# Female bisexuality being so fashionable... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 12, 2005, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939 "2005-10-12T19:11:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Hung\_Mung](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@Hung\_Mung](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hung_Mung)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/21 "2005-10-12T23:29:39Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > Because, dude! It’s hot! 😉 > > Seriously though (and speaking as a college student. . . lots of “bisexual girls” are around), I think it is because most (not all! don’t hurt me!) of the younger girls do it because it gets them attention. > > The boys aren’t looking at you? Grab a friend and start making out. If that doesn’t work, rub on her boobs! Plenty of guys will flock and talk about how “Awesome” and “hot” you are. > > I, like a good chunk of the female population, can find other females quite attractive. Sure, making out with a girl would be fun, but I am not going to do it at a party or something just to get attention. That’s silly and really, really annoying. > > (And now you know reason 9,124,453 that Angelique does not go to college parties). I don’t know what college parties you haven’t been attending, but I never once saw girls making out. Sure, there were boobies occasionally (to my embarrassment several times they belonged to my girlfriend), but no girl-on-girl. Maybe I should’ve gone to school in So-Cal. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/22 "2005-10-12T23:32:50Z")
> [@GrahamWellington](#): > > … then we’ll all just be a bunch of sexual jellyfish losing site of Mother Nature’s plan … . Yeah, and what’s Mother Nature’s Plan? How did you find out her plan? Please show your work. ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/23 "2005-10-12T23:35:20Z")
> [@GrahamWellington](#): > > I’m a red-blooded American male and I get chills thinking that if Stern and a lot of these other high-profile talking heads keep it up … then we’ll all just be a bunch of sexual jellyfish losing site of Mother Nature’s plan… **Graham, Graham, Graham**. I barely know where to start crticising this post. Whatever are we going to do with you? ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/24 "2005-10-12T23:52:14Z")
> [@Case Sensitive](#): > > There’s also the phenomenon of the LUG {Lesbian Until Graduation}: an, ahem, large percentage of the women I knew at university who publically - and often vociferously - identified as gay or bi mysteriously straightened out when job time rolled around. Not saying that’s true of all lesbian or bi women, of course, but I think for a lot of girls at college the attraction was in doing something rebellious and forbidden, like getting a tattoo or a eyebrow ring. I don’t deny the phenomenon exists but it could also be attributed to someone being bi but much more into the opposite sex. I’m a guy and identify as bi and would have no problem being as physically intimate with a man as a woman but when it comes down to life-partnering, I want it to be with a woman. Men are just an interesting diversion to me but that doesn’t make me any less bi. ---
**Author:** ![Randi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/50afbb/32.png) [@Randi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Randi)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/25 "2005-10-12T23:52:30Z")
It may just be my spin on the whole thing but didn’t the girl on girl action really become popular after the Brittany Spears/Madonna kiss. It got all kinds of attention from the guys, and now all the girls want to be hot in the eyes of the boys. From what I have seen in my neck of the woods this is more accepted in the 35 year and under age range for females. It doesn’t appear so much that they are bi, but that they do it to impress the males who popularily state that it is hot. Even the men that are older than this age range claim to find it appealing. But when my curiosity presses me to ask and find out more, most men I have talked to state they would not really want their female partners to be with another woman. ---
**Author:** ![GrahamWellington](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/54ee81/32.png) [@GrahamWellington](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrahamWellington)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2005, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/26 "2005-10-12T23:58:30Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Yeah, and what’s Mother Nature’s Plan? How did you find out her plan? Please show your work. I have penis, therefore I am. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Ass\_For\_A\_Hat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ec9cab/32.png) [@Ass\_For\_A\_Hat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ass_For_A_Hat)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/27 "2005-10-13T00:42:47Z")
> [@GrahamWellington](#): > > My philosophy is live and let live. But I’ll add that I really don’t like it that this whole bi-woman thing has gotten so much momentum the way it has over the past, oh, I don’t know, 15-years? > > I’m a red-blooded American male and I get chills thinking that if Stern and a lot of these other high-profile talking heads keep it up … then we’ll all just be a bunch of sexual jellyfish losing site of Mother Nature’s plan … and I’ll end up beached somewhere with just me and my hard-on, whilst all the ladies are somewhere else licking on each other and not giving a damn about my desperate situation. > > I CAN’T GO BI OR GAY. I JUST CAN’T. 😛 You’ve almost got a pretty offensive post there. Too bad it makes almost no sense at all. Perhaps you’d like to take another shot at it? While you’re doing that, please be sure to clarify who it is exactly that’s asking you to go bi or gay. ---
