# Fat guys with satisfying sex lives, post here! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 12, 2001, 10:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700 "2001-04-12T10:20:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Frumious\_Bandersnatch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Frumious\_Bandersnatch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frumious_Bandersnatch)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2001, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/21 "2001-04-12T22:43:25Z")
I’m sooooo sexy… I spent half my adult life being skinny, half being obese. Skinny FB had no self confidence, Fat FB is nearly overloaded with it. I like myself better now. I don’t “carry it well”. My self confidence assured me of satisfying relationships in spite of my size. I spend a lot of time away from home, but Mrs. Bandersnatch makes sure I’ll always remember where home is. Our sex life is truly extraordinary. I’ll spare you the visual of 550 pounds frolicking on a queen sized bed. Oops. Sorry. FB ::sadly missing his long sig:: ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2001, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/22 "2001-04-12T23:24:20Z")
**Drachillix** is 6’ and 303, and I can’t believe the women who have passed him up, especially the ones who have actually spent the night with him. Damn. He is way smart,witty, sweet and talented. His hobbies are varied and interesting, he is a hard worker and an excellent friend. He moves around with confidence and I feel too lucky to have hooked up with him. He’s worked at making himself attractive, personality and material-wise, but I have dated buff and beautiful men, well-to-do men, wild and crazy fun men, and he has so got it all over them. He totally rocks my world. I love having sex with him, making love, hot monkey stuff, everything. I feel like writing thank-you notes to those silly girls who let him get away, because \*I’ve \*snagged him and I am so proud of myself! ---
**Author:** ![cher3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cher3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cher3)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2001, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/23 "2001-04-12T23:56:39Z")
We have a friend who has been quite overweight since childhood. Over the past few years he was getting progressively more sad at his lack of female companionship–lots of friends, but nothing ever blossomed into a romance and, yes, it was at least partly because of his appearance. However, as they say, there is someone for everyone. He met woman who shared his passion for war games, if you can believe it. (The old-fashioned, insanely complicated kinds that come in a box.) They’re getting married next month and have suggested contributions toward a new bed as a possible wedding gift. ---
**Author:** ![Billy\_Rubin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/billy_rubin/32/3622_2.png) [@Billy\_Rubin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Billy_Rubin)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2001, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/24 "2001-04-13T03:44:30Z")
I have my own gravitational force. The post office will be assigning me the first self-motivated zip code in the history of the U.S. postal service. Well, actually I’m 6’2" and about 340. On my way back down, to something more practical, hopefully around 200. How? by being in pain and starving myself to death. It’s pretty much all that works. Is sex better when I don’t have to lift up my belly to get at my equipment? hell yes. Is it still possible to have really good sex? hell yes. Is it hard to find a partner if you don’t have one? Hell yes. But in my experience, all my lovers through the years have said, I’m a caring and considerate lover, and it’s probably because I feel any woman who would consent to conjugal relations with me deserves all the consideration I can give her. So be patient. Or lose weight, or don’t. It’s pretty hard, believe me, I know.but for everyone there is someone else… potentially several of them. Of course if you are huge, nasty looking, have bad hygeine and no overriding humor or intellectual values, you’re screwed. No woman (or man for that matter, I don’t want to leave out any of the seven sexes) is going to want to have anything to do with you if you have bad teeth, breath, body odor, dirty hair, dirty clothes, etc. My biggest sucesses have been with women I could make laugh. Good luck! b. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2001, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/25 "2001-04-13T04:20:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by salinqmind \* > \*\*Jeez, I was gonna suggest you female chubby chasers NOT encourage the fatsos. ( “I carry my weight well” - where, exactly? ) However - after visiting a junior high school lately and observing the young in a naturalized habitat, I have come to the conclusion fat guys are going to be everywhere in the near future. Way too many crew-cut, droopy-short, obese Bobby Hill types. Very few buff hunky Terry McGinniss types. I’d hate to be a young woman and have to pick from that herd. \*\* I’d hate to see any of my single male friends with you, shallow cockroach of a female. I’m 6’4" and because of a back problem that stops me from being as active as I was, I’ve gone to 280. My husband isn’t thrilled, but he loves me and we have sex multiweekly. The heart knows no bounds at times, and I’m damn grateful for it. ---
