# Female Dopers: How Do You Masturbate? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 20, 2002, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769 "2002-08-20T18:37:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/soul_brother_number_two/32/3515_2.png) [@Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soul_Brother_Number_Two)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/1 "2002-08-20T18:37:32Z")
For the purpose of eradicating ignorance (mine), I have a few questions it would be very kind of you to answer. Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy? Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden? Do you use toys, or just your fingers? How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day? Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing? If you don’t masturbate, please share that as well, if you wish to. Thanking you. ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/2 "2002-08-20T20:39:01Z")
Hmm. I’ll bite, what the hell. 1. Either, a combo, or some other stimulation. 2. Bed, bath, & beyond! 😉 3. Fingers or a vibrator. 4. Depends. Sometimes a couple times a day, sometimes twice a week. Averages out to once a day, usually. And no, it doesn’t interefere with having intercourse the same day. 5. These days, I’m without a partner more often than with. However, it’s been a part of my sex life. ---
**Author:** ![Belrix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed655f/32.png) [@Belrix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Belrix)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/3 "2002-08-20T21:47:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cosmopolitan \* > **Hmm. I’ll bite, what the hell.** You must be very flexible. ---
**Author:** ![Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/soul_brother_number_two/32/3515_2.png) [@Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soul_Brother_Number_Two)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/4 "2002-08-20T22:25:44Z")
Thanks, Cosmo. Maybe I should add that the reason I’m asking is not prurience (mostly). My wife doesn’t masturbate, never has, and states she has zero desire to do it. I wanted to see how that would gibe with the Doper experience. ---
**Author:** ![LolaCocaCola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7cd45c/32.png) [@LolaCocaCola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaCocaCola)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/5 "2002-08-20T22:38:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by essvee \* > **Thanks, Cosmo. Maybe I should add that the reason I’m asking is not prurience (mostly).** Well, in that case maybe you just should’ve asked **if** female dopers masturbate. The fact that you want details makes it hard not to imagine you with your pants around your ankles while you read this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Beadalin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3be4f8/32.png) [@Beadalin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beadalin)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/6 "2002-08-20T22:50:13Z")
> [@](#): > > My wife doesn’t masturbate, never has, and states she has zero desire to do it. To borrow from Chris Rock, they still _make_ women like that? ---
**Author:** ![Sivalensis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c4cdca/32.png) [@Sivalensis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sivalensis)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/7 "2002-08-20T23:03:14Z")
I’ve tried masturbating, and maybe it’s just that I’m not all that good at it yet, but it isn’t as interesting as my SO doing it for me. I prefer the intimacy with him than just pure physical sensation. That being said, if I actually tried it more often and got good at it, who knows, maybe I’d think differently. ---
**Author:** ![Jessity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c67d28/32.png) [@Jessity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jessity)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/8 "2002-08-20T23:10:24Z")
\*Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy? \* Sometimes one or the other, or both. Just depends on my mood. \*Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden? \* Eh, whatever. . . If the urge strikes and I’m in a safe place to do it, I do it. \*Do you use toys, or just your fingers? \* Sometimes toys, sometimes just fingers, sometimes both. \*How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day? \* Sometimes once a day, sometimes more - Again, just depends on my mood. I’d guess that it averages out to about once a day. If I had a partner, it would not affect when/how often we had intercourse. \*Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing? \* It would probably be part of my shared sex life if I had a partner. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by LolaCocaCola_ > Well, in that case maybe you just should’ve asked **if** female dopers masturbate. The fact that you want details makes it hard not to imagine you with your pants around your ankles while you read this thread. I’m not sure if you mean this to sound as inflammatory as it does to me, but I don’t personally think he’s asking for _details_ in the sense that you seem to be saying he is. It’s not like he asked for people to write a description of the act or anything. ---
