# Father/Daughter Purity Ball - Jesus Goes on Hiatus **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 18, 2006, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/father-daughter-purity-ball-jesus-goes-on-hiatus/353220 "2006-04-18T21:57:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![CRich](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CRich](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CRich)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2006, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/father-daughter-purity-ball-jesus-goes-on-hiatus/353220/121 "2006-04-21T18:23:55Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > Yep, that’s it exactly. As others have said, this is generally _not_ for the benefit of the children (particularly the very young). It’s play-acting in a new cultural/social ritual. Of course, there is potentially a lot to be said for ritual, even if the meaning is lost on those who are performing it. The implications of this one, however, are just… putting a child’s sex on parade is just upsetting, and I’m a little surprised that this isn’t aparent to those participating. The fascination with the state of young women/girls’ virginity to the extent of ritualizing an event around it is _very_ sexual, and the event becomes a thinly veiled celebration of fertility and male-dominated sexual/power roles. > > It’s nice to know that even those who find it sinful in most circumstances can’t break away from their obsession with sex. This is a party about sex, not staying free of sin. And that’s the thing–this isn’t a celebration of their daughter’s high moral values, this doesn’t celebrate morality in general, but morality only as it pertains to sexuality. We’re not having fancy dress parties to laud our daughters’ commitments to feeding the hungry, clothing the naked or comforting the sick–we’re celebrating Virginity with a capital V. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2006, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/father-daughter-purity-ball-jesus-goes-on-hiatus/353220/122 "2006-04-21T18:30:27Z")
It’s a step removed from brandishing the bloody sheets after the wedding night. ---
**Author:** ![Archergal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c89c15/32.png) [@Archergal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Archergal)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2006, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/father-daughter-purity-ball-jesus-goes-on-hiatus/353220/123 "2006-04-21T18:35:35Z")
> [@CRich](#): > > And that’s the thing–this isn’t a celebration of their daughter’s high moral values, this doesn’t celebrate morality in general, but morality only as it pertains to sexuality. We’re not having fancy dress parties to laud our daughters’ commitments to feeding the hungry, clothing the naked or comforting the sick–we’re celebrating Virginity with a capital V. You know, if we were all part of a primitive tribal society, I could see this kind of thing celebrated, along with vision quests and male circumcision at age 12, etc. But hello – 21st century. Jeezopete. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2006, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/father-daughter-purity-ball-jesus-goes-on-hiatus/353220/124 "2006-04-21T19:02:41Z")
> [@Diogenes the Cynic](#): > > It’s a step removed from brandishing the bloody sheets after the wedding night. I honestly would not be surprised if some of their fathers did this after the wedding. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/father-daughter-purity-ball-jesus-goes-on-hiatus/353220.md?page=6)