**Author:** ![Sengkelat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Sengkelat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sengkelat)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/28 "2005-10-13T01:58:14Z")
> [@GrahamWellington](#): > > I’m a red-blooded American male and I get chills thinking that if Stern and a lot of these other high-profile talking heads keep it up … then we’ll all just be a bunch of sexual jellyfish losing site of Mother Nature’s plan … and I’ll end up beached somewhere with just me and my hard-on, whilst all the ladies are somewhere else licking on each other and not giving a damn about my desperate situation. You poor poor man. I feel such, uh, sympathy for you. But fear not, the trend you mention is towards bisexual women. **Bi** sexual. Now, if all women were to become lesbians, that might present some difficulty. But if they’re all bi, it means they’re still attracted to men, so it’s not exactly a problem. If you have any other concerns that are based entirely on a misunderstanding of prefixes, feel free to ask! ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/29 "2005-10-13T02:18:02Z")
I strongly suspect it’s because many people, both male and female, fall somewhere in the ‘bi’ spectrum, but it’s much easier for women to try it out without changing their identity in some way. It’s just more socially acceptable for women to make out than men. ---
**Author:** ![BuckyDoneGun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b782af/32.png) [@BuckyDoneGun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BuckyDoneGun)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/30 "2005-10-13T02:22:44Z")
> [@](#): > > I’m a red-blooded American male and I get chills thinking that if Stern and a lot of these other high-profile talking heads keep it up … then we’ll all just be a bunch of sexual jellyfish losing site of Mother Nature’s plan … and I’ll end up beached somewhere with just me and my hard-on, whilst all the ladies are somewhere else licking on each other and not giving a damn about my desperate situation. > > I CAN’T GO BI OR GAY. I JUST CAN’T. I really, really hope the smiley means that this is laden with sarcasm. ---
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/31 "2005-10-13T04:04:43Z")
I dated a Lebanese girl once. She said it was not a common as people say. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/32 "2005-10-13T05:12:59Z")
> [@GrahamWellington](#): > > I CAN’T GO BI OR GAY. I JUST CAN’T. 😛 So who’s asking you to? ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/33 "2005-10-13T05:19:15Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > So who’s asking you to? He’s seen a copy of The Gay Agenda. All is lost! ---
**Author:** ![roger\_thornhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d9b06d/32.png) [@roger\_thornhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roger_thornhill)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/34 "2005-10-13T08:13:02Z")
> [@Anastasaeon](#): > > Born bi, married straight female, here. Are you saying your sexuality has changed somewhere along the line? ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 8:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/35 "2005-10-13T08:40:58Z")
> [@roger thornhill](#): > > Are you saying your sexuality has changed somewhere along the line? Nope, I’m saying I am a bisexual girl, however, I ended up marrying a man. If anything were to happen to our marriage, I would still be bisexual, and would date women as well as men. Some people don’t “get” that a person can be bisexual, but can settle down and marry if they find someone they truly love (and _want_ to settle down). I just happened to fall in love with a man. We will make babies. Had I partnered up with a woman, I would have wanted to adopt children. This doesn’t make sense to some people, so I always say, “I was born bisexual, but I married into a straight relationship”. Sorry if that was unclear. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/36 "2005-10-13T08:43:15Z")
> [@GrahamWellington](#): > > I have penis, therefore I am. 🙂 Not quite, but very, VERY close. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/37 "2005-10-13T13:36:58Z")
How about _Coito, ergo sum_? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/38 "2005-10-13T15:02:34Z")
> [@Anastasaeon](#): > > Some people don’t “get” that a person can be bisexual, but can settle down and marry if they find someone they truly love (and _want_ to settle down). My former best friend – a lesbian – had trouble with this. I tried to explain that being bisexual doesn’t mean being incapable of monogomy: she wouldn’t cheat on her girlfriend with another woman just because she’s a lesbian, and neither would a bisexual necessarily cheat on his/her SO – with either sex – just because they’re potentially attracted to everyone. I think using her own relationship as an analogy helped, but I still don’t think she really “got” it. Sometimes it was really frustrating to be the more open-minded one… 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/39 "2005-10-13T20:43:12Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > How about _Coito, ergo sum_? 😃 Heh heh. Nice one. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2005, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939/40 "2005-10-13T22:15:48Z")
> [@Randi](#): > > It may just be my spin on the whole thing but didn’t the girl on girl action really become popular after the Brittany Spears/Madonna kiss. It got all kinds of attention from the guys, and now all the girls want to be hot in the eyes of the boys. No, it’s been around a hell of a lot longer than that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-bisexuality-being-so-fashionable/325939.md?page=3)