anyways, to get back on the subject, I don’t think it’s right for a woman to fake it. Sometimes I’m just too tired (or too drunk) to have the big O, and I just tell my guy. It doesn’t happen often, usually I tell him from the beginning it’s going to be a quickie anyways. It was mentioned that it’s ok for a woman who is nonorgasmic at all to fake it, I agree with that, but damn, she should be trying on herself to find out what does excite her. ---
**Author:** ![arachnidlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@arachnidlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/arachnidlove)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/28 "2003-02-24T19:19:10Z")
I was going to say the same thing as **Incubus**. \ Do ALL women have multiple orgasms? Seriously, cuz me and my b/f fight over this. I have tried and tried and had him try and it just doesn’t work out. So I told him it was not possible for me, he says I’m just not trying enough. ~/X(…)/X\ ---
**Author:** ![White\_Lightning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@White\_Lightning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/White_Lightning)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/29 "2003-02-24T20:22:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by **Shodan** \* > My wife never fakes it. > > There isn’t time. Thanks ever so much for your generous contribution to the Get- **WL** -fired-for-laughing-at-work Campaign. ---
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/30 "2003-02-24T20:28:16Z")
There was a good discussion on faking orgasms a while ago: [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=139463](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=139463) You may find it interesting reading. ---
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2003, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/31 "2003-02-24T20:30:26Z")
By the way, I feel this is more GD material! Certainly not mundane, anyway… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/32 "2003-02-25T00:08:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by arachnidlove \* > \*\*I was going to say the same thing as **Incubus**. > > \ > Do ALL women have multiple orgasms? Seriously, cuz me and my b/f fight over this. I have tried and tried and had him try and it just doesn’t work out. So I told him it was not possible for me, he says I’m just not trying enough. > > ~/X(…)/X\ \*\* If I remember right, Masters and Johnson said that only about 25% of women can obtain orgasm through intercourse alone, and only about 10% are multi-orgasmic. But that’s my poor memory and the Masters and Johnson report is decades old. But at least it’s a guideline. I’m not sure where one would look for resources nowadays. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/33 "2003-02-25T00:17:56Z")
I can have several orgasms, maybe 5-10 minutes apart… …but most guys can’t give them to me, I have to do it myself. When guys try, it seems like it just tickles, makes me laugh, and then it becomes almost painful. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/34 "2003-02-25T00:23:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by OpalCat \* > \*\*I can have several orgasms, maybe 5-10 minutes apart… > …but most guys can’t give them to me, I have to do it myself. When guys try, it seems like it just tickles, makes me laugh, and then it becomes almost painful. \*\* Funny, I’m the exact opposite. My boyfriend is the only one that has been able to produce multiples for me. And I tend not to try “taking matters into my own hands” I’m more likely to turn myself off. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/35 "2003-02-25T00:27:46Z")
Oh, and you can always tell if my orgasm is real because I cry. Well, not cry exactly, but tears. ---
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/36 "2003-02-25T00:30:45Z")
This is such a personal thing, it will vary wildy from person to person. Don’t forget that having orgasms requires skill and effort on the part of both man and woman. Each persons experiences will be different. YMMV is the key here. My own experiences I have already discussed in detail in the last orgasm thread. In summary, I have rarely had trouble making a woman orgasm, and my curent partner and I really click when it comes to sex, so she normally has several. ---
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/37 "2003-02-25T00:32:18Z")
**Opal** : Just saw your post. My GF sometimes cries after several intense orgasms. I thought it was just her, but I have heard from other people that this happens also (discussed in the other orgasm thread above, and the recent Sex Poll thread). It’s not as uncommon as you may think. ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/38 "2003-02-25T00:46:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Scantilly \* > \*\*I have a very fulfilling and experimental sex life and I am in a monogomous relationship but I often fake orgasms to heighten the intensity of my partners excitement. My boyfriend has no idea. Is this common? Do men believe they can tell when a woman is faking it? \*\* That’s a good question. That’s a really good question. Oh my God, that’s a good question. That’s a _gooooood question._ Oh, God what a GREAT QUESTION! YES! YES!!! YES!!! Whoo boy…that was the best question I’ve heard in years. ---
**Author:** ![HoldenCaulfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/22d042/32.png) [@HoldenCaulfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoldenCaulfield)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/39 "2003-02-25T00:52:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by samarm \* > \*\*There was a good discussion on faking orgasms a while ago: > > [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=139463](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=139463) > > You may find it interesting reading. \*\* Don’t forget about [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=133761) one, which was started about a month earlier. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795/40 "2003-02-25T00:53:57Z")
Huh? Doesn’t compute… oh I see… who the hell bumped this, then? I thought it was a new thread… (cue Twilight Zone music) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/faking-orgasms/126795.md?page=3)