**Author:** ![LolaCocaCola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7cd45c/32.png) [@LolaCocaCola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaCocaCola)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/9 "2002-08-20T23:25:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Jessica2 \* > \*\*I’m not sure if you mean this to sound as inflammatory as it does to me, but I don’t personally think he’s asking for _details_ in the sense that you seem to be saying he is. It’s not like he asked for people to write a description of the act or anything. \*\* Hey, _he’s_ the one who said the reason he was asking was not prurience **mostly**. Interpret that how you will. ---
**Author:** ![Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/soul_brother_number_two/32/3515_2.png) [@Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soul_Brother_Number_Two)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/10 "2002-08-20T23:35:55Z")
lola, I can see, in retrospect, how you might feel that way. I guess I was after a sense of if a societal sense of shame was attached, more for women than men. Also, if there was a substantial difference between women’s habits and men’s habits. Men’s habits have been pretty thoroughly covered on this board; women’s habits less so. Beadalin, I know, huh? It doesn’t affect things in the sack; she claims she just doesn’t think about it unless I’m around to get invovled. ---
**Author:** ![Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/soul_brother_number_two/32/3515_2.png) [@Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soul_Brother_Number_Two)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/11 "2002-08-20T23:38:28Z")
Lola, I used prurience in an uneffective attempt to be witty. And ‘invovled’ is not a euphemism for getting it on. ---
**Author:** ![japatlgt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df705f/32.png) [@japatlgt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/japatlgt)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/12 "2002-08-21T00:58:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LolaCocaCola \* > \*\* > > Well, in that case maybe you just should’ve asked **if** female dopers masturbate. The fact that you want details makes it hard not to imagine you with your pants around your ankles while you read this thread. \*\* \ good one… ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/13 "2002-08-21T01:35:23Z")
**essvee** , I’ve always thought of you as a good, decent dude, based on your other posts … but in this thread, frankly, you come across as James Spader’s character in _Sex, Lies, and Videotape_. ---
**Author:** ![Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/soul_brother_number_two/32/3515_2.png) [@Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soul_Brother_Number_Two)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/14 "2002-08-21T04:40:10Z")
Jomo, I appreciate the feedback. I am a little surprised, considering the topics that have been explored here, that some folks think the topic is inappropriate, buy again, I can see how it might be viewed in that way. I wish to assure people that this is a subject I’ve been wondering about; I gave some of the context above; and it truly did not occur to me that some posters might think I was behaving voyeuristically. I mean, I’ve got the whole wide Web if I wanted to get off about women masturbating… Thanks to Cosmo, Siva, and Jessica for their answers. ---
**Author:** ![Violet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/ebca7d/32.png) [@Violet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Violet)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/15 "2002-08-21T04:55:51Z")
There’s actually a lot of literature on this subject. Just go to [Amazon.com](http://Amazon.com) and enter the word “masturbation.” You’ll probably get views from many women, clinicians, etc., through the books. I think some people change their habits and interests over time. Maybe the wife will… ---
**Author:** ![Triskadecamus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b19c9b/32.png) [@Triskadecamus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Triskadecamus)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 7:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/16 "2002-08-21T07:34:39Z")
Reading the title of the thread, then opening it, and then discovering that it is somehow unacceptably prurient seems to me to be a very odd sort of reaction. I opened it. It turned out fairly tame, and mildly informative. And I don’t have my pants down to my ankles. Of course, I am not wearing any pants. Woo Woo. Tris. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/17 "2002-08-21T16:04:30Z")
Oh for cripes sake, people, it’s not like we haven’t had about a thousand threads on the same or similar subjects, and yes, sometimes it is titillating, but so what? Nobody is being forced to share, and the query did come out of genuine curiosity. So: Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy? All of the above, what I require or desire at any particular time depends on my mood. Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden? Mostly in bed, but I’ve done it right here at my desk, or in the bathroom, or on the couch, or… Do you use toys, or just your fingers? Depends on how I’m feeling at the moment. I have a pretty good toy collection, but sometimes fingers are all I need. How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day? Not as often now that we are together all the time as when we were still long-distance, but every now and then the mood strikes. He really enjoys hearing about it, so that frequently inspires some action. Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing? Both. ---
**Author:** ![Judith\_Prietht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b19c9b/32.png) [@Judith\_Prietht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Judith_Prietht)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/18 "2002-08-21T16:32:24Z")
> [@](#): > > **Bed, Bath, Garden** The superstore for all your masturbation needs. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/19 "2002-08-21T16:49:47Z")
I do not. Your welcome. ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/124769/20 "2002-08-21T17:29:33Z")
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