# Family- can we cool it with the burping? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 27, 2011, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549 "2011-12-27T18:25:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/21 "2011-12-27T19:59:23Z")
Sorry, **sven** , but you’re the oddball here, if everyone else who lives there does it and is enjoying it. My husband and I are perfectly nice people, but we burp and fart all the time at home (it’s a good thing we found each other). If you can’t burp and fart to your heart (and digestive system’s) content at home, where can you do it? ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/22 "2011-12-27T20:04:13Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > As I’m sure you know, you can’t control other people. But you can decline further invitations, because that man sounds like a disrespectful child. I’d let mom know that while I’m happy for her if she’s happy, I don’t want to hang out with people that act like that. After that, it’s up to her. Uh. I live on the other side of the country and see my mother- who is a GREAT mother and gave a lot to raise me and support me- once a year. I don’t think I’m going to pass up the rare occasional when I get to see my family because my mom’s boyfriend is gassy. And frankly i wouldn’t care if this guy spewed vomit all over the house uncontrollably. My mother is happy, he’s great for her, and that is amazing. As of cultures burping after meals…I’d be fine with burping after meals. A good burp after a casual family meal is a bit crude, but not completely outside the realm of normal and not inappropriate in your own house. But the 24/7 thing? It’s just so… _unnecessary_. _BUUUUUUUUUUURRRRRRRRRRPPPPPPPPPP_ ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/23 "2011-12-27T20:08:49Z")
Ethnocentrist. ---
**Author:** ![Mewl\_Dear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Mewl\_Dear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mewl_Dear)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/24 "2011-12-27T20:10:04Z")
I drink beer. I burb. I dont brag about them. I say excuse me. If you dont like it you are welcome to leave. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/25 "2011-12-27T20:12:37Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > Uh. I live on the other side of the country and see my mother- who is a GREAT mother and gave a lot to raise me and support me- once a year. I don’t think I’m going to pass up the rare occasional when I get to see my family because my mom’s boyfriend is gassy. And frankly i wouldn’t care if this guy spewed vomit all over the house uncontrollably. My mother is happy, he’s great for her, and that is amazing. Then why did you start the fucking thread? ---
**Author:** ![saoirse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/26 "2011-12-27T20:27:55Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > Then why did you start the fucking thread? To complain? Why else? I don’t see any request for ad BRAAAAAAP vice. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/27 "2011-12-27T20:29:52Z")
> [@saoirse](#): > > To complain? Why else? I don’t see any request for ad BRAAAAAAP vice. But then she says that it doesn’t bother her, and it wouldn’t even bother her if he was vomiting uncontrollably all over the place. I figured it being in the pit meant that it bothered her. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/28 "2011-12-27T20:35:12Z")
> [@Mewl\_Dear](#): > > I drink beer. I burb. I drink beer. I drink beer every day. I do not burp. Just saying. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/29 "2011-12-27T20:50:42Z")
> [@Mewl\_Dear](#): > > I drink beer. I burb. > [@kayaker](#): > > I drink beer. I drink beer every day. I do not burp. Just saying. No one cares if you burp or not. The question of the day is, “When you drink beer do you burb?” I know I like a good burb. Especially right after sex. ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/30 "2011-12-27T21:26:28Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > But then she says that it doesn’t bother her, and it wouldn’t even bother her if he was vomiting uncontrollably all over the place. I figured it being in the pit meant that it bothered her. No, that isn’t what she said. It’s pretty clear that the burping bothers her. It just isnt bothersome enough for her to take the counterproductive drama-queen route that you suggested. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/31 "2011-12-27T22:05:25Z")
> [@Labrador\_Deceiver](#): > > No, that isn’t what she said. It’s pretty clear that the burping bothers her. It just isnt bothersome enough for her to take the counterproductive drama-queen route that you suggested. Ha, yeah, because, “I’m sorry, but I don’t care to hang out with people that act like that” is sooo drama-queeny. Soap opera-worthy, even! ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/32 "2011-12-27T22:09:00Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > Ha, yeah, because, “I’m sorry, but I don’t care to hang out with people that act like that” is sooo drama-queeny. Soap opera-worthy, even! It’s pretty dramatic to announce that you’re canceling the one visit per year you have with a parent because their partner burps too much, yeah. Actually, that’s fairly dramatic no matter what the cause. On topic, I have a family member who did this. After putting up with it for entirely too long (he was staying at our house at the time) I finally told him it was really on my nerves and would love it if he could dial it back a bit. He was genuinely surprised and said he hadn’t realized how much he was doing it. (He was doing it A LOT.) So anyway, it might be worth saying something. Otherwise, earplugs? ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/33 "2011-12-27T22:09:34Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > Ha, yeah, because, “I’m sorry, but I don’t care to hang out with people that act like that” is sooo drama-queeny. Soap opera-worthy, even! Pretty much, yes. Cutting someone you love dearly out of your life because her boyfriend burps is the definition of drama queen behavior. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/34 "2011-12-27T22:13:44Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Sorry, **sven** , but you’re the oddball here, if everyone else who lives there does it and is enjoying it. My husband and I are perfectly nice people, but we burp and fart all the time at home (it’s a good thing we found each other). If you can’t burp and fart to your heart (and digestive system’s) content at home, where can you do it? How about some manners when company is over? Being at home is not a license to act impolitely when you have guests. I’d even argue that one needs to be polite to one’s spouse and family, but mileage varies on what that entails. Then again, I just read where the OP, despite complaining about this, now wouldn’t care if this man vomited uncontrollably\*. So color me confused. Why not just mention it to him and tell him (politely) to knock it (the burping) off? \*I wouldn’t “care”, either. Uncontrolled vomiting is a sign of illness and the person can’t help it. I’d help the person. Burping + commentary = boorish behavior when in polite company aka having guest(s) over. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/35 "2011-12-27T22:13:48Z")
> [@Labrador\_Deceiver](#): > > Pretty much, yes. Cutting someone you love dearly out of your life because her boyfriend burps is the definition of drama queen behavior. Oh, okay. Thanks for the update. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/36 "2011-12-27T22:25:23Z")
> [@lieu](#): > > Clearly, this man needs to work as the caller at the Bingo Parlor. OK, that’s funny right there. Sorry you’ve found this annoying, **even sven**. Could be worse: you could be having to bail him out of prison. ---
**Author:** ![JSexton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/96bed5/32.png) [@JSexton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JSexton)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/37 "2011-12-27T23:20:20Z")
> [@Labrador\_Deceiver](#): > > Pretty much, yes. Cutting someone you love dearly out of your life because her boyfriend burps is the definition of drama queen behavior. Agreed. Whatever happened to politely telling people about behavior that bothers you? To him, burping is a habit, and one that he doesn’t find gross. If you don’t tell him, how is he supposed to know that it bothers you? Everyone has different standards. ---
**Author:** ![Terr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/839c29/32.png) [@Terr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Terr)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/38 "2011-12-27T23:37:31Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > That’s an old cliché that’s been repeated for years. And it’s always in the form of “in some cultures, it’s considered a compliment to burp after/during a meal.” :dubious: > > Oh really? And what cultures might these be? > **[Burping and slurping: All the stuff you can do in China that you can't do...](https://gadling.com/2009/11/13/burping-and-slurping-all-the-stuff-you-can-do-in-china-that-you/)** > > It doesn’t take long for me to adjust to the manners of China – the spitting, the ear-cleaning, the belching. While some folks are aghast at the bodily -function decibels reached (and indeed, the Chinese government is trying to curb some of the... ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2011, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/39 "2011-12-27T23:55:38Z")
I understand being annoyed and grossed-out. I’ve known my mother for 34 years now, and I’m just discovering that she eats with her mouth open. It’s horrible. I wanna scream at her, “What the hell?! Were you raised in a barn or something? Goodness!” But she’s happy. Maybe a year or two years or five years from now, she will not be. And at that time I will think to myself, “Why would I have let THAT get under my skin?” So I just gotta accept that this is MY problem, not hers, and try not to think about it. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2011, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549/40 "2011-12-28T01:26:11Z")
> [@MsWhatsit](#): > > It’s pretty dramatic to announce that you’re canceling the one visit per year you have with a parent because their partner burps too much, yeah. Actually, that’s fairly dramatic no matter what the cause. > > On topic, I have a family member who did this. After putting up with it for entirely too long (he was staying at our house at the time) I finally told him it was really on my nerves and would love it if he could dial it back a bit. He was genuinely surprised and said he hadn’t realized how much he was doing it. (He was doing it A LOT.) > > So anyway, it might be worth saying something. Otherwise, earplugs? It may be dramatic as well, but I would probably keep making the visits but stay in a hotel or something. It would truly bother me to have to listen to both the nonstop burping and the running commentary about the burping. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/family-can-we-cool-it-with-the-burping/607549.md?page=3)