**Author:** ![Carina42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/439d5e/32.png) [@Carina42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carina42)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2001, 11:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/26 "2001-04-13T11:52:48Z")
I think y’all are being a bit hard on **salinqmind** , & I’ll leave it there. Having said that, I have several very overweight friends. I think, as others have said, confidence & attitude is the key. Unfortunately, fatness is equated with sexual unattractiveness here, & some of my fat friends have lost confidence because of this, and do not feel or act attractive. Which is a shame, because they are fabulous, wonderful, sexy people. I am thinking of five people I know who feel unsexy because of their weight & have been celibate for a long time. (Two straight men, two straight women, one lesbian.) OTOH, I have three very overweight friends who have great sex lives. Two are married to each other, and one is a lesbian who is a serial monogamist, but she never stays single for long. 🙂 And though I am not currently doing so; yes I have had sex with fat men, and YES it was good. So there. ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2001, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/27 "2001-04-13T13:32:55Z")
> [@](#): > > Got you beat, astroboy. I’m 6’6", 385 pounds. _Note to self: Do NOT piss off **bdgr**!! Be nice! He is my friend!! I LOVE **bdgr**!!_ > [@](#): > > I’d much rather spend my time with a man who’s heavy that has spent time developing his mind and personality than a gym-god who spends his time watching himself flex. **Arden** , please watch and swoon as I flex my brain at you: uh… uh… _Damn!_ I can’t think of anything right now… but be assured that you WOULD have been greatly impressed, and in all likelyhood, would have thrown yourself at my feet and begged me to take you!😛 I ask you all to offer up prayers to the God of your choice for the continued health/safety of my bed! Sometimes it sounds as if it is moaning more than **Astrofiancee**!😃 Life is good. :smug smilie needed here: ---
**Author:** ![Arden\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b487fb/32.png) [@Arden\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arden_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2001, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/28 "2001-04-13T13:42:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Astroboy14 \* > \*\* > **Arden** , please watch and swoon as I flex my brain at you: uh… uh… _Damn!_ I can’t think of anything right now… but be assured that you WOULD have been greatly impressed, and in all likelyhood, would have thrown yourself at my feet and begged me to take you!😛 > > \*\* What makes you think I’m not? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Oicu812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f475e1/32.png) [@Oicu812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oicu812)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2001, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/29 "2001-04-13T14:38:43Z")
Wow. The perfect thread for me! I am 6’2", formerly 324 as of January 1st. Now at a (relatively svelte) 250 this morning. I met an INCREDIBLE woman recently at a local Irish Pub. It all happened because of the fact that I was reading a book on the patio, and could not help but overhear her conversation with two of her friends! This lady is extremely quick witted, and I found myself chuckling and occasionally laughing out loud. She noticed me laughing, and came over to my table to ask what I was reading. It has since snowballed from that point. She is blonde (natural), blue eyed, intelligent and even more widely read than I am. She is a music teacher in piano for a local college, has her first album already out, and several of her original songs are being licensed or considered by major artists. Anyway, enough gushing. Let’s just say that there is ALWAYS hope for us large, economy sized gentlemen. And yes, since you ask, it is **INCREDIBLE!** ## O Canfyddais, choncrais, Daeth. ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2001, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/30 "2001-04-14T01:55:50Z")
Why are you people ragging on me? May I point out,as a group, fat women are the most reviled creatures on the face of the earth. That’s why a lot of women suffer and starve to get thin, thin, thin, because that’s what most men want. Men don’t put themselves through torture to be thin because they feel they are just fine the way they are! Why is that? So if you’re a fat woman you can be mocked and shunned by men, but if you’re fat and have a dick it’s not supposed to matter to women in the slightest? Why? I’m talking sexual attraction only, not how kind, considerate, and nice you are. And I mean it when I say I’ve never seen so many fat kids around, there have been headlines in the newspaper about them. ---
