# Falling in love with someone who saved your life **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 5, 2014, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136 "2014-06-05T17:19:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![JackieLikesVariety](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackielikesvariety/32/296_2.png) [@JackieLikesVariety](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JackieLikesVariety)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2014, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/21 "2014-06-10T16:57:21Z")
are we allowed to express our opinion that his story is pure fiction? and in poor taste? ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2014, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/22 "2014-06-10T17:25:56Z")
A nurse I worked with married a terminal patient she cared for. He went into remission, but died 8 months later. They had time to produce a child. So, her life was turned into a single mom with a stressful job. He had no life insurance so she was on her own. At least her job paid well. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2014, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/23 "2014-06-10T18:23:28Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > That and yet another of his exciting, unusual adventures. I was enthralled. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2014, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/24 "2014-06-10T19:45:26Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > I was enthralled. Engorged, even ---
**Author:** ![Accidental\_Martyr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ce7236/32.png) [@Accidental\_Martyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Accidental_Martyr)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2014, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/25 "2014-06-10T20:19:18Z")
> [@JackieLikesVariety](#): > > are we allowed to express our opinion that his story is pure fiction? and in poor taste? I hope so. ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2014, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/26 "2014-06-10T20:21:54Z")
Perhaps a real-life example of this is Juana María de los Dolores de León Smith (for whom the town of “Ladysmith” in South Africa was named). Se was a 14 year old orphan during the infamous siege of Badajoz during the Peninsular War. The Brits stormed the town and the soldiers subjected it to a medieval-style sack - basically, and orgy of plunder, rape and murder directed against civilians, where drunken and battle-crazed soldiers did whatever they wanted to anyone they could catch (depicted in the Sharpe series of novels, notably). The young Juana María de los Dolores de León was defended by Major Smith, allegedly fell in love with him on the spot, and married him a few days later. Apparently this was a true love-match and not simply a marriage of convenience, as she accompanied him, in defiance of convention, on all his subsequent military adventures - including to South Africa. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2014, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/27 "2014-06-10T22:11:12Z")
> [@ducati](#): > > The doors were jammed shut in the collision with a power pole, so I grabbed my Halligan tool (always prepared) and opened the back hatch. I thought Penthouse style posts were verboten here. ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2014, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/28 "2014-06-11T01:07:07Z")
> [@ducati](#): > > Falling in love would have been fun too, 'cause she had huuuge tits. 😃 And she only weighed a hundred pounds? ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2014, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/29 "2014-06-11T21:26:54Z")
Isn’t every mans fantasy a hot young skinny chick with giant boobs? ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2014, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/30 "2014-06-12T03:49:42Z")
If fully one quarter of her body mass isn’t mammary glands, why bother getting soaked with petrol? ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2014, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/31 "2014-06-12T14:14:07Z")
**Moderator Action** Since the OP is basically polling for personal experiences and anecdotes, this is better suited to IMHO. Moving thread from General Questions to In My Humble Opinion. ---
**Author:** ![Rlboz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/3da27b/32.png) [@Rlboz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rlboz)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2017, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/32 "2017-01-24T15:59:04Z")
I was involved in a near fatal car accident when I was 17 and sustained a traumatic brain injury. The doctors that helped me said that they had never seen one as bad as mine. One of the firefighters that responded to the accident was an intern and it was the first bad accident he had responded to. Because of the way my accident had effected him, he broke OSHA rules and sought me out while I was in the hospital and in a coma. One month after I got out of the hospital, I got to meet him. We hung out several times and even though he had a fiancée, both of us developed feeling for each other. I was head over heels in love with the guy! Because I was 17 and he was ten years older than me, and after reading some racy Facebook messages we had sent to each other, my parents talked to the police. Both the firefighter and I had to go in (separately), and talk to the cops. Needless to say, we stopped talking after that. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2017, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/33 "2017-01-24T16:31:22Z")
I’m pretty certain a goodly number, if not all, of these examples could just as easily be attributed to time spent together. Your nurse is around you a lot, ditto, Drs, grief councillors, therapists, lawyers, marriage advisers, etc, etc. So, how is it not just straight up time silent together? ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2017, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/34 "2017-01-24T20:16:10Z")
> [@Rlboz](#): > > I was involved in a near fatal car accident when I was 17 and sustained a traumatic brain injury. The doctors that helped me said that they had never seen one as bad as mine. One of the firefighters that responded to the accident was an intern and it was the first bad accident he had responded to. Because of the way my accident had effected him, he broke OSHA rules and sought me out while I was in the hospital and in a coma. One month after I got out of the hospital, I got to meet him. We hung out several times and even though he had a fiancée, both of us developed feeling for each other. I was head over heels in love with the guy! Because I was 17 and he was ten years older than me, and after reading some racy Facebook messages we had sent to each other, my parents talked to the police. Both the firefighter and I had to go in (separately), and talk to the cops. Needless to say, we stopped talking after that. I’m pretty sure OSHA doesn’t care who you date. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Bredin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/96bed5/32.png) [@John\_Bredin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Bredin)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2017, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136/35 "2017-01-24T21:51:12Z")
> [@beowulff](#): > > I’m pretty sure OSHA doesn’t care who you date. I presume she meant HIPAA. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/falling-in-love-with-someone-who-saved-your-life/690136.md?page=1)