# Feeling like an outsider v. feeling like you belong

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [December 27, 2017, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feeling-like-an-outsider-v-feeling-like-you-belong/805426 "2017-12-27T23:25:04Z")\
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**Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feeling-like-an-outsider-v-feeling-like-you-belong/805426/61 "2018-01-04T21:48:53Z")

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I suprised myself by realizing that I feel like I belong both at home and at work. Okay, the ‘at home’ thing isn’t impressive because I live alone, but I slot in neatly at work and pretty much always have. This is probably because I _do_ belong at work - they pay me to be there, and the thing they pay me to do is what I belong doing. If any discussions start happening which I would be outsider to, I just don’t join in.

I don’t feel like I belong at my parents house anymore, but I did when I lived there. Or more specifically, I had a bedroom that was my own space and I belonged there, and I belonged at my space at the dinner table, and my coat had a hook it belonged on, and so on. My space was mine.

That’s about it, though. I don’t feel like I belong anyplace I merely visit, even if I’m invited and am friends with everyone there. And if course it’s worse if I’m _not_ friends with everyone there.

And of course I don’t belong here or on any other internet forum. Though to be fair, I barely feel like I’m “here” at all.

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