**Author:** ![Billy\_Rubin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/billy_rubin/32/3622_2.png) [@Billy\_Rubin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Billy_Rubin)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2001, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/31 "2001-04-14T02:27:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*\* May I point out,as a group, fat women are the most reviled creatures on the face of the earth.\*\* I’d like to take a moment to personally apologise for myself and for all the fellow posters who spent so much time reviling women. Oh, wait, I’ve never reviled a woman in my life for being fat, or for that matter, for anything, until, possibly, now. > [@](#): > > \*\*That’s why a lot of women suffer and starve to get thin, thin, thin, because that’s what most men want. \*\* You mean the WOMEN’S fashion industry, which promotes anorexia? If you yourself have issues deal with them. Don’t blame them on the posters here. > [@](#): > > \*\*Men don’t put themselves through torture to be thin because they feel they are just fine the way they are! > Why is that? \*\* Oh, perhaps because we’re too busy LIVING OUR LIVES to worry about what size we should be? Maybe we have learned there are more important things in life than how we look in a pair of BVD’s. And maybe we’ve also learned that a woman who can’t or won’t accept us with all OUR faults has FAR too many of her own to deserve consideration. > [@](#): > > **So if you’re a fat woman you can be mocked and shunned by men, but if you’re fat and have a dick it’s not supposed to matter to women in the slightest? Why? I’m talking sexual attraction only, not how kind, considerate, and nice you are.** A woman who is mocked or shunned by men hasn’t met the right men. Period. There are as many worthless women as there are men, in my personal experience. Look everyone has their faults and problems. I have a bushel basket of them myself. Judging people by their appearance, however, has never been one of them. The internet is a powerful tool for that; you can be inconsiderate and intolerant of people without having the benefit of meeting them in person. b. ---
**Author:** ![Arden\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b487fb/32.png) [@Arden\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arden_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2001, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/32 "2001-04-14T02:44:48Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by salinqmind \* > \*\* Why are you people ragging on me? May I point out,as a group, fat women are the most reviled creatures on the face of the earth._\* We are? Gosh. I wonder how to explain that I have never in my adult life lacked male companionship. The key word being **adult**. In **adult** relationships it’s the _person_ not the facade that matters. I don’t play in shallow waters and I don’t play with people who do. ---
**Author:** ![imthjckaz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/imthjckaz/32/3223_2.png) [@imthjckaz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/imthjckaz)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2001, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/33 "2001-04-14T03:00:06Z")
When **Spider Woman** looked to see what thead I was reading, she said “Your not going to post to that are you?” I replied “Why not?” Spider-“Your not fat.” The Woman is a saint. Our sex life is satisfying, not because of what we look like, but because of how we feel about each other. **tclouie** , to address your op, I do think, sadly, there is somewhat of a correlation bewteen sex and weight, some people just can’t get beyond appearances. However, that special woman is out there for you, it is your task to find her and live up to the Bubba code: Always be nice to women and they will see just how great a guy you are. ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2001, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/34 "2001-04-14T04:09:44Z")
I’m one of the fat women who are apparently soooooo reviled. I’d also like to point out that there are men out there who find me attractive to the point where they _gasp_ actually _want_ to have sex with me. :eek: Of course, I’m not a life-support system for a vagina, and a real man understands that. Just as a man isn’t a life-support system for a penis, which real women understand. To be completely fair, however, the first MrRobyn looked like he was nine months pregnant, and I found him sexy as hell. (He was 5’6" and 280-300 or so.) Robin ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2001, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/35 "2001-04-14T04:39:26Z")
Why is it all right to revile fat women but not do it to fat men? The answer is because it is **not** all right to revile fat women. I think **salinqmind** was quite eloquent when she spoke of the terrible things that happen to women when they don’t meet societal standards for the perfect woman. What she seems to be lacking is a little empathy. ---
**Author:** ![tclouie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/838e76/32.png) [@tclouie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tclouie)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2001, 11:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/36 "2001-04-14T11:57:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by salinqmind \* > \*\* May I point out,as a group, fat women are the most reviled creatures on the face of the earth. That’s why a lot of women suffer and starve to get thin, thin, thin, because that’s what most men want. \*\* 😉 I would like to have sex with fat women. Or any women, for that matter. Just not one who’s too skinny and waif-like. I would crush her into a pancake. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Zero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c4cdca/32.png) [@Saint\_Zero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Zero)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2001, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/37 "2001-04-14T14:13:58Z")
No, it’s not alright to revile **ANYONE** because of their weight. Not women, not men, not kids, not aliens… But then, I like Arden’s comment. There’s a lot of shallow water around. ---
**Author:** ![bdgr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a87d85/32.png) [@bdgr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bdgr)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2001, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/38 "2001-04-15T03:33:02Z")
[quote] > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Astroboy14 \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > Got you beat, astroboy. I’m 6’6", 385 pounds. > > _Note to self: Do NOT piss off **bdgr**!! Be nice! He is my friend!! I LOVE **bdgr**!!_ \*\* I’m pretty hard to piss off…I love you too Astroboy > [@](#): > > \*\* > I ask you all to offer up prayers to the God of your choice for the continued health/safety of my bed! Sometimes it sounds as if it is moaning more than **Astrofiancee**!😃 > > Life is good. :smug smilie needed here: > \*\* I wound up going with a california king water bed, after killing every conventional be I had. Problem is, until MRS Bdgr gets in, I sink to the bottom. She’s just a little 5’3" Hippie chick, but its just enough weight… ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2001, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/39 "2001-04-15T07:43:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Biggirl \* > **Why is it all right to revile fat women but not do it to fat men?** Funny how nobody said that it _was_ ok, except for salinqmind after being called out for his/her own bigotry against fat men. If salinqmind had said what (s)he said about fat men about fat women, nobody would be defending his/her right to say it. Aaaah, gotta love double standards… ---
**Author:** ![JamesCarroll](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5daacb/32.png) [@JamesCarroll](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JamesCarroll)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2001, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700/40 "2001-04-15T08:13:07Z")
While the rest of you are congratulating yourself for being and/or loving an overweight person I will answer the real OP. Yes, you can go to a hooker and not be ashamed. They’re like doctors; no matter how bad you are, they’ve seen worse. Trust me at 6’2" 350 pounds (I make $100K plus,own my own home, have 3 401k’s, including two for ‘baby1’ and ‘baby2’ to pay for college, and am a f\*cking barrel of laughs, so don’t feed me the ‘nice guy’ line) I’m not exactly beating them off with a stick. But for $150 I am treated like a king. And I don’t hafta listen to “how her day was”. Trust me, that’s really what you’re paying for. Married guys get sex, but ‘they’ stay around. Sh!t, I’ll do my own laundry and dishes. Think about it. You spend a day or two lamenting your lack of female companionship. But a quick visit from “Rosie” and I’ll bet you the idea of a woman in your life is about as apealing as a spoonful of rancid milk. The key is to find someplace safe and clean. Look in your Yellow Pages for ‘Escorts’ first, but they tend to do “outcalls”, which means they come to your place (wrap that rascal!!!). Another choice is a massage parlor. You can tell instantly when you walk in if its a massage parlor or a “massage parlor”. If she asks what you want say “Everything”; don’t say anything specific. She’ll know what to do. Always “wrap that rascal”, of course. Its cheaper than dating/getting married. And as my therapist says " A whole hella lot cheaper than getting divorced". If you are anywhere near the east coast (esp. Philly) drop me a line at [jamesdcarroll@hotmail.com](mailto:jamesdcarroll@hotmail.com) and I will hook you up. You will be impressed… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fat-guys-with-satisfying-sex-lives-post-here/61700.md?